I have a complicated situation....?

Question

I have been in a relationship with a guy for almost 6 months now. We are both in our 20's. We really like and care alot about eachother. The thing is, our parents don't know about it. I think they kinda suspect it but they haven't figured out yet. They've asked both of us about it, but we haven't come out with it yet. I think we should just tell them so they can hear it from us, even though they may not agree with it. He feels like if we tell them then it will create pressure on us, as far as them feeling like they have even more of right to be up in our business about how the relationship is going, whether or not he is treating me right, and so on because our families have been knowing eachother all of our lives. I can see where he is coming from and I don't know what to do. We both have been really honest with eachother about our feelings and they are genuine. We have a pretty solid relationship so far. We both have good intentions for eachother. What should we do?

Answer 1

Yeah, tell them why not. Your parents are learning it "from other sources" anyway, and it creates a pressure on you guys anyway. Start out with something small and simple, like, "Me and this guy really like each other. We've been going out. I wanted you to know." You're probably fearful that they strart prying and asking for how long have you beed going out, just how close you are with each other, and howcome you still didn't tell them. They do it because they feel left out and because they are worried about you. Make sure your answer shows that you love them and respect them and care a great deal about them; also, that you take your relationship as responsible adult, not as a rebellious teenager.

Answer 2

It's terrible that you have to keep your love a secret. If you really care about each other, maybe you should just be open about it. It will take a whole lot of pressure off the two of you just not having to sneak around about it.

If you are afraid of there being pressure to get married or something, that's valid. It could happen, but even if they do that, you don't have to succumb. It's your life.

I have been in a relationship for six years, I am 27. The parents on both sides can be a little annoying, but it's not too bad. We might get married, but we're not ready yet, and that's just how it is. The family has learned to accept it.

Above all, believe in your love.

Answer 3

I would tell your parents but I would also let them know that the 2 of you have a solid relationship and that they don't need to step in and be a part of your relationship with him because that is your business not theirs, remember you are a grown adult now, your parents can't be making decisions for you they can tell you that they either support or oppose of the decision but they can't make the decision for you and sometimes time tells when it comes to a relationship. My dad's parents hated my mom when they got married but now they tell everyone that my mom is their favorite daughter in law!! So it may not work in your favor in the beginning but in the end they might see that things aren't the way that they thought they were going to be.

Answer 4

You should tell your parents.
I think you and your guy are worried about how awkward it will be when everyone wants the details. Normal.
When the question are too personal say so, and if there is pressure, tell them not to pressure you.
Your both 20ish, and six months into a relationship, the awkward will go away.
Good luck

Answer 5

come out in the open with it. As long as one of you is trying to 'hide' the other. then you aren't being honest with each other.

Yep, your folks will twenty question you. Its one of the nice lil perks of raising you your entire life. Not to mention, they've been there and done that. So they may spot something you'll miss.

Just say yep, we are dating and go ahead and do the family thing. Its not so bad. I ended up meeting My wife's entire family on our first date.

Answer 6

If they hear it from you guys first, then that will kind of take the pressure off and it might make them accept the fact that you two are an item.

Answer 7

toughest situation to do, yet yea, i might throw interior the towel. appears like a job to maintain up with this relationship. A relationship shouldnt be a job however. it is going to be 2 human beings in love and having the ability to enable eachother be responsive to the type you experience. Its approximately no longer thinking approximately what to assert and what to no longer say. seems such as you opt for for somebody who will open up extra. good luck with each little thing

Answer 8

why have you been hiding it from your family? but i am sure that the best thing is to tell them...if they dont like the idea of you two being together, they might get mad for a while but when they see how happy he makes you they will understand. its always best to be honest, you feel very free. i know from personal experience that hiding things from my parents is very sufficating. but letting them know how you feel and stuff brings everyone closer, and like we all learned in elementary school: Honesty is the best policy!

Answer 9

Have him ask to date you....better late than never...its the respectable thing to do...there should be no reason to go behind any ones back, your of age both of you should act it and do it right...your parents will respect the effort but doesn't mean they will be jumping for joy.

Answer 10

what he decides is his owon problem, but i think letting your parents know. they will not be happy when they find out you have been hiding somthing from them, and will assume somthing is wrong, like he's not a decent guy or there is some problem, and you don't want them thinking that.
I am sure they will be happy to meet him, once tehy know how much you care about him.