How many of you have faith in your mate and believe that they're being true even though...?

Question

you're not with them 24/7? And what if someone told you you were being naive?

I'm so glad to see that some women/men aren't jaded and can actually put trust in front of unfounded doubt..kudos

Answer 1

I trust my husband 100%. If you and your sig. other are mature adults, I don't see why it's naive to think they're faithful.

Answer 2

Darlin, that's a loaded question. Yes, I have total faith in my husband, and we spend 14 days apart every month. If someone told me I was being naive, I would believe that they were just trying to stir up trouble.

But I'm older, and I have been cheated on before. I know my man well enough that if we weren't connecting on our usual level, sharing our thoughts with ease and abandon, and had lost intimacy in our love making, I would know that the possibility of his wandering might be something I'd need to examine. But if all of those things are as they should be, then I will not follow that train of thought.

There are signs that no one can fake, no matter how good they are. The reason a cheating partner often gets away with this heinous crime is because the one being cheated on either isn't paying attention or wants to believe that the signs are pointing to something else that is wrong. They want to believe that their partner is just as dedicated to the relationship as they are, and that if there is a problem, it can be worked out. Yes, it leaves you open to being fooled and possibly hurt, but you don't want a relationship where you constantly feel you have to be on guard, either.

Trust is almost impossible to regain in relationships, and suspicion is almost impossible to get rid of. Don't go there unless you are convinced that there really is a possibility that you're being done wrong. Do a little background work if you must, to ease your mind - you might call it spying - and check it out until you are satisfied one way or another. But never ruin a relationship just because some suggests you're being naive. They might mean it as an insult, but it isn't necessarily.

Tread softly here. No one likes to be accused falsely, and you could ruin a good thing just by not trusting a trustworthy person. In the worst case, that may be what your name-calling "friend" is really after.

Answer 3

If someone doesn't have all the facts, and you truly love and trust your mate, then that other person doesn't understand true love or is probably just jealous.

I have been married for 5 years, and have been away from my husband for more than a week without worrying. Now, don't get me wrong, sometimes I get defensive about pretty girls that think they can hang out with my man!! So you have to learn to draw lines and make mutual boundaries. More because we don't trust other people, and it's best just to not put yourself in that situation!

A big part of love is trust...don't let a stupid comment put doubts in your head. If you're really concerned about what this person said, talk to your SO about it, and you can work it out together!

Good luck!

Answer 4

I've learned from personal experiance that if you are going to form a long and lasting relationship with someone it has to be based on trust. Without trust in a relationship you don't have much. If someone truly loves you they will be true to you. If you're the one for them they won't have a need to look elsewhere. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now and have had a long distance relationship for the last year. During that time I have never felt afraid that he would not be faithful to me, and we love each other just as much now as ever before. So, believe me if its right relationships can work even if you can't be together all the time.

Answer 5

It comes down to knowing whether someone is or isn't telling the truth. Do you look for what you want to believe, or do you see what is in front of you? I don't think I could stand being with my wife all day every day, but she tells me the truth and I tell her the truth and we are a functional couple. Here's a hint: does your mate tell you things that they would rather not tell, but they tell anyway because they want to be honest? Or is it always just what you want to hear?
You'll figure it out. People who have been hurt will never recommend trusting anyone. Word.

Answer 6

You have to have enough faith in your own instinct to know the difference. I certainly wouldn't listen to other people; unless it supported my own suspicions. For one thing, they may have a hidden agenda by implying you have something to worry about. Marriage is based on faith and trust...and it is hard enough to make it work, without the additional stress. Trust all is well until proven otherwise. The only exception to this is when your inner voice tells you something is amiss...then you have to get to the bottom of it...and it may not always be what you suspect.

Answer 7

I have no reason to doubt my mate, and we've been apart for months because of work reasons. If I am being naive, well, that's just something I have live with. A healthy relationship can't be based on constant doubt because that just drives you insane.
If you have doubts, talk to your mate, and if you know him well enough, you can probably tell if your being lied to.

Answer 8

You have a mate....without trust, without faith, what is the point in having a mate at all? Chill-Out! Be happy with yourself, you will
radiate when you are happy, that will keep your mate attracted to you! Radiate Joy, Radiate your inner beauty...not those ditractions of distrust...anyway what goes around comes around
no sense in worrying about things like that...if your mate proves to be unfaithful, all you can do is move on....so chill and radiate joy!

Answer 9

Me and mine live 1500 miles apart. I have complete faith in him, and I am not naive. What can I say, he's a terrible liar! We also have a very deep and established bond based on trust, and we just really like each other so much that no one else really even tempts either one of us. Betcha he'd say the same thing if you asked him. :^)

Answer 10

This may sound stupid to you, but it's my true feeling. I love my wife more then my next breath, no kidding. I don't look through her purse, I don't look around corners or check the phone bill. If she is having an affair I don't want to know. If that's what she needs to keep her happy and in love with me, I would rather her keep her secret. That way i never have to worry about her having regrets in her life. I trust her to love me, not hurt me, and protect what we have. The rest I don't think about. Make any sense?

Tom

Answer 11

Because everything i do see looks, smells and feels right.
I just intuitively know that he is on the up-and-up
If people are telling you that you are naive, then they probably
know something you don't know or have information about
what he's doing. Ask if you can have his email password,
see if he protects his cell phone calls & emails from your eyes.