So, I've hooked up with this older married guy a few times. He says he's in love with his wife, but apparently needs some man-lovin' from time to time. Problem is, he doesn't give me much notice that he's coming over and then he usually flakes. If I tell him I can't see him anymore, he'll just find someone else. Besides, I enjoy his company. Should I just take it when I can get it, or ???
2006-08-01 10:05:44 · 19 answers · asked by Vincent 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not fooling myself or waiting around for only him. I don't expect any "commitment" or anything from him.
2006-08-01 10:40:37 · update #1
Keep him around just for the sex
2006-08-01 12:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Adultery is adultery. Whether or not you enjoy his company or care whether or not he commits to you is beside the point. This person has promised someone else to be true to them for ever. If your lover does not want to be married anymore, he needs to get a divorce and stop waisting his wifes time.
You absolutely do not have any business sleeping with a married man. Adultery is bad.
What makes you think you are the only one he has on the side?
Does he use protection with you? Does he use protection with his wife? What kind of man sleeps around these days and then goes home and infects his wife with something? Are you sure he has not given you something?
2006-08-01 17:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on a level on 100%; and with him in your life he has reduced your percentage to a lower level. Why be involved with someone who isn't there 100%? This guy isn't 100%, emotionally, and certainly not physically there for you. You'll end up as the lonely guy on holidays, and weekends nights; when everyone else is with their true love. Besides, what happens when your Mr Right knocks at your door? Will you be available or too busy to notice because you're in a holding pattern. Tell this guy you're seeing, either land the darn plane or keep flying to another airport. You are so much better than what you receive from the player!
2006-08-01 17:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would have to agree with these answers. If your with a married man have no expectations period. If he flakes and that makes you mad, deal with it. Why are you not looking at the fact that he is cheating on someone he promised to love? Maybe he flakes because he also has another guy and is cheating on you too.
2006-08-01 17:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will just be wasting your time. If he is still in live with his wife, he just want something from you which he is not getting from his wife , You deserve other men who have no other commitments and whom you will enjoy company. If the married gut continue to flirt, just ignore him. You are risking your future for somebody who is already committed , the world i big and there is plenty of opportunities for everyone
2006-08-01 17:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by kanzig g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he not looking for another guy in his own situation. You need to let him know you are not waiting around for him but if you like the sex then use him like he is using you. I mean he must have something to offer if you are still letting him come by now and again.
The ideal situation for a married guy is another married guy. That is why I would never pursue an openly gay guy. It is not fair to them.
2006-08-01 17:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married then he is cheating on his wife, you're the "other woman" and should not do something so cheap and wrong. He needs to tell his wife. You don't need to help him lie to her or you are just as bad as him.
2006-08-01 17:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is only sex. if you're ok with that then fine a trick is a trick, but you can't let him run the show, it's at your conveinece or not at all, take control and don't hang out and talk or listen to his problems, just get your freak on and throw him out. otherwise you're going to become emotionaly invested in a no win situation, if your not already. if you can't keep it sex only GET OUT NOW!
2006-08-02 06:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already cheating on his wife... What makes you think he's not cheating on you too? In this day and age, you don't know if he may end up giving you a present that will require medical care...
RUN AWAY FAST AND DON"T LOOK BACK!!!!
2006-08-01 17:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a personal moral question. I would not continue but you are right he will just find someone else. You have to answer for yourself if being an un-paid adultress/prostitute is what you want to be?
2006-08-01 17:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How big of a whore do you have to be to sleep with a man you know is married? Your just nasty and that's disgusting and I hope his wife finds out and hunts you down tramp!
2006-08-01 17:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋