Is it wrong to go to the club,just to dance with other men, because you husband refuses to take you out?

Question

dancing? I love to dance to Hip-Hop music always have,my husbands hates it, he never had a problem with me going to the club, until I admitted I dance with a guy if he ask. I have never cheated on my husband and when they ask for my number I tell them No I'm married, I always go to the club with my cousins, sister in law and friends

upuntil a month ago he went to the bar, Thur-Sat and lied about going, claimed he was running to the store, or to get gas for the car. I'm the one who stayed at home watching lifetime movies while he was the life of the party. Just becasue you dance with a guy dosen't mean you want to F@#$ him.

Answer 1

I have no problem with my wife dancing with other guys as long as it is just dancing. Hip Hop has a lot of grinding so I guess there needs to be some boundaries there, but for the most part, I firmly believe spouses need to have time apart with just the guys or gals. It is healthy and if your hubby doesn't like to dance than he shouldn't really complain. It sounds like he is scared that you could be cheating on him. Ask him to go out with you and your friends (make sure they bring guys for him to hang out with), let him know you will be dancing with other guys, but not to worry. This will do 2 things. 1. He will see that you are just dancing, and then he will learn to trust you, or 2. It will turn him on that other guys want you so much and then you will get to have some fun further into the night.

Answer 2

I love dancing too!
And I never go with my hubby, either.
It's just not his thing.
I always go with a group of girls.
We have a fun time dancing together,
but every now and then I will dance with a guy.
But I never dance more than one song with any man
and I make sure that my dancing is not too dirty.
There are a lot of hot men out there,
and some can dance really good, too!
But still, none compare to my hubby.
If a guy wants more than one song with me,
or starts to act a little too dirty on the dance floor,
I simply tell them I already have a man and am not interested.
If they don't take the hint,
I just walk away and make sure my girls know
to help keep him away from me.
I try to respect my relationship with my man
by not doing anything that I wouldn't want him to do.
All I can tell you is this:
There is nothing wrong with getting down on the dance floor,
as long as you respect your man.
It's good to go with girls,
and it's okay to dance with guys as long as
it's not for alot of songs and you two aren't getting wild.
Also, try not to go too often.
Once a week should be plenty.
Balance is key!
Make sure your man knows you love him
and that he's #1 in your life.
Trust is also very important.
When you show how much he means to you,
he should be more likely to trust you when you go out.
But if you're going out all the time and he's feeling left out,
then it's natural for him to suspect that you don't love him.
Or even if he trusts you enough to know that you'd never cheat,
he might just be jeaous that you're going out
and having fun without him.
But if you give him an ample amount of your time and attention,
then it will no longer be a big deal for him.
Good luck, hon! :)

Answer 3

It puts a lot of temptation in your path.why put this kind of strain on your marriage.You are free to dance and I bet flirt a little ,then you tell the guy ,no I'm married.What happens if he doesn't want to take no for an answer and follows you home.Your husband would be in a fight and maybe get hurt for your wanting to go out dancing You never know what will happen now I wouldn't go to a club without my husband.

Answer 4

Is there any way to get your husband to go with you to the club, pretend you don't know each other, and have him "pick you up" at the club? Maybe you can both dance with other people, too- just to spice up your excitement to be together when the evening ends.

It can be a lot of fun!!

Best wishes from a grandma-aged person

Answer 5

i do not rather get this question ... in case you probably did not even contact those different adult males, what precisely were you doing up there that develop into so grimy? Getting your self off on the dance floor? Twirling around the stripper pole? in case you've been merely dancing, that shouldn't were a situation in my opinion. as long as I knew you've been coming homestead with me. in case you've been appearing like an entire skank with different adult males in public, which could be a situation even if you've been dancing or no longer.

Answer 6

I am sorry to say this but yes it is wrong. You are sending the wrong signals to other men when you dance with them. You may not be checking them out but they are definitely looking you up and down like a piece of meat. Besides you would probably be very upset if you knew your husband was dancing that close to another woman wouldn't you? Sometimes with marriage comes alot of sacrifices but it is worth it to keep the trust and understanding in tact. Hope this helps..

Answer 7

no way is it wrong. Its the love of the music you go out for not to cheat, me and my boyfriend always go out with our own mates and i love to dance and be brought drinks by guys and it never goes any further than chatting and dancing and my guy knows that. maybe you need to talk to your husband about trust and try and get him to go out with you and give your love of hip hop a chance

Answer 8

You are not wrong to go out dancing. Your husband needs to be like you, open and honest about things instead of lying and going behind your back as to where he's been.

Answer 9

I see no problem. You should talk to your husband and let him know how much you love dancing, that you're always with your relatives, that you would never cheat on him and encourage him to go with you, even if he doesn't dance, just to see you dancing.

Answer 10

Well you would have to put yourself in his shoes. Would you like it if he went out to a club and danced with other women the way that you dance with other men?