I am getting very discouraged please help?

Question

I have been in school pt and now ft for the last eight years. I am 29 with 2 semsters to go unitl I have my college degree from a 4 year school majoring in sociology. I like school but recntly I have started procrastinating and getting behind, makeing bad grades. I don't have the time to devote to my studies b/c I am the single parent of three young kids and in a bad relationship. I have an offer for two really good job and I am scared if I take one I will quit school. I thought about taking a semster off, but you know the saying you'll never go back. I know I need the degree to stay off of public aid, sect 8, but I need a break. I think I am in love with the idea of achieving, but getting very discouraged. At the same time I need that degree for upward mobility my kids are depending on me. What can I do to get excited,motivated, and stop procratinting.

Answer 1

See if the job would help to pay for your way in to school. Please don't quite now look how far you have gotten. You are almost there. If you do quite like I did it is so hard to go back.

Answer 2

First of all First of all I admire you for getting this far with three kids. Let me tell you something as student I understand where you are coming from. One thing you have to know you are not alone. I feel that way too most of the time, I feel like school will never end but it will. Think about it you only have a two semesters to go, it will be waist of your time and effort if you quite now. My advice will be don’t stop keep going you will be happy you did after you are done. College degree is the most important thing to have, I know it is hard but I know you can do it. As far as your relationship goes if it is bad get out of it, you don’t need a bad relationship may be that is why you are getting discouraged. Try to stay positive and I know it is hard to have time for yourself with three kids but try to relax….take a bath, and once in a while get a massage it will help you relax and think positive. You also mentioned about a job offer, well if you think you can still work and finish your school you should take the job if not don’t. It is the best for you to finish your school then take a job in your filed there jobs in sociology I am pretty sure. If you don’t get a job in your major then you can take other well paying jobs there plenty as long as you have 4 year degree. I know you can do it keep up the good work and don’t ever give up. May god be with you!

Answer 3

I don't know if this will help but just knowing that you have hung in there this long is a blessing. Especially, with three kids already. Iwish I had your motivation. If I got that far I would keep going. Do it for your kids, but mostly do it for yourself. Don't be discourage be encourage. I'm rcheering for you. I wish I could go back to school. I'm 24, married, and expecting my first child. I had to sit out because I was displaced due to Hurricane Katrina. Then, when I tired to go back time didn't allow me to. Next, my classes were not available online. I'd give anyhting to have a degree under my belt. I 'm majoring in sociology also. I need all the help I can get. Anyways, Sometimes a break is good. Just remember that it's only temporary. As far as the relationship goes put it on the back burner. I don't know if your spiritual are not. But prayer is the key. Take a little time off and then give it all you got. You deserve it. When it's all over then you can get excited, and motivate yourself to do whatever. I beleive in you. Just don't overwhelm yourself. If I can help let me know...

Answer 4

That voice saying you need a break, making you procrastinate on course work and taking the focus off school and your children's future is the same voice that will keep you from succeeding at anything you do in your life. Challenge it!
2 semesters is a piece of cake for you and you know it!
You don't want to stop now because you could loose you cataloge rights and then end up having to take more classes to graduate with new requirements. Seriously.
If you stop so close to the finish you will drive yourself insane with the guilt from quitting.
Get it done now, use the university on site daycare, take out more in student loans and hire a babysitter for homework time during the last 2 semesters...anything.
Tell the jobs offered that you can work very part time for the next year because you have an obligation to fulfill. They will respect you for that.
Branch out and network with study groups.

Answer 5

Hi there,

I know how you feel....it took me 9 years to get my bachelor's degree. Whatever you do DO NOT QUIT SCHOOL! Don't even quit for a semester, just keep plowing all the way until the end. You can do it!!! Just think how proud of yourself you will be when you graduate! And nobody, nobody can take that degree away from you. Your kids are depending on you to provide for them, and you'll need a good job to do that. Also, if you graduate from college, the higher likelihood that your children will graduate.

Here's my advice for you:

1. Dump your boyfriend. You don't have time for a man, especially if the relationship is bad. Your kids are your first priority, followed by school. That's it - those two things take up all your time....you can't waste any on a bad relationship. Focus on school and your babies...that's it!

2. Don't take a new job. After you graduate, you can take all the new jobs you want. Once you have your degree, your will probably get more, even better, job offers than you're getting now.

3. Find someone reliable and trustworthy to help you with your kids until you finish school. Belong to a church? Ask someone at church to help out. Go to the student services desk and ask what resources they have. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

4. Talk to your teachers. Every one of your teachers should know you by name, and you should visit them in their office hourse. When they know you personally, they are more likely to give you help, give you special exceptions (like turning work in late), or give you a higher grade. Tell them how you're feeling and ask for their advice. They want you to succeed and they'll help you do your best. I'm sure they see this situation frequently and they'll have great advice to help you through it.

5. Take one day at a time. Don't think about how much longer you have to go, think about that you just have to get through this day. Smaller goals are more easily obtained. If you stay in school, by the time you're 30, your be a college grad! If you quit, you'll still turn 30, only you won't have graduated from college. Slow and steady progress....you can do it!

6. Pray!!!! Ask God for help. Ask your family, friends, church...anyone you know....ask for help. People want you to succeed and will help you in any way they can. Maybe it's cook you dinner, do your laundry, take the kids to a park, pack you a lunch..whatever it is, give others the opportunity to help you. Pray every morning and every night before bed. The Holy Spirit is powerful and will give you the strength you need!

You can do it!!! Hang in there!!! You'll be a college grad in no time and you and your kids will be SO proud of you!!!

Best of luck :-)

Answer 6

You stated " I need that degree for upward mobility. My kids are depending on me". That should be your motivation. I commend you for going to school and taking care of 3 young children. You may not realize it, but in the future you may be a role model for them or someone else whose discouraged or think they can't achieve their goals because of being a single parent. There are so many people I work with that started school and didn't finish and one of the things they say is 'I wish I stayed in school". You don't want to regret not finishing school. You have come to far.

As for the relationship, don't let this relationship discourage you from achieveing your goal(s). So many times, people tend to do things to keep others down that's trying to succeed and accomplish something. This may be the case in your relationship. If you are in a bad relationship either fix it or get out of it. Your kids do not need to see you involved in a bad relationship and you do not need the "extra" stress of a relationship with someone who's not supportive and not treating you right. Right now, focus on raising your kids, taking care of your responsibilities and yes, finishing school. You will be glad you did after 2 more semesters. Good Luck and Please stay in school.

Answer 7

If she used to be a well instructor then you definitely could no longer suppose scared or discouraged to invite her some thing or typically. Get a brand new instructor, nobody stated you'll be trained the Quran over night time or in a few months. Don't stop and InshaAllah you'll be a well instructor that may consultant her pupils the proper method. Keep your target in brain, Peace.

Answer 8

Do those two semesters! You've done the first six. You can do the last two. Do them quick and get it over.

This sounds immature I know, but it helps me get through a period of time I want to be over. Count how many days it would be before you get your degree. Make a chart, a box for each day, then check'em off day by day. Watching that silly little chart fill up will motivate you to get through it.

Save the chart when you're done. Five or ten years down the road - you'll treasure it.

Answer 9

Take the jobs, lose the bad relationship, keep your kids, go back to school part-time in a year or so after things cool down and you'll have that degree before you're 35 which is like when I lost my attention span.

Answer 10

Oh honey, don't do it!! You are still young. Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize! First, get rid of the bad relationship. He/she will only pull you down. He/she probably wants you to quit so you can spend more time waiting on him/her! (sorry if this sounds harsh) You can slow down with your schooling by taking less classes or taking classes on line ( I do). You do have time if you make time. It is a choice. I work a full time job and still manage to get my schooling done because I work on line when I want (can). Be a good example for your children and don't quit! If you can get a good job now, just think how what a much better job you can get when you finish school.

Answer 11

I will tell you from experience (I am also a single mother of three young children, "used to" be in a bad relationship while attending school and a full-time career at the same time) that your children matter most. What ever you can do to create a positive example for them you have to do. The first thing I would recommend is to remove yourself and your children from the bad relationship. This is not only a horrible site for the children, but also mentally taxing for you. I would suggest also to withdraw from your classes if it is not too late just to take a breather, but YOU HAVE TO GO BACK to school after the end of the semester. You are too close to throw in the towel. You need to gain a fresh outlook without all the unnecessary stress of a relationship, to be successful. You have to finish your degree to move on to bigger and better thing. Just remember, you ARE responsible for the children; they did not ask to be brought into the world, but you ARE NOT responsible for a loser who is not supportive of your goals and family and you need to drop him like a bad habit. I commend you for sticking through this stressful time, but you owe it to yourself and your children to carry on towards the positive light. If you need someone to vent to, you can email at [e-mail]. Just hang in there; I know you will do the right thing. :-)