My mother in law goes on about how my daughter looks just like her son, or just like her when she was little. She says she gets her curly hair from herself (even though I have naturally curly hair) and other such like rubbish. She invites herself around when she likes and when I ask her to call first, she simply refuses and says "well I won't come at all then, why should I phone").
She discludes me from family photo's. Says she hopes our child will be a boy so we don't need to have more(like it's any of her business).And has a very jealous attitude towards me sometimes.
Is she a crank or am i just too sensitive?
2006-08-01 08:42:47 · 8 answers · asked by Gypsie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop her! You know, you're never going to be popular no matter what you do. So you might as well get your own way. When she says your daughter looks like her, think of an answer and have it ready. If she won't phone say: "That's up to you" if she says she won't come, rather than phone. Tell her you're planning on a family of six children. Stand your ground. She might not like you but she'll respect you. And nothing you can do will make her like you.
BTW - my mil is lovely, my father-in-law was a nightmare!
2006-08-01 10:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 11⤊ 2⤋
This problem is quite common. Mother in laws treat us like strangers, because we are strangers to them. We are not good enough for their sons, no matter how good we are. Yes, of course she is jealous: if not for you, missy, her son would be still living with her, for all she knows.
She probably feels excluded herself, this is why she maybe likes to invite herself over and "prove" it to everyone that she is part of this family and she doesn't need an invitation. She probably feels very insecure about her future, this is why she's clinging to your family and trying to put you down at the same time.
Maybe when I have a son, get old and become mother in law, I'll understand.
2006-08-01 08:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my 2 daughters-in-law and wouldn't want my grandchildren to have any other mothers. I guess i have been lucky. They regularly tell me they love me. You should say what you think if it's kind and then kind things will come back to you.
If she continues to be mean try to find out why....
2006-08-01 08:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jean B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sound exactly like my EX mother-in-law. Some women are just wicked. She thinks no one will be good enough for her son. Yes, from what you said she sounds like "Marie" (Raymond). Hang in there!
I am remarried now and adore my husbands mom.
2006-08-01 08:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother in law is jealous. Its a simple answer but its what it is. Just be grateful she doesn't live with you!
Personally I get on with mine, shes funny.
2006-08-01 09:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to stand up to her and tell her that her actions and comments are not appropriate. Your husband needs to take you side because you are his wife and the mother of his child. He needs to tell her that if she cant accept you completely then she should stay away from him and your child too!!
2006-08-01 14:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you said "jealousy" on the mother-in -laws part of course
2006-08-01 08:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't. we get along quite well.
2006-08-01 08:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋