About three months ago, I rented a nasty movie for my wife and I to watch together, to spice things up. When a scene came on with this black stud humping a pretty white chick, my wife said, "This is getting hot. They are both really into it!" Later, we had fantastic sex. Now, after all this time, I offered to get another movie for some more fun. My wife said, "Can you get one like last time, with a hot black guy?" I wasn't jeolous (a guy is not gonna come through the tv and **** my wife), but I asked her why it was such a turn-on for her. She told me that I kept her more than happy, and she would never cheat on me, I was her one and only man, etc. She just said that black ***** look the best in the movies and they were a HUGE turn-on. No pun intended. She explained that it was a common fantasy. She countered that she isn't worried that Halle Berry turns me on. Am I wrong to be concerned? What about this "they look the best on TV" stuff--is that just a BS line? Is this weird or common?
2006-08-01 08:42:05 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX I think your wife is being honest with you. I think seeing a black guy is just a fantasy that turns her on but she wouldn't be tempted to go out looking for one. I think seeing a white guy in her eyes may remind her of you and she'd be more intimidated by that when his face isn't showing. And ofcourse that wouldn't turn her own thinking of you with another woman. Black guys are safe for those interest goes as far as the tv. Don't worry, she's all yours. As for me, they are too huge and hurt like heck and looks good on tv. I love my white man. He's perrrrrrrfectamundo. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-01 08:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay i'm a bit confused, you rented a dirty movie to try and turn your wife on. It did, you want to rent another but you're now worried. What about exactly? The fact that a porn star was sexually arousing or that it was a black porn star? It's the age old fantasy, you get turned on by something new. For her it's a black guy, big deal. If you get your rocks off watching a coupke of lesbians in a film I'm darn sure your wife won't panic that you want her to have an affair with another woman. IT'S FANTASY!!! If it frak you out that much I suggest you don't get any more films of that ilk in the future.
2006-08-01 08:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Pookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fantasy about other women all the time. Just cuz your wife is doing the same thing you are doesn't mean she's gonna cheat on you. If you enjoy other women, your wife has the right to enjoy other men. As long you two don't act out on it. Guess maybe you just rented the wrong movie.
2006-08-01 08:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Randi L. Many women will not even look at a porno much less with her husband. Get over it.
I for one have never been with a black man, but I know that many I have seen in adult movies have a huge penis. And of course a woman is going to be curious as to what a penis like that would be like. But my husband and I love each other, and I would never cheat on him just to find out. You need to get over it and enjoy the sex you and your wife are having after one of these adult movies ya'll share together.
2006-08-01 08:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you must fancy the women in these films, or you'd not want to watch them. They probably have bigger breasts than your wife etc. What's the difference?
It's just a fantasy, and something she's comfortable sharing with you, don't turn this into jealousy or competition thing, you're not going to win against whatever this is because it's all in your mind.
Just enjoy the fact that you both enjoy the films!
2006-08-01 08:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by jaydid_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very very common. Don't stress it, she's not gonna run out and start taking on every black guy she meets.
But yea, its an extremely common fantasy for white women to fantasize about black men, and black women to fantasize about white men.
btw, yea, its just a little BS that they look the best on TV, its more that it just turns something on in her head. Who cares? Enjoy it and take advantage of it.
2006-08-01 08:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want her checking out other guys you shouldn't have rented porns. Is she getting hyper about the girls in them? No you shouldn't worry and yes you are wrong to question her. If I were you I would be grateful that she trusts you enough to tell you her innermost thoughts on the subject and that she has enough faith in the man you are to believe you can just enjoy it with her, ask too many questions and you will accomplish nothing but convincing her to keep her true thoughts to herself and shutting you out and once that happens your relationship is toast anyway. And if its the whole BIG and black thing you are worried about PLEASE drop it already, we don't care! You guys obsess and measure your worth by your penis size and to us thats just ludicrous and juvenile, get over it, she married you just the way you are, what more conformation do you need that your d*ck is just fine with her?
2006-08-01 08:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural to feel that way, after all if u were her first , you are all she has experienced with sex! This doesn't mean she doesn't have other fantansies especially if she hasn't tried them out before, hence why some girls go out with so many guys. My advice, rent more black on white porn (and yes the color and size does turn a girl on) and when she is getting hot, take advantage of that and have some fun!!
2006-08-01 08:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be democratic and get a video of a white guy doing a black girl.
Besides, she can look and not touch, and I'm sure you do the same with Halle Berry ;)
2006-08-01 08:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm i would say No you are just jealous but your first mistake was renting a movie with a black guy in it, Try getting a movie that you would like to bang the girl then say the same thing she said. and if she gets mad say now you know how i felt about the black guy
2006-08-01 08:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dum Spiro Spero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋