Me and my boyfriend did it for the first time last night, I am 13 and he is a little older, I bled a little and it hurt as well, still hurts a bit today, how long before it will stop hurting
2006-08-01 12:02:31 · 28 answers · asked by rebecca_pntng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
13 dang tell ur momo
2006-08-01 12:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tite Chickaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I first had sex I was 15, my guy was 21, so I know where you're coming from, but at 13 I think you're a bit too young to be starting out on sex. You have to have your first smear tast done withing 6 months of having sex. Anyway I found - and so did my friends back then that we were a little sore for around 2 days, but if you're quite bad I would go to the family planning clinic where Doctors are available, teh school nurse or your family Doctor, by Law its confisdential, if you cant face thart you can always go to Casualty (A+E) I hope you used a condom, becasue he could have given you clamidea, or you may just have cystitus (a water infection) Next time use plenty of KY Jelly its a water based vaginal lubricant, never use OIL based lubricants such as baby oil or creams etc as that could aggravate inside you in your vagina plus the condom will 95% chance break. I bled for 24 hours after sex had a day break then had a full 7 day period even though my period wasnt actually due. Most my friends back then were like that (im 35 now!) plus im a mum of a 15 year old. Sex DOES hurt the first few times, especially with you being so young and your body still not being full grown. Also relaxing helps and relaxing yourself down there. If this problems persists ruling out the fact thatyou dont need any medical attention (hopefully you dont need sticthed inside you if hes been a bit too rough and torn you, especially if you werent lubricated enough), he could try widening you with his fingers, starting one at a time, using KY jelly while he does it, and taking a lot of time to do it. Remeber the pill will protects you from preganany but it wont protect you from HIV/Aids virus, and other sexually transmitted diseases, plus if you;re doing oral sex use a flavoured condom (available from chemists) or free from family planning clinics, especially youth birth control clinics they ususally aged between 11-21. If you engage is oral sex without using a condom - you CAN get the HIV/Aids virus plus the herpes infection. Also the family planning clinic has emergency contraception available (depending on your beliefs - if you want to take emergency contraception) and some clinics are open 7 days a week, your yellow pages should give you a list. If you were my daughter id make sure you knew all that you need to know in order to keep you safe. HAvent you got an older sister/auntie you can talk to? Trustworthy brother???
2006-08-01 19:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez....well it really depends on how well you heal naturally. There is no set average to how long people heal...it could be a few hours...could be a few days. A little pain medication would help you and if things persist you should contact your physician for advice. Ask for a referral to a GYN and get the damn HPV vaccine. I know this isn't part of the question but why at such a young age? That's just like SO so young. I just hope that you are using protection and what not, you aren't ready for little ones and you need to protect yourself from STD's. You can probably get free condoms from your school nurse or a center. They are not required by law to tell your guardians about what you are doing if you want to keep things secret. Just be safe and responsible okay?
2006-08-01 19:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy smokes 13. Now how old is this dude? I just have to say one thing. Love and sex are the 2 main causes of everything bad in the world...ironically love is what most live for. As far as I know the sweetest part of life is that without love and sex and that ONLY comes in childhood. If kids as young as 13 are already havin sex...I fear for the future. Y not just give it a few more years before u become sexually active...it makes life much easier. PLus u DON'T wanna have a child in highschool..and yes accidents happen. Holy crap look at me...in still a teen for 5 days and i sound like a fuckin adult.
2006-08-01 19:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by FlamingBananasplit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The physical hurt will disappear within a few days but i can assure you the emotional hurt will live with you until you can come to terms with it. You are far too young to be having sexual relationships. WAIT until you are emotianally ready and then you will know what sex is all about. It is something special but at your age you will not realise this You will come to experience one of the most pleasurable things in your life with the right person
2006-08-01 19:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by cazzcull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 13? wow that may be some of the reason why your hurting your to young your body is not quite ready for that. and its normal to bleed the first time you have intercourse maybe for a few days or so. depends upon how big he is he may of hurt you if id doesn't stop in a few days id go see a gynecologist.
2006-08-01 19:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by karmen0085 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. How big he is and how hard it was. be very careful since you're so young. Talk to your mother about going and getting a shot to help prevent HPV virus. It will stop huritng after a while, I promise. The more you do the less it will hurt. But please go to your mom and get the shot and maybe even on the pill. I made the mistake.
2006-08-01 19:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by sschultz89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you protected yourself little one!
The reason you hurt is because you were probably a bit nervous and you might have neglected the importance of foreplay. It won't last long, a couple of days maybe.
Just be careful, will you?
2006-08-02 11:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doing having sex at 13 years old, you are under age for gods sake, hope you used protection girl, stop what your doing and stay away from the sex and the men till your old enough, of course it hurt you, your just a damn kid yourself.
2006-08-01 19:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut up people, everyone has sex at 13!! Didnt you all? It will stop babe (the pain) and if youre a virgin thats prob why you bled. It shudnt happen again i dont think. Have fun and play safe! unless you wana end up like me......
2006-08-01 19:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brummie Geeza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, ya, it will be hurting for a couple of days. And second of all, I'm am totally supporting you. The first time I had sex with my boyfriend was on my 13th birthday. It was my birthday present! lol
2006-08-01 19:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋