i have been trying for a baby for four years any tips?

Answer 1

Four years is a VERY long time - maybe we could help more if we knew what fertility problems you and your partner have been facing - why has it taken you four years??

For general fertility problems and conception I always recomend FAM. If you have not tried this already then I would have serious questions to ask your health care provider as this should be a first step for pregnancy acheivement - in fact all women would benifit from learning this method.

It involves tracking your basal body temperature, cervical mucus and cervical position on a daily basis to determine your fertile days, it would also tell you if you have any fertility problems long before a load of invasive testing by your doctor could because it will show you exactly why you cannot get pregnant by showing where the problems in your cycles are.
It can be used to determine when you are pregnant so saving on home pregnancy tests.
It can even be used to help determine the sex of your child by coupling it with the Shettles method to up your chances of conceiving a boy or a girl. Here's how in basic terms: sperm carrying Y chromosome (boys) swim fast but do not live long, where as sperm carrying X chromosome (girls) are slower but last longer - closer to ovulation the more likely it is to have a boy as they are first to reach egg, further from ovulation cervical mucus will keep the sperm alive long enough for X sperm to reach egg, where as Y sperm will die.
Not only all that but also has life-long advantages of being used next time you wish to conceive (if you choose to again), use as birth control and use for general reproductive & vaginal health, putting your sexual health well into your own hands.

You are only fertile for 30% of your cycle, you will normally only produce one egg per cycle that lives for up to 48 hours, sperm will only live up to 5 days within fertile quality cervical mucus (only a few hours without cervical mucus as acidic environment in the vagina will kill sperm - mucus also needed to help sperm reach the egg). So if you have sex at the wrong time of your cycle it is not going to achieve anything, apart from perhaps get you and your partner very frustrated and confused.

I would highly recommend getting a book called 'Taking Charge Of Your Fertility' by Toni Weschler, it will set you back around £12 from Amazon or can be picked up at most book stores, and it very much worth what you pay for it.

A lot of areas also have Fertility Awareness Method instructors that would be able to help you learn if need be, these are normally within the NHS and most do not charge, but may ask for a donation from yourself. These trainers can be found by doing a search through FertilityUK: http://www.fertilityuk.org

Sites on Fertility Awareness Method and Natural Family Planning [similar to FAM, however when used for birth control FAM uses barrier methods, FAM does not];
http://www.tcoyf.com – FAM.
http://www.28-days.com – FAM.
http://www.justisse.ca – Holistic and FAM methods.
http://www.sisterzeus.com – Herbs and FAM methods.

Other similar options would be to use CycleBeads that are beads that show your fertile and none fertile days, Boots also has an ovulation kit which consists of a little case with charts and a basal body thermometer for £12 that would be similar to FAM, NFP and other ovulation methods but without as much attention to detail – which you do not really need if planning on getting pregnant. You could also go the more hi-tech route by using computers such as Babycomp or Persona that will both tell you when you are ovulating – I do believe you can also get ovulation testing kits, however these are not as accurate at determining when you are fertile.

For more information;
http://www.cyclebeads.com – CycleBeads.
http://www.ladycomp.com – Ladycomp and Babycomp.

Another idea which would be simpler and cheaper, although not as effective, would be to use basic tracking methods and charting these in a calendar or online, there are a few web sites around, most will work on a method similar to the Rhythm Method where it determines fertile days in accordance to your cycle and previous cycles – i.e. your last period was on day x, your next period will be on day y, so your ovulation will be on day z. This is similar to saying that you ovulate on day 14 of your cycle, although in a regular typical cycle this would be correct (ovulation around day 12-16) if you have irregular cycles or simply your cycle is not set to this pattern this can do little for you and end up with you having sex on the wrong days, not falling pregnant and believing there is a fertility problem where there is none.

Basic charting sites;
http://www.fertilityfriend.com – Fertility Friend.
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com – My Monthly Cycles.
http://www.cyclespage.com – Cycles Page.

Then of course a small note is that general health will help, if you are sleep deprived then this can very well effect your chances of pregnancy, as will other factors like sleep, as your body is designed to try to avoid your getting pregnant and carrying to full-term when it is not able to keep you or the child healthy.

Improved diet and an up in vitamins and other dietary needs such as folic acid will help a lot, most people do not realise but your menstrual cycle has a big effect on your body and your general health can have a huge effect on your cycles, if you are in poor health this may prevent pregnancy, in fact a change in diet can fully regulate many women's cycles when they may have had problems for years.

There are also many other natural aids such as herbal or holistic methods that will help you too.

It is best to consult an expert when it comes to herbs, however you might want to consider more common herbal treatments that carry low risk such as Black Cohosh (oestrogenic stimulates ovaries), Evening Primrose Oil (regulates cycles), Vitex (regulate ovulation), Don Qui (regulates cycles & strengthens uterus), Red Clover (rich in coumestans and isoflavones – likened to progesterone).
Don Qui I believe is a bad idea if you have heart conditions, but all others I do believe are safe - things like Evening Primrose Oil are very safe and very common in use for menstrual cycle regulation that will help assist conception, you can actually usually pick this up at supermarkets or pharmacies.
If you go to a health store that sells herbal treatments they will be able to tell you how best to take them, probably in tea form a few times a day, and be able to tell you if there are any negative effects to taking them.

Of course in the end if none of these things work it would mean a trip to see your doctor to find out why, it is either a serious problem with your own reproductive system or a problem with your partner - again, if you use FAM you will know before reaching your doctor what the problem is and so how best to go about dealing with the problem, this will allow you a little more control over your treatment if it is needed.

WITHIN A FEW MONTHS OF USING FAM YOU WILL EITHER BE PREGNANT OR KNOW WHY YOU ARE NOT.

Answer 2

So having baby troubles Sarah... hmm. After four years, still no look... are you sure that you don't have some sort of medical condtion, or your partner may have one. Fertility troubles maybe? How old are you, becaudse that can limit your chances of becoming pregnant. Check with your doctor to see if you are both able to have children because that may be the reason.
But if it is then their are numerous ways around it, you can adopt because there are loads of great kids out there that would be lucky to have a great mum!
But if not then the timing is REALLY bad. How long do your periods last for? Just keep trying hun and I hope that you get pregnant soon :)

Answer 3

This was my situation. We tried for years and years with no success.

The main thing to do is to go to your doctor and make sure you have all the tests done to check that there is nothing wrong with either of you. They will want to check your blood to make sure your hormone levels are ok, maybe do an ultrasound scan to check there are not abnormalities in your uterus or fallopian tubes and do a HycOSY to check your tubes are open. your partner will need a semen analysis to check his sperm count and quality/motility. It could be something very simple, such as low hormone levels or a blocked tube, which can be rectified with drugs or surgery. In the event that something is wrong which would make it very hard to get pregnant naturally you can still try IVF.

You may already know all this - but if you haven't already, get hold of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wechsler. It tells you how to monitor your cycle and explains the ins and outs of getting pregnant naturally.

With me, my boyfriend had a low-ish sperm count, and a laparoscopy and dye revealed that I had mild endometriosis. But I still managed to get pregnant naturally 4 months after the laparoscopy. My mum thinks that maybe the lap and dye cleared out my tubes or the removal of the endometriosis helped. At any rate, I acheived what I never though would be possivle and am 22 weeks pregnant now! So don't give up! You would be wise to get all the medical advice you can though.

Answer 4

It just takes some time. If there are no fertility issues its just a matter of "the right time" I have two children exactly 13 years 1 month and 18 days apart. Nothing wrong with me or my husband apparently it just wasnt "the right time" and Im only 34

Answer 5

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Sarah, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 8

I have been trying for three, so I feel ya. Have you went to the doctors yet? I just got put on Clomid and next week (as long as I get my period) I am going in for an HSG where they clean out your tubes. I would talk to your doc about that if you have not already. Keep trying. It'll happen. At least, that's what I keep telling myself....

Answer 9

Without knowing details, all i can suggest is that you get to see a fertility specialist, in Uk your doctor can refer you. He/She will do some tests find out what sort of infertility you have, whether it is you or your partner, then will recommend a course of action. A course of clomid followed by an iui worked for me.
Good luck, hope you are lucky soon,xxxx

Answer 10

Check out a good endocrinologist - see what your options are. And Relax! If you're "trying" to conceive, you may be trying too hard and that can put added strain on you.

Answer 11

how old are you would be the first question a fertility specialist would ask. if you are not old enough for age-related infertility to set in (about age 27) then see a specialist about other possible causes. maybe your partner has a low sperm count, for example.