I would like to know because my last g/f of almost 10 years was sleeping with men and I had NO IDEA.. Well I did but i thought i was crazy for even thinking it.
2006-08-01 08:24:38 · 16 answers · asked by anji13 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As a bisexual woman, I've noticed that the stigma around bisexuality in the female queer community leads some women to identify as lesbian even when they are not. They are bisexual but don't want to face themselves or their friends as a bisexual so they lie to their friends, families, lovers, and selves about being a lesbian. Then then fall for some guy and its so shocking. If they had just been honest with themselves from the begining this wouldn't happen.
There was this girl at my college who was this out and outspoken super lesbian and she started sleeping with a guy one summer and still claimed she was a lesbian and not a bisexual. Then once she stopped sleeping with him, she went back to her old ways of ripping on bisexuals. We really didn't like her.
2006-08-01 08:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I knew i develop into gay on the age of 9. i'm virtually 17 now and no substitute in my sexuality. i'm nonetheless a gold celeb lesbian. i'm very certain that I under no circumstances choose to sleep with a guy because i recognize that i'm a lesbian. I concur with what everyone else is putting forward besides. they have made very sturdy factors. even if, the pressures that lesbians get to sleep with adult males is astounding. i develop into forced to sleep with adult males with suggestions from my friends, male friends, my homophobic mom and each and every thing. at the same time as a guy says he's gay to a lady, she frequently takes it and then leaves. the position else a lady says she is a lesbian to a male he says you merely choose my d!ck. i develop into instructed that i could not recognize i develop right into a lesbian until eventually I had sex with both genders. Granted, i recognize gay adult males are forced too yet they were forced a techniques below the girls persons and females persons were MADE to imagine that they were immediately, perplexed, or merely needed the right guy. human beings frequently supply up on a gay guy and enable him be yet with women persons they save on attempting as an instance her immediately. (be conscious: i'm no longer putting forward it really is with everyone, i'm merely retaining what i have considered and my reviews like you're.) human beings choose to study that it is not any longer about having sex, it is about sexual allure. I have a sexual allure to women persons merely, no longer to adult males.
2016-11-27 19:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by noyola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started coming out as bi and writing about it for local LGBT papers, I had quite a few "womyn" tell me about looking at men, having brief affairs with men that they enjoyed, etc. These women were all publicly lesbian, and most of them still are. Yet I and my bi sisters got the grief.
2006-08-01 08:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really call a girl a lesbian when she's sleeping with men or has an attraction to them...
2006-08-01 08:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's sleeping with men, then she's not a lesbian. She's bi or straight in the closet. Go figure...
2006-08-01 09:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to sleep in the closet sometimes jsut for fun lol but nope never slept with man in the closet :)
2006-08-01 08:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That would make her bisexual, not a lesbian. And she was cheating on you, which is very bad, but has nothing to do with being a bisexual. She was just a bad girlfriend. Move on.
2006-08-01 10:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it does happen. You know (if youve slept with a man) that the real thing is different... Maybe she didnt think she could live without it. It is a shame that it had to be behind your back though. Im sorry, Hun.
2006-08-01 08:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by mydirtylittleself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that, that happened to you but she was bisexual and chances are she is just as sorry that it happened as you are. I mean she may have come out as lesbian without ever realizing that she was in fact bisexual.
2006-08-01 08:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a happily married woman with kids who has occassional flings with women...does that count??
She tried that lifestyle but realized it wasn't for her...at least not full time.
Her husband has no idea about her extra curricular activities....
Life is interesting...
2006-08-01 09:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋