I am a submissive for a master...I know it is very unusual in this day and age for anyone to admit this. I do believe it is helping me come to grips with emotional issues I have been dealing with. As the master breaks down my will I find issues I have to face and deal with to remove his ability to hurt me. Is this a healthy way of solving life problems...probably not, but why is it working.
2006-08-01 09:04:41 · 4 answers · asked by Sherbert e 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It sounds like your Master is putting you on a course of ego-destruction, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes one's ego gets in the way of dealing with problems, and by overcoming ego can a true self emerge that is now forced to confront the inner demons that the ego selfishly guarded you against.
To answer whether or not this is healthy, I suppose that requires some more information. I will say that it takes a great deal of strength and courage to be submissive. Some might think that it is easy to pass along the difficult decisions to another to sort through. However, no one else can ever sort what goes on within, so that actually never happens. Instead, the courage is making the leap of faith in trust that what you submit will be used for your benefit and not to your detriment.
Being submissive does not equate to being passive, and it sounds like that is the case here. Instead of postphoning issues, you are working on them in an assertive fashion. Perhaps all it needed was some of the unique synergy that a D/s relationship can generate.
To answer your main question, I believe that the answer is yes, but not for everyone. Some work out their issues by assuming control over the environment from which they emerge, which is classic Dominant behaviour. Others find paths that do not involve D/s, or even other persons. Since being a submissive has been beneficial for you, and you do not seem to be worse off because of it, I say that you keep doing what you have been.
Best wishes for you and your Master.
2006-08-01 17:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a certain extent, if it's already helping you, why ask? Anything can be unhealthy if you have to rely solely on that thing to deal with a problem. When you "need" it, then it's a problem. Or if there is physical abuse that goes along with being submissive, too much can be damaging as well.
Just don't overdo it, and don't be ashamed of using it.
2006-08-01 16:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Meh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you just want to be told what to do and how to do it. It is a lot easier than making decisions on your own. If you keep this up one day you will wake up feeling like a doormat and look like one, too.
2006-08-01 16:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever floats your boat - just stay away from my children
2006-08-01 16:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Adam P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋