Because last night... we had sex.
Okay, what happened was this..
I pushed into her, she screamed in pain, the never happened before,
i pulled it out, she screamed in pain,
she hasn't felt good since last night, and I'm trying to help her..
but before we go to the doctors..
was that a bad choice to have sex ?
and will it hurt the baby?
2006-08-01 10:06:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sex usually won't hurt the baby; doctors generally say you're fine up until the water breaks before delivery. LOL, sometimes sex is *encouraged* near the due date to help start labor.
If there was something wrong with the pregnancy, your fiancee's doctor would have set some limits on what she can and can't do. Since that's not the case, you're probably fine. Women can get very sensitive, tender tissue during pregnancy and some positions or intense thrusting can be painful. Some also don't get as lubricated and may need a little KY to help out.
BTW, placenta previa doesn't happen after sex like another member wrote. It's a condiditon in which the placenta grows over the cervix, making severe bleeding a risk and natural delivery nearly impossible.
2006-08-01 10:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by lotsayorks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman is different. If there is no complications with the pregnancy the doctor will usually say it's ok to have sex....but it doesn't stop (or should I say, start) there. She has to feel comfortable with it too.
Some woman have no problem with having sex while pregnant and actually will want it even more in the middle trimester; however, there will be others that find it very uncomfortable and even painful.
I fell into the second catagory. I was fine and enjoyed sex in the beginning and then all of a sudden, it hurt and hurt terribly. We tried a couple of other times, but it was a no go.
I talked to my doc about it because I didn't know if this was normal or not, but was told it was and if it wasn't pleasing for me then I should not do it. Sex, making love, was to be pleasing for both. I know my husband didn't like the idea of no sex, but as the doc said, if I continued anyway and was in pain all it was doing was "relieving" him and that can be done in other ways...and with love also.
If you decide to give it another try, if the doc says ok and your wife agrees to it, just remember to take it nice and slow and maybe use more lube.
Good luck!
2006-08-01 10:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is perfectly safe to have sex up until delivery in most pregnancies. With some high risk pregnancies it is an absolute no no. The baby is protected from the outside world, but a sac of amniotic fluid, a uterus and a sealed cervix. You cannot poke, it, bump it or harm it. Although lying on top of your partner is not reccommeded after the 4th month. If she experiences pain during intercourse it could be a number of things, (some even psychological) To be on the safe side, always talk to a doctor.
2006-08-01 10:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can only have sex until the third trimester and after that your not suppose...I only know this b/c when my sis got prego that's what her doctor told her.... You should definitely talk to the doctor...
if you need help in that department do it yourself ...you did it for how many years before so you should have no problem doing it know plus its a know fact that solo sex is the best when you are just trying to relieve stress and have an orgasm....but hey if that just isn't your thing ask her for a little help ....
don't forget ask your doc !!!
Good luck
2006-08-01 10:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by kjo_4711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is okay to have sex during pregnancy. most of the time it is preffered if she feels comfortable. the penis never gets near the baby even though a lot of people think that. so dont be scarred about hitting it or hurting it in any way. i have been pregnant 3 times and have had sex each time. the only time it got uncomfortable was the 3rd trimester.
but go for it as long as she is willing.
2006-08-01 10:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jacinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to scare you but sometimes sex is not a good thing. There's something called placenta previa which usually occurs after sex. But no one ever tells pregnant women this until it's too late. More then likely, your girlfriend was just uncomfortable due to the uterus contracting.
If there si any heavy bleeding with no cramps, go to the doctor and ask about placenta previa.
Lotsayork.....if you haven't experienced placenta previa, please don't comment on it. Reading a couple of articles online means nothing when you are living through it.
Good luck!
2006-08-01 10:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by s_sill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a normal healthy pregnancy there is no medical advice that suggests you shouldn't have sex.
I'm not suggesting you've not got a healthy pregnancy - there could be lots of minor causes for her discomfort - perhaps she was worried about how the baby would feel during sex?
I think you're right to go to the docs though, could be an infection. Hope all's well.
2006-08-01 10:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by FancyFace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it OK to have sex while being pregnant its suppose to be healthy for the baby and as far as being in pain the baby could have been position in a awkward way and she was probably going to have this pain anyway if shes not bleeding i wouldn't worry about it its nothing the doctor can do at this point unless a miscarriage is suspected .
2006-08-01 10:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by connie g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately go to the Dr. if she is still in pain. Having sex is fine during pregnancy, as long as she is comfortable with it. It will not hurt the baby. A woman's cervix is long enough that a man's penis won't come in contact with the uterus(where the baby is). Not unless you have an abnormally long one. In that case, ya'll should talk to the Dr. about it.
2006-08-01 10:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it does not hurt the baby .. no it was not a bad choice to have sex.. it is actually good for both of you to do this.. if she is hurting.. maybe you guys should try other positions .. that may help.. and be gentle.. and have sex all the way up till she is due.. they say having sex will make the baby come faster when it is time of course
2006-08-01 10:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by seney_melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋