i thinkwe should wait,its less than 2 weeks away but he doesnt want to wait,i need some tips,some pointers,anything!!!!
2006-08-01 09:42:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we been doing it before we got married for me to spring this on him its for a good cause right?
2006-08-01 09:49:37 · update #1
DONT HAVE SEX WITH HIM GIRL!!! MAKE HIM WAIT!!!
Girl, DO NOT give into him. If you do, your wedding night & honeymoon will be STALE, BORING, and TIRED. This is your wedding! You only have 1 wedding..Look, as my granny used to always tell me "Its a man's place to say Yes..and its a woman's place to say No"..You are doing so good for standing your ground right now. Even though you slept with him before, its not too late to set things right like youre doing..
Listen, I'm a 29 year old black woman, and I get so tired of seeing black men get EVERYTHING they want from black woman--as if we're sex slaves on a plantation-- As if black women are just whores who OWE them sex. Damn, let him marry you first--then he get all the sex he wants! I mean, I'm sure your fiance loves you and values you, but I'm just saying--we're not slaves..Look, I bet he and you are both Christians, and its time to practice what you believe in. How are you going to stand up there in front of that preacher in a church making vows in front of God, knowing damn well that y'all just had sex 2 nights ago?
Make him wait! Trust me, if you make him wait, he'll probably pass out on your wedding night once he sees you in that sexy lingerie. Making him wait will make him REAL excited on that honeymoon--he will probably be kissing your feet, trust me...But if you have sex with him, as my mom says "He'll be tired of that coochie--he already had it", sorry to be blunt.
Girl, I dont have sex, and I refuse to give it up to a man before he takes me to the Preacher and marries me--I dont care how much be BEGS. And I've been proposed to by 3 different sucesful, handsome men, so I think the no-sex policy Works. God knew what He was doing when he told us "no sex before marriage"..
Listen, honey I know men: Do Not be alone with your fiance--period. He will probably call you up tonight talking about "I left my notebook at your place--I'll be over to get it". Hell no!--meet that jigga OUTSIDE if he tries to pull that one..He may Beg, Plead, Cry, and even Threaten not to marry you--Its all Hot Air--dont even pay attention. Do Not argue with him--just be quiet and keep the peace--after all, you 2 love each other, so no need to fight before the wedding--just dont give in to him. Just keep preparing for your wedding, and have fun on that wedding night!! Congratulations! Another "Chante" got a man now :)
Peace
PS--Dont listen to that stupid advise about the "steamy love notes". That so corny. It dont take all that to get a man hot and bothered. Just show up in that lingerie on your wedding night--thats all the "steam" you need!..And, oh yeah--no hugging & kissing either--when he says "you may Now kiss the bride"--thats said for a Reason!
2006-08-01 12:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Many men get impatient...my suggestion is tell him why its important by setting up the scene. By this I mean when he asks you again to do it, say: "Well, dear the reason I wanted to wait was because I have something special planned for you... and the only way you will get to know what that special thing is ...if you wait...and I promise it will be worth it. "
Then I recommend you buy some nice note cards, and each day up until your wedding day, write steamy love notes about what you want to do to him on your wedding night...this doesn't mean you write about talking to each other or discussing things like the future. Write things like "On our wedding night I am going to slip into one of these" and then cut out a picture of some sexy lingerie you intend to wear and put it in there and give him the note card.
The next day, do the same but a different idea like ...write something like "I can't wait to kiss you all over and show you what heaven is really like...I am going to (fill in the blank with some sexy sex position) and cut out a picture of that from a book, magazine or get it online" and give him the card....but make sure you reiterrate on the wedding night...
If you continue to do this for next two weeks, then I am sure he will stop bugging you, will be busy taking care of himself and will wait til the wedding night, You just have to make sure you make the wedding night sound so juicy that the guy is putty in your hands and willing to wait for such an amazing night. Just make sure what ever you write in your note cards is something you are actually willing to do.
P.S. Just make sure you don't give in to any kind of sex, oral, anal, or sexual intercourse...the whole idea behind waiting til your wedding day is to enjoy that special night...so do as I suggested and seduce his mind with sexy thoughts of you and I am sure he will be putty in your hands.
P.S.P.S Well, if you have already had sex before marriage and you stopped because you want to sex on your wedding night, that's great! Because the sex will be even better...more intense, more passionate, and more fun cuz you both would have not had any for over 2 weeks...and that can cause some passionate love making.
2006-08-01 10:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 08:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to have respect for your decision. It will make it more special if you wait till you're married, and he should support how you feel about it.
2006-08-01 09:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥KP♥MH♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...tell him you want to wait until you're married. If he can't accept that, then you're marrying the wrong man!
Good luck and congrats.
2006-08-01 09:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some pointers...funny.
2006-08-01 09:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by somanyquestions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember - oral isn't really sex (Bill Clinton)
If you have been together for awhile - why wait?
Sex changes your relationship - you should have sex now before you are married so you will know if he is any good.
Sounds like you are just scared to have sex.
2006-08-01 09:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you want to wait, if he cant respect that you want to wait....then maybe you dont want to marry this guy?
2006-08-01 09:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by rachael01181990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You made it this far you can wait two weeks, that or I snap you dick off and put it in a box, your choice."
2006-08-01 09:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "honey, if you really love me, then youll wait. Please do this for me."
2006-08-01 09:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by daydream♥believer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋