2006-08-01 08:36:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
PEOPLE THINK THAT THEY ARE WRONG AND ARE NOT RESPECTABLE FOR NOT HAVING A HUSBAND TO GO ALONG WITH THEIR KIDS. THEY THINK THAT THEY ARE EASY AND SUCH AND SUCH WHICH IS COMPLETLY WRONG MOST OF THE TIME.
ALSO THEY THINK THAT A KID CAN'T BE RAISED RIGHT WITHOUT A LIVE IN FATHER BECAUSE I HAVE HAD MY MOTHER ONLY FOR MOST OF MY LIFE AND I HAVE GOOD VALUES. I F*CK UP SOMETIMES. I'M NOT PERFECT THOUGH. NOBODY IS.
2006-08-01 08:49:27 · update #1
Because some people are of the OLD SCHOOL and believe that you have to have both a mother and a father to raise a child with a correct upbringing.
I was a single mom for over 18 years and did a good job all by myself and I am very proud of my daughter and her accomplishments
2006-08-01 08:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by georgia_102560 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom was a single mom and i sorta noticed the different ways she would get treated. kind of like people looked at her with all those kids and no husband. but people are gonna talk especially if you live in a small town and most definitely if you're dating... what you should do is try to make friends with other single moms that share the same situation as you do and you guys can support and talk with each other about these issues.. Nevertheless, people are always gonna have an opinion and might give you crazy stares but it shouldn't bother you as long as you realize who you are. to hell with what other people think.. you pay your bills, work and take care of children heck your superwoman.. Just get tough and get some thicker skin. Use this stigma against the single mom as motivation to be even better...When someone says you can't do it set out to prove them wrong..
2006-08-01 15:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been a long time since I've been aware of any stigma. That said, I have resided in the N.W. and now further North and it seems people are more "independent" minded.
Personally, I do think it's better to have both present...yet if given the choice of having one great parent or one good and one terrible...better to have the influence of only the good.
edit:
To the above poster, "The woman should have thought about that before they chose to make kids with that type of man"
Sometimes your spouse is a seemingly wonderful person but people can and do change!
Unfortunately, not always for the better.
2006-08-01 15:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by p2sgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because the "single mom" stereotype is flawed. Not all single mothers are crack heads that live on welfare in trailer parks ... but that seems to be the mental image that people have whenever the term "single mom" is used.
It's totally wrong! A lot of single moms work hard to make sure that their children have a good life. I was a single mom for 3 years, and I worked part-time and studied full-time, so that my girl could have a good life. Yes, I was on welfare, but I didn't smoke, drink alcohol, or do drugs ... I used the money to pay our bills and put food on the table, and to give my little girl things at Christmas and for her birthday.
I didn't, and dont, expect sympathy from anyone. I made the mistake of getting pregnant to the wrong guy. But you know what .. I wouldn't change that mistake for anything, because I love my girl more than life itself, and I wouldn't give her up for anything in the world!
I think a few bad examples of any group of people tend to taint the bunch (for example, terrorists taint the view of the entire Muslum population) ... it's not right, but it happens.
2006-08-01 15:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study after study shows that children need both parents to raise them. Many people blame the mother for not holding the father accountable for his end of the deal. Or they assume she was promiscuous and having casual sex that resulted in pregnancy. I'm not saying it's wrong or right, but I'm sure that's a big part of it. What's more interesting is how single dads are put on a pedestal for sticking it out.
2006-08-01 15:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What *kind*?
"Single mom" is a relatively recent p.c. term that lumps widowed mothers, divorced mothers and unwed mothers together. It was apparently coined to spare unwed mothers shame.
There has never been any stigma against the honorably widowed, although there once was against divorced women, with or without children. However, with all three types of mothers termed the same, it's easy to see how one could be confused for another!
I'm always careful to specify "widowed mother" or "divorced mother", so as to avoid the problem.
2006-08-01 15:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is. Perhaps you have had a bad experience. My thoughts are that I deal with my children (my children) with my conscience. If it feels good I do not care what anyone thinks...if it does not feel good, I won't do it. Motherhood is so special and such an important job that you do not have time to deal with what others think. Just do your best.....in the end it is about you and your child.
2006-08-01 15:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by jlcaughlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem I have is with single moms wearing their poor choices as a badge of honor. They like to go around and tell everyone that they are a single mom and try to get sympathy. While they are spending all of their time being selfish they don't realize that they are hurting their children. Their children deserve to have 2 loving parents raising them. Also, don't give me the crap about it's better to have one loving parent instead of having a dad who is abusive. The woman should have thought about that before they chose to make kids with that type of man. It's time to quit walking aroudn like you are the victim and start taking responsibility for your actions.
2006-08-01 15:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong to make a snap judgment about someone based solely on their marital status. However, most single mothers I know are single because they are selfish and lack morals. Children deserve a mother and a father who both love them and are committed to raising them in a loving household.
2006-08-01 15:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun.....First Off i would like to say my hats off to you and many other single parents...there's not many people who can do what you do...having a single mom myself i saw first hand the hard decisions and worry she faced raising us..no family single parent or otherwise is an easy thing to take care of and the people that give you looks like that rarely have a family to take care of to begin' with there for they are clueless....when i see a single mom with her kids i try to smile and be friendly....after all there plate is full enough with kids, school, babysitters, and making ends meet....the last thang they need is some one that has no idea the hardships they face every single day judging them at face value....i wish you the best hun....love daisy
2006-08-01 16:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋