My wife has been under alot of stress lately due to her grandfather having cancer. It has been compounded by the fact that her mother who is the next of kin has been out of the state on a vacation that has been planned for over a year. Over the weekend my wife has had to make some pretty tough decisions that were not made due to no living will.
The stress is understandable, and I have tried to be understandable. However, it seems like everything I do no matter what is not good enough. She is yelling at me and our son and I don't know what to do. The littlest thing is setting her off. I have tried to let her know that I am there for her. I am doing more around the house but in her view its not enough. I took off work yesterday and stayed at home with our son since our babysitter fell through which isn't that much of a problem but its our "christmas season" at work....any suggestions.
2006-08-01 08:05:30 · 6 answers · asked by blueraider93 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This one of those times when you have to be as understanding as possible. She is clearly overwhelmed by the events and is venting her frustration, pain, resentment, and anger at you.
Next time she does it, just tell her that you there for her. Tell her that if she needs to vent, you'll listen. Tell her she can even yell at you if she doesn't yell at your son. Ask her to talk about the decisions she has to make.
Can your mom or sister or brother or someone take care of your son while you take her out somewhere? Get her a makeover and a massage for stress relief.
This problem will have an end. He mom will come home and/or her grandfather will pass.
2006-08-01 08:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do right now. You could suggest counseling which would probably help her deal with the situations she's been through, but she might not be to receptive to that at the moment. My only suggestion is to keep letting her know you're there for her, but under no circumstances should she be taking her frustration out on your child. If that is the case let her know that's out of line and that it will not be tolerated. Try to support her in any way you can, but don't let her take it out on you either.
2006-08-01 15:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by grayk51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the hard times. Just keep helping out and trying to be a supportive husband. Eventually things will get back to normal, and things will cool down with your wife. Good luck buddy!.
2006-08-01 15:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by inaccord18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when people hear the word cancer right away they tend to go in grieving mode because it is a potentially life threatening illness your wife is simply stuck at the anger phase.my advice to you is to take you're son to you're local library one that has a story time for him and read up on grieving cancer because she is alone to make decisions that are life or death on top of being a mom and a wife she cant get past the anger and she probably is displacing her anger on you and your son because you are the closest thing to her.stay strong she will get through this but read up on it it may do you good.
2006-08-01 15:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your being a great husband and that's all you can do. until her stress level goes down theres not much you can do. Good luck. Your doing great!
2006-08-01 15:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by hazelis3258 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to comfort her and spend more time with her
2006-08-01 15:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by John Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋