i became friends with this guy who has a girlfriend. we became really really really close and good friends. but thats it. JUST friends. well my bestfriend is his girlfriends close friend, and she told her that we were so close. his girlfriend asked my bestfriend for my number and stuff, im not sure if she gave her my number... but i wouldnt doubt it. So now he told me not to answer my phone if its a number i dont recognize, and im scared. Hes telling me to lie, and say we werent hanging out yesterday when we were, and im just confused. i dont know if his friendship is worth losing my bestfriend, and if its worth everybody calling me a triflin whorre, and a slutt. i know shes not a very good bestfriend for telling in the first place.. but she's been there with me through alot. i just dont get what her problem is though, because all we do is talk. we're JUST friends, and everybody is making it out to be that he was cheating, or something. im not sure what to do. im realy confused. help??
2006-08-01 09:47:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anna.R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
shoulda added this. they broke up the day my best friend told his girlfriend.
2006-08-01 10:03:34 · update #1
My advice is to answer the phone if she calls and tell her you are just friends, but don't lie about what you did yesterday. If she gets angry and starts yelling, just hang up.
I would question the boy that is asking you to lie....WHY?
But if this is a problem, tell the boy that you don't want to come between him and his girl. If after a while they break up, you can be friends again.
If you want to be friends and so does he, he will come back to you as a friend.
2006-08-01 09:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by jdomanico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your "best friend" should not give her your number. If she does, she needs to be told how wrong it is to try and hurt you. Because if she gives out your number, that is what she is intentionally doing; hurting you.
About the guy: if you're just friends, then there is no reason to hide the fact that you guys hang out. So, I'd tell your guy friend to stop being immature and tell his girlfriend that, yes, he has a close female friend that he likes to hang out with. If she wants to get jealous, that's her problem. If she calls, you answer and be as polite to her as can be. If she screams, you say that you will not speak to her until she can calm down, and hang up. And you keep that up until she decides to talk rationally.
Chances are, they will break up. However, there should be no reason you should be called a slut as long as you don't start dating the guy. And next time, try to hang out with the girlfriend and the boyfriend, so they both know you have no intention of ever stealing the boyfriend. That way, you won't have to hide. Good luck with what you decide to do!
2006-08-01 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by moviequitter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do in this situation is to realize that it may not go smoothly since you are obviously dealing with some immature individuals. The second thing you need to realize is that as long as you know you have not done anything wrong then you have the right to hold your head high and not stoop to their level of games and foolishness.
Remain friends with your best friend but let her know how you feel. You should also let your guy friend know if his friendship with you is important then he needs to be upfront with all parites involved otherwise his girlfriend will not trust him (understandably). If he has nothing to hide then he needs to stop lying to her.
The best thing you can do in this situation is not involve yourself. If he and his girlfriend have trust issues then they need to deal with them. If you were not a cause for this drama, they would have found something else. They need to grow up.
As long as you haven't done anything wrong then you can't be bothered with this immature nonsense!
2006-08-01 16:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kung Fu Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a controlling girl friend that is a b i t c h! and if you dont want to lose your friendship even though she betrayed you thats all on you. dont worry about anything that anyone says. as long as you know the truth then why worry? as far as it goes for the guy friends girl friend.... as long as shes not bigger than you just talk to her and ask her whats her prob. and dont let her bully you you have all the right in the world to be friends with whoever you want. good luck!
2006-08-01 16:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by clownluv♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you freind (the guy)that you should spend time apart till it settles down or even tell his gf that your just friends and thats it. then if people call you suff, ignore it. and he's right don't answer phone numbers you don't regonize. but as for your freind ask her why she gave her the number and (even if she's your bestie) ask if she could not say that again cause it hurt you because f all this trouble. thats the best i could do, hope it helped.
2006-08-01 16:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tegan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to find a new best friend.... Maybe all along you have been the best friend to her... she isn't being a best friend to you.... think about it.... also maybe his friendship is worth more then hers..... sounds very two faced to me.. . If your not doing anything wrong in your eyes that's all that matters.... If you and him choose to be friends that's your business not everyone Else's....your not hurting anyone by being honest.... If they choose to be mad and petty that's their problem..... Have fun and just be honest....
2006-08-01 18:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋