My hub and another married woman had kissed and made out 2 years ago. The woman and her hub are common friends with my hub and I and another 5 couples, we have always hung out and been good friends. Anyhow I found out from my elder sis about my hub and the Woman's encounter. I also know that it was once, but everytime they met at parties and all, they would stare in each others eyes, hug each other, dance closely when they could, and talk. My hub had told her that he could not see her anymore and they could be friends, but that he still liked her. Well that was still a year ago he confessed feelings. then over time we moved away from her because of hub's job. I got prego, had a baby girl who is 3 months. However even when my hub is here, and the woman is 7 hours away, they email about daily how are you’s, what are you doing, what are weekend plans, and they want to know daily, weekly details from each other. Well the woman is the one who writes my hub the emails in yahoo and myspace
2006-08-01 08:51:43 · 9 answers · asked by toralm1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when she writes to him, then my hub takes the time to reply back to her sometimes 3 in a day, other times he will wait 4/5 days to reply when he has time. But he does reply, just does not initiate? Why is that? And why is it that if he is going to be in her town, he will email her hub and other couples, including some wives and tell them he is coming or they should plan a dinner. Why doesn't he email her in that as well and ask her about dinner with everyone? Why does he leave her out, and then why does he email her all detail anyway about what he does, and his plans and his work and all that? why he can email her back 2 of her emails at one sitting? Does that suggest he does like her alot still???
2006-08-01 08:52:24 · update #1
Yes, that's proof that he likes her a lot still. What he should have done was stayed away from this woman as far as possible and cut off all communication so that he won't get tempted by her. But instead he still leads her on and make himself vulnerable to being tempted by her. All that is going to happen is one day he's going to break down and actually cheat on you with her... not that he hasn't done that already... he might have not slept with her or anything but he is mentally cheating on you right now.
You really need to re-assess your relship with your hub. I know it's easier said than done, especially you have a baby with him. But I can sense that this is utterly destroying you inside- you need to make do of this situation, either leave him or stay, but if you want to stay you have to confront him and make your own demands. If he still won't budge and you think you can't leave then you just have to turn a blind eye on this situation otherwise you're just going to get hurt even more. I know for a fact that many women do this- they just let it go because it's too complicated (b/c of kids, finances, etc.), but whatever the reasons are they do stay with their cheating husband... honestly I don't know how they do it but I'm guessing they probably just close their eyes and pretend it doesn't happen...
Btw does HER husband know what's going on between them? If he doesn't I think you should tell him.
2006-08-01 09:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's living in some fantasy world... For whatever reason, he needs an escape, and it seems like this is his escape. He doesn't need to "initiate", sounds like this woman has plenty of "initiative". If I were you, I would have a serious chat with him, and tell him to choose. "We're friends" excuse is lame; c'mon, do *you* have ANY friends you e-mail 3-4 times a day?? With a baby on your hands, I think not! Unless you're romantic partners separated for a period of time, it is NOT normal to e-mail ANYONE several times a day. He needs to grow up and get a grip on reality.
2006-08-01 09:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Jerry Springer material
2006-08-01 09:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They still have feelings for each other & are trying to make it not so obvious. You should talk to him about his true feelings towards her & if he wants any kind of life with you & your child then he needs to cut ALL ties.If not, then get out before you & your daughter end up hurt (emotionally)
2006-08-01 09:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, just ask him what is going on and let him know that he needs to stop his contact with her and be a family man, or pack up his Sh*t and hit the road walking to her, their better fish in the sea.
2006-08-01 09:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by J J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a jerk, dump him. You knew a long time ago there were big problems - don't blame it on the other woman - so why in the world would you have his baby?
2006-08-01 08:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and tell him you need a definitive answer. If he can't give you an answer then make it simple for him - give him a choice - you or her! Enough already!
2006-08-01 09:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ilsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh, you really have to ask us? Apparently, he hasn't gotten over her yet. You are playing a no-win game. Dump him.
2006-08-01 08:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋