I left my boyfriend about a month ago. We were apart for about a week. When we were apart I started seeing another guy. My boyfriend is also the father of my beautiful, our beautiful son. We are back together but things are very rocky. He told me he needed a break from me and wants to live apart because it's to hard for him to deal with everything living under the same roof. He told me it hurts him to know I was in the arms of another man. I didn't have sex with the other man or anything but he is just afarid I will leave him again for another guy. My question is how do I prove to him I don't want anyone but him? I love this man and I need to prove to him how much I really do love him and I really do want to be with him. (My son's father) What can I do or say to help him get over me leaving him? I want to be this man's wife some day. I am willing to do anything. I'm afarid if he moves out he won't come back.
2006-08-01 09:16:39 · 4 answers · asked by Jason and Dawn F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Our son is 2 1/2 I don't think he is trying to cop out. He is a great father he's not leaving because of fatherhood. He's wanting to leave because of me. I told him when we were apart it was because I was bored and I wanted something new. I didn't really know what I wanted. That's his fear again. He thinks I am going to get that feeling again. I promised him I never would and if I did I would act on it.
2006-08-01 09:27:29 · update #1
First off, if you two plan on being together and ever getting married he needs to not leave. Nothing can be worked out if you two are apart. Ultimately relationship are almost more about trust than love and in this case trust is at the heart of your current problem. He needs to decide if he is going to trust you and stay in this relationship and work on this relationship to make it better or if he is going to leave and give up. Those are really the only two options he has. There is nothing you should do beyond communicating with him and being honest with him. You aren't the one responsible for doing any thing in the world to make him stay, he has to be willing to trust you and work on this relationship of his own free will and choice. If he only stays because you promise to do this or that or what ever then it is false and will ultimately fall apart. He is responsible for making his own choices about what he wants and now is the time for him to decide if he is going to have a future with or without you. There are no guarantees in this life and we all only find love by risking our hearts and risking the hurt and pain he is so afraid of.
2006-08-01 09:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 10⤊ 2⤋
That's a cop out. So he gets to move out and leave you to be a parent. Believe that if you want to but trust me, he is just running scared because fatherhood is rough. He can't handle it. Don't make it that easy for him. That's not an option for you. Don't let it be for him.
2006-08-01 09:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you both need to grow up for your childs sake...It is not good for your son to have his mommy and daddy moving in and out all the time...Tell you your bf he needs to stay so he can help you raise your son...You know that little bundle of joy that you BOTH brought into this world
2006-08-01 09:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't prove...bcs it's in his head.....that fear......give him time......don't show it too much........if he loves u and needs u he will calm down and come back.....
2006-08-01 09:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by El 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋