My BF and I have not had sex yet... but some of the things he says while we are talking about our future sexual experiences worry me... ie: he makes comments about 4-5 hour sex and how long it takes him to get off - - - I am beginning to worry if something is wrong with me. I am not saying I want a 2 minute man but geeze... 4-5 hrs of straight sex ((can that even be enjoyable?)) I could understand if that was foreplay and ALL - but I want to feel as if I am pleasing my man and it taking him 4-5 hours to get off will not make me feel that way... Is something wrong with me - Do most women like 4-5+ hours straight? Help me out here, please!!!!!
2006-08-01 09:32:34 · 10 answers · asked by CountryGirl 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Barbara Boyer, a family physician in California, estimates that for most people, sexual intercourse - as in, his penis penetrating your vagina - lasts from 5 - 30 minutes. Sex can last longer if you count foreplay or oral sex, which often make up the bulk of the encounter. Also, many couples have sex more than once - perhaps 4 - 5 hours could be spent having sex, resting, recovering, and then starting sex again - but having non-stop continous sex for that long would be both very rare, and very unpleasant.
Listen - one of two things is happening:
a) Your boyfriend is lying because he feels worried and insecure about sex, and knows that for many women, stamina (his ability to keep having sex without ejaculating too quickly and having to stop) is considered sexy and manly
b) Your boyfriend has ejaculation difficulties and should consult a doctor, or he isn't pleasuring himself properly, because 4-5 hours is abnormal.
Either way, the problem isn't with you! It's perfectly understandable to want to please the man you love - but you have a right to a comfortable sex experience too! I think you might feel much better if you try talking to him about this - simply explain to him that you're curious about some comments he made about having sex for 4-5 hours, and that you want to know what he meant or if he was just kidding around, because 4-5 hours of *anything* is a bit too much!
Anyway, please, please, please don't worry - you are totally normal by wondering this, and no, sex for 4-5 hours is more likely to make you exhausted, sore, or even bored. Most likely, your man thinks that's what you want, or that it'll impress you - a lot of guys start off with strange ideas like that. Just be honest with him about what you'd like and it'll work out ok!
2006-08-01 09:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by ghost orchid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no girl, I would not enjoy 4 -5 hours! I think though that most men think that is what makes them a better lover (lasting longer). Sure we need them to last long enough but not so long that the act becomes too tiresome or mundane. Talk to him! Explain this to him! Tell him it is not about how long it takes it is about how much attention you pay to one another's pleasure during the act. He isn't more of a man just because he can 'wear you out'. Though that is what men think!
2006-08-01 09:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by onejazzyjul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4-5 hours???? He's bragging. I'm sorry but for that amount of time he would be getting his rox off more than once. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. A woman can only take so much before she starts to get numb or dry or both. Dont' worry about it.
2006-08-01 09:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be saying that because thats what he thinks you want. Try talking to him about it and letting him know that 4-5 hour sex is not what a woman would enjoy and let him know why. He could just be misinformed.
2006-08-01 09:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by numnotes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know he's joking right? If not... Tell him to hit the road. Maybe he has heard that this is what will make him "THE-MAN".. Unfortunately he is dead wrong. The 4-5 hour sex marathon he thinks is MACHO is complete torture. Tell him to enjoy those hour on his own (solo) time. Do not waste yours.
2006-08-01 09:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men like to brag that they can go for hours when really it is maybe a hour or two. But if he does take that long good luck I don't see that being very fun.
2006-08-01 09:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by mmjuarez4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol chances are he is bragging. However, 4-5 hours of sex...Man I would SO be all for that. Don't worry sweetie, it will all come natural. and if anything is wrong with either of you, it would be him..not you.
2006-08-01 09:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gayle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband use to tell me the same thing, I thought he was lying of course, but come to find out he could last a really long time, which eventually turned me off, becasue it dries you out and makes you raw down there, Come to find out my husband was of into masturbation when we didn't have frequent sex making it hard for him to climax in a noraml time frame so he could last for hours. My husband never told me he mastrubated, kinda found out on my own, but when I confronted him about it, he slacked off on the masturbation making him able to climax in 30min to an hour
2006-08-01 09:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. it seems he may just be advertising his alleged prowess, assuming that extended time "in process" is what you, in fact, are hoping for..because, women are "always commenting" on how men are generally too speedy. perhaps, questioning him a bit more closely about this, in a tactful manner, could bring comfort to you both. good luck. btw i'm not a girl, but this advice may, surprisingly, and nevertheless, be almost competent.
2006-08-01 09:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking to him and tell him that you dount want 4-5 hours of sex he should understand or just tell him its okay to have sex but you dount want to do it for such a long time.
2006-08-01 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋