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I mean in a relationship...Personally I think everyone with have their things that will bug the hell out of you, but is it better to have somethings rather than others???

2006-08-01 08:06:45 · 16 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Never has been, never will be. Regret is on the other side.

2006-08-01 08:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

It always is greener ... till you get there ... and realize it's a sandlot ... and you probably just tossed the greatest thing in your life and everything from this moment on willl have to live up to that "greener" side you selfishly left. Gotta remember this. That side you left, you got there under some pretense. I'd like to think it was love. But that's just me.

2006-08-01 15:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0 0

No, it looks greener but you can't see all the things that are wrong with the other side's grass until you get there.

2006-08-01 15:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0 0

The grass is never, ever greener.

2006-08-01 15:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 7 · 0 0

Ever notice that when you're single, all everybody talks to you about is how great it is to be a couple? And how when you're in a couple, everyone tries to tell you how much fun you're missing in the single life? Ever notice how you believe them? The phenomenon is as old as the hills, but people still fall for it. Desperate people end up in crappy relationships. People in pretty healthy relationships just pick up and leave because they don't want to miss out. So, I've gotta ask: is the grass always greener?

No.

Look, Chachi. Grass is grass. Unless it's Maui Wowie, in which case it's not just grass, it's an experience. But that's neither here nor there.

It's human nature to want what the other guy's got. I know it, you know it, and even God knows it, which is why two of the 10 commandments tell us not to covet things that belong to others. Though, I haven't heard anyone use the word covet in about 2,000 years.

Think about it. If you order the chicken, you wish you ordered the steak, especially if the gal next to you is really enjoying hers. And if you ordered the steak, you'd see someone really loving the chicken, and wish you had that. Whatever you do, don't order the fish.

We're greedy. We're indecisive. We're insecure. And no one likes the feeling that they're missing out on something fun. Or, by the same token, that they could have done better than what they have. Ever heard of "Buyer's Remorse?" Whether it's a pair of pants or a house, we second guess almost every decision we make, if even for a split second.

It's all a sham. You should know by now that according to your friends, the night you miss will always go down as the coolest night ever. If that were true, they could just hang up their hats, and never go out again, right? The same goes for being single or in a couple.

It's all PR. As a couple, it's your job to tell everyone how great couple life is. As a single person, it's your job to uphold your way of life, as well. It's like telling a friend about a great new restaurant, or a good movie. You don't expect them to run out and eat there or to go see it TODAY. But, if they have the time or the opportunity, you think they'd enjoy it.

Yeah, who's gonna walk around telling you:
"Hey, I had ramen noodles for dinner.again."

"If she yells at me for leaving the seat up again, I might kill her!"

"I spent last weekend alphabetizing my CDs."

"I'm not allowed to watch my favorite show anymore because HIS favorite show is on."
Not to say that either life is bad, and that we're all lying about how great it is to have someone special or how cool and carefree it is to be unattached. They both have their upsides and downsides. I mean, being in a couple sucks if you're with someone you settled for just so you could say you have a boyfriend. And being single can't be fun if you had to dump the love of your life to get there.

In both cases, it's very easy to get freaked out or desperate. And it's a deadly cycle. Don't believe me? Go tell some guy who's about to get married that his future wife is the only woman he'll ever sleep with again. Or go tell some 35-year-old single woman the story you saw on the news about the old lady who died alone with 100 cats. Next thing you know, he's calling off the wedding, or she's dating the loser who tried to pick her up last weekend. Within months, she's dying to be single again, and he's praying that his ex will eventually return his calls. These are extreme cases, but you catch my drift.

If you're tall, you'll wonder what it's like to be short. If you're fat, you'll wonder what it's like to be skinny. It goes on every day, in every life. And it's OK to wonder. It's part of what makes us human.

I know it sounds cheesy and all, but I'm a firm believer in the idea that everyone gets what they deserve, in due time. Being in a couple won't solve the problems of a single person any more than being single solves the problems of a person in a couple.

Some people are born to be single. Or, they're late bloomers. So turn off the biological clock. There's no rule that says you have to be married by 33. That includes the plan you came up with in your head when you were 10. Heck, when I was 10, I planned to be an astronaut.

And, some are born to be in a couple. You know, like the kid on the block who had a boyfriend at age 6. Don't be freaked out if you're in a good, fulfilling, long-term relationship, no matter what your friends say. Whether you're 25 or 55, someone will try to get it in your head that you're not ready. That you have wild oats to sow. Maybe there are a lot of hunky firemen and swimsuit models out there waiting to meet you, by why mess up something wonderful for the chance to find out? Heck, if that's your plan, you can spend the rest of your life looking for something better. And then you'll never be happy.

So even if you play with the idea of switching teams, remember that as soon as you do, the other will start winning again.

And even if the grass is greener on the other side, who's to say green grass is what you even wanted?

I don't even like lawn and yard work.

2006-08-01 15:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by buford_bargain_hunter 2 · 0 0

It may look greener on the other side but what they don't tell you is that you'll step in more dog crap over there!

2006-08-01 15:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by ninja_girl 5 · 0 0

No, it's not always greener on the other side. It just "appears" to be. ;)

2006-08-01 15:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by inaccord18 3 · 0 0

we all think that it is but i think it sometimes can be if ur in a really crappy relationship...

it's sometimes best to check out the other side especially if the realtionship is making u unhappy.

2006-08-01 15:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0 0

Do you think that you do not "bug" anyone? Look within yourself.

2006-08-01 15:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by jajls 2 · 0 0

not really please check yourself before moving on to the next pasture it looks good but never turns that way.what you are going through beleive you will go through the same bull**** with this one good luck

2006-08-01 15:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by lorettaq_25 2 · 0 0

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