How do you tell your boyfriend you have only been with for about 3 months that you might or are pregnant? I am afraid to lose him I been on the pill and I don't want him to blame me and resent me or think I did this on purpose. I am scared to lose him over this.
2006-08-01 10:44:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A friend of mine is going thru this same exact thing.
She slept with a friend and this guy is such a jerk he slept with her knowing he was going back with his son's mom. He made all of these promises to her, just to get her to sleep with him. Then after wards he said "God I hope you are bc!" What a dick. She told me that he didn't want to use a condom because he didn't care if she got pregnant that he loved her and had always loved her. She believed him. So she didn't make him use one. She is on BC but she is bone head and forgets to take it all the time. So now I went with her to Planned Parenthood and she is pregnant. NOW she has to tell him. He is going to freak out because his son's mom just told him that she is pregnant. So we have some problems going on. But be strong. My friend is so stressed out, but I keep telling her that if it comes down to it. She has great friends and family that will be here for her. I am 7 weeks prego so I told her that we can share our crackers together. :) If ur guy is going to be a dick about it, I pray you have other support to help you thru this. But whatever happens.... GOOD LUCK
Find out first.
2006-08-01 11:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, take a deep breath and relax.
Take a home test and or go to the doctor and find out for sure before you say anything. If you are, sit him down and simply state, "I'm pregnant."
I don't mean to sound heartless, but it is what it is. Don't worry yourself with what he may or may not say or do. You will make yourself sick. It is a huge responsibility in general. Either way, it will be just fine.
The two of you will need to talk and express fears and excitements....you will have a lot to talk about.
On the other hand, you may not be. If you aren't, I think it's still a good idea to tell him you were worried you could have been. The two of you should then discuss extra precautionary items besides birth control pills.
Let us know how it turns out.
2006-08-01 10:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why people should wait to have sex in a relationship, if you had no problem getting naked and having sex with him, you should have no problem telling him you might be pregnant.
PS: In case you are not pregnant, do you really want to be sleeping with a guy who YOU think would resent you and blame you for getting pregnant. . . . keep in mind you were the responsible one in this relationship using the BC pill, it doesn't sound like he even used a condom.
2006-08-01 10:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You instructed him you wanted time. He offers you it then you definitely ask why he is not contacting you? No offence i do know your lengthy ache and stuff however should you real do love this man the final factor he demands proper now could be combined messages. Did you do the proper factor? "why hasn't he touch me" - Evidentially you did not. You stated you wanted time. How a lot time? how is he meant to understand? Have you had that point now? You instructed him YOU want time. He's quite often sitting ready so that you can make your brain up. He may not touch you. Here's the dicy aspect. You've quite often harm him and he is licking his wounds. In time he might difference his brain and while you touch him he might have a transparent head and now not wish you. If you wish to be with him i feel this soliciting for time buisness is sheer stupidity. Get your guy earlier than he will get away.
2016-08-28 14:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is from someone who's "been there" many years ago.
Take the test yourself. Then, if you are, be up front and tell him. Don't apologize, don't cry, because it takes two to get pregnant.
Honey, if he leaves you, then you have to make some decisions.
But, you should be more concerned about you and the baby. If you are pregnant, you have a living child growing inside you. You need to think of more important things, like the welfare of this child.
Are you close to your parents? Would they help you? I got pregnant at 17, and went to my mom (scared to death!), but she surprised me, and both my folks were there for me to help. That baby is now 33 years old with two daughters of her own.
Just remember, this is something my dad told me "Honey, everyone does it, you just got caught."
I pray your parents are there for you. And you know, this baby, although not planned, is a gift from God.
2006-08-01 11:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and there has been atleast 2 or 3 occasions where I thought I was pregnant. He was scared but he was with me through it all... he came with me to buy the pregnancy test and even stayed with me while I took it. If I were you I would just simply explain the situation and then go and get a pregnancy test and take it (with or without him there.) If he leaves you over that then he's irresponsible to begin with.
2006-08-01 10:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sparing the lectures (we all know how it happens, and even the pill isn't 100% effective all the time) you shouldn't tell him you "MIGHT" be pregnant, go find out for sure for yourself...and if you ARE then you can worry about how to tell him. If he leaves over it, then why'd you want to keep him in the first place? (yeah, you say you love him, but if he really loves you he may not even be worried about it that much and be glad to stay with you).
2006-08-01 10:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Information Scavenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't scared to tell my boyfriend that I was pregnant; I just didn't know how to tell him. But I told him and he told me not to worry because he didn't want me to lose the baby. It's a girl, even through he wanted a boy.
2006-08-01 12:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by robinson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do not tell him anything until you are sure you are pregnant. Many women "miss" a few months if they are stressed, underweight, etc. There are many reasons. Get checked out by the doctor. Only IF you are pregant and you are sure the baby is his, should you mention it. Then, you must tell him immediately because it is his baby, too. You didn't get pregant by yourself and you will need help supporting this child.
2006-08-01 10:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should know that the pill has about a 99% of preventin pregnancies and you feel into that 1% it itsnt ur fault it takes two to make a baby go right ahead and tell him his reaction will tell u whether he would be a good and understandin father hope for the best but if you dont get the best then make the best out of the situation i would pray for you
2006-08-01 10:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋