ex-suicidal pleas help?

Question

So a few months ago, I was serisouly about to kill myself. I keep having memories from that time about the hurt and everything. Right now, I'm happier than I've ever been in my life. But I'm scared that form remembering the past, I'll become suicidal again. Please help!

Answer 1

you need a good friend to talk with ...someone who will always be there for you ... and i dont mean for sex ... just a real friend thats there for good times and hard times ... i can tell u one thing ive learned also and that is that YOU yourself are worth living for ... learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, pamper yourself ... you are an important part of this world and we need you :)

Answer 2

I actually attempted suicide in 1987, two months after being diagnosed with insulin dependent diabetes. I was really lucky I survived. Counseling helped tremendously. Just please remember suicide is never the answer to anything. Tomorrow is always a new day. If at some point you feel suicidal again please seek help. Life has many ups and downs but it's one of the greatest gifts we'll ever have. I'm thankful I didn't succeed. I would've missed out on a lot of great experiences and hurt too many people I never realized cared so much

Answer 3

Its all in the mind. The suicide thoughts were not you and don't deserve anymore of your mental attention. You give them power when you think about them. So when they pop up in your mind clamoring for your attention, ignore them and they will go away. Then they will come back, ignore them again. Eventually they will go away for good. Another thing, sometimes your thoughts are too powerful and no matter how hard you try you can't help yourself from believing them. Thoughts are wrapped up with feelings and sometimes those feelings over come you. These thoughts and feelings may not be valid but you give them importance and attention because they are so powerful. What I mean as you may be depressed and may need a depression medication. You said you had thoughts of suicide (DOWN) and now feel happier then you have ever been (UP). THATS GREAT!!!! But don't discard the possibility of that you may need medication/consoling if you get Down again. Take care

Answer 4

I'm not sure what has changed here. You may be
flipping back and forth because of events in your life.
You may be flipping back and forth because of funky
body chemistry (bi-polar or manic depressive).

It is unlikely that the fact that you were depressed before
being happy will make you suicidal if and when you were
not happy again.

However, if this flipping back and forth begins to show pattern,
you need to see a doctor before you do something silly
while you are at your lowest low (killing yourself) or your
highest high (marrying the local coconut tree).

If you feel yourself slipping into a low and you just don't
see the bottom of it, do not walk, RUN to your local ER
and/or psychiatrist.

'Till then - enjoy the life.

Answer 5

My friend, I remember my past all the time. Everything. WILLINGLY. Every mistake, every disappointment, every achievement, every victory. And I'm still here, right?

And why do I do such an absurd thing?
Because it makes me strong, not weak.
Because I have learned to USE it to my advantage.
By remembering my mistakes, I can avoid repeating them. (By doing that, I'm just being pragmatic.)
And by remembering my achievements, I feel proud of myself and I find the strength I need to keep fighting for what I want in my life.
It's as simple as that.

I have never dated anyone.
I was supposed to have graduated college by now.
I am shy and have a hard time getting over it, though I'm rapidly improving. (And it's exactly because I'm not afraid of my past that I'm rapidly improving.)

And still, despite all that, I strive NOT to forget a single thing!

Is your past so bad that you have no good moments worth remembering? Do your bad memories completely outweigh your good ones? Then try a bit harder to remember all of the people who I'm sure have been special to you: family, friends, lovers, strangers, new friends, old friends... everyone. This will probably help you see things in a slightly different perspective.

I can't let my bad memories bring me down all the time. I've got stuff to do and dreams to make true. My future is far too important for me to allow it to be endangered by my past, which is just that: past. So don't give your past too much importance. Remember what you did wrong so you won't do it wrong again. Don't regret your mistakes. Learn from your mistakes. USE your mistakes. That's the only thing they're good for.

Don't ever feel ashamed of anything that's happened to you, either because of you or somebody else. I mean it: anything. NOBODY has to feel ashamed of ANY moment in their lives. And do you know why? Because it's THEIR life experience. Only you can make sense of what's happened to you, just as only I can make sense of what's happened to me. Your life experience, which you are the only person in the world to have full knowledge of, defines you as unique and makes you different from everybody else. It justifies your every action and choice, and ultimately it makes you special and unique in the world.

Life's like that, you know? It shows you a lot of bad times so that you can learn to appreciate the good times. The trick is: you have to know how to USE your bad times. Because your future is yours to decide on. Nobody else's; just YOURS. You are a free person and should be very thankful for that, and not waste time dwelling on what's happened and what might have happened. So defend yourself. Don't let those memories bring you down; let them turn into something else. Remember what you really want to do with your life and go do it. Don't let anything stop you; not even regret. Earn the right not to have to answer to anyone but yourself.

And if you need any further advice, answers or help along the way, remember us. We are here because we want to help. I am here, writing this stuff, to help YOU, while I could be playing computer games instead. So what's more important to me right now?

So don't forget about us. And most importantly, don't forget about your family and your friends. And if you're angry at them, think of it this way: if you're angry, it's because you LIKE those people. Because if you didn't, you wouldn't give a wooden nickel about their feelings and their opinions. Am I wrong?

Loving people is exactly that.
You just need to learn to express your true feelings, so you won't need to get angry and sad and unhappy.

Don't forget about these people. Even more importantly, don't ever forget who you are.
Never give up the fight. Just learn to fight the right way, with the right weapons and strategies. Becoming suicidal or offensive to others is not going to help you.

Always be patient. Always be calm and focus on what's there for you to solve.
And even when you think there's no possible way out...
Don't -- ever -- give up.

Then tell us how you did. :)

Best of luck.

Answer 6

When you remember back to that time just realize that it was a low point for you and that things worked out. And next time you feel that way again (i hope there wont be a next time) but if you do feel like that again, just remember how you felt better shortly thereafter. Everyone has thier ups and downs. Everyone.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are doing well. As long as you don't wallow in your bad memories I think you will be fine. Do you have a therapist? If not, get one and they will spot any danger signs which may come up signifying a back slide on your part.

Answer 8

One day at a time my friend. You have a good day, that's great, you have a bad day, there's always tomorrow. Nothing is worth ending your life over.

Answer 9

Get counseling, try to forget the past, pray, if you believe in that sort of thing. You'll be fine, God bless you.

Answer 10

Get counseling.
Stay positive.
Try to address whatever was bother you in that bad time.
Help other people.
Stay around people who have something to live for.