2006-08-01 08:03:50 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a husband of some 38 years, if I had a penny for every time I caused my wife to lose her patience with me, I would be worth a small fortune. Provided it is not too serious, forgive him. We, men, can be pigs some (or most) of the time but expect our wives to forgive us. You see we are stupid, inconsiderate, vain, untidy, unclean, with smelly socks, dirty clothes, snore, break wind, smoke (sometimes), curse at the wrong time, but we truly love you for all you put up with. Sometimes we try, and having said all that, I am going now to make my wife a nice cup of tea which should keep me out of trouble for an hour or two. Take care, God bless - sincerely hope everything turns out all right..
2006-08-01 08:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Everyone loses patience with people all the time. You did not specify what he is doing.
My opinion is that it may be everything that your losing patience on. If you are recently married it is a BIG adjustment especially for men. All of a sudden they think the wife is a substitute for a mother.
If he is not helping with chores, make a list and split it. If he expects you to do everything, then do what is important to you and let him suffer when he has no underpants to wear or food to eat.
Patience is hard especially when you are frustrated, if he frustrates you then go take a walk or go get a drink with a friend.
2006-08-01 08:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Indianbutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience with him on what? I'll try to answer in a generic manner w/ no details its difficult to say.
First .. men are idiots when it comes to women. We really don't understand clues and might just get a glimpse of what you really want if you hit us over the head with it and ask for it directly.
Retaining that knowledge is a totally different matter. And like the equations for how long he retains what you need is factored in by beers and how many times we take naps and cr*p.
Basically if you're losing your patience then spell it out for him what you're looking for and repeat it (subtly) like again over the next couple of days.
My advice ... Don't talk or remind him when he just got home or when he's distracted by TV, sports, or anything else. Wait till you have his full attention and he's focused on you (not on how bad the day went). Then tell him what you want and be direct.
As for the "Why?" ... because if you don't be direct ... he won't catch on.
2006-08-01 08:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give us more details as of why you are losing your patience with your husband... either way, if he's your husband, you promised him something that goes something like "for better or for worse, til death do us part".... so you have to look at the problem and find a solution... communication is usually the best problem solver there is.
2006-08-01 08:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come back and edit your question by adding some details for us. Losing patience cause he's cheating on you? Losing patience cause he doesn't put the potty seat down or leaves his sock on the floor - big difference.
Details!
2006-08-01 08:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hi,so any problem in this world wil have a solution.in life there shoul be a mix of everything,joy sorrow,excitement,then only it would be helpful,being together in joy is no big deal,but being together in sorrows is the real test.whatever the problem is just sit down,have a fresh breath,and start analyzing what has gone wrong,wha is the basic reson for the problem,then ask khim to listen to u,make him understan in a nice way,what is the problem ur facing,and what coul be done instead.my gf allways says u need to take care of the people we love even if they dont care for u.so u do ur job,be calm try to do what he likes,take extra care,and may be go out for some romantic dinner.LISTEN CAREFULLY ANY RELATON IN THIS WORLD WOULD STAND ONLY ON TWO FACTORS'TRUST" AND'UNDERSTANDING'.sou trust him and understand his fealings.then one day he would do hr same to u.when u reach that place in this world .then there would be never looking back.so please be patient,if time has wounded u,it will surely heal it.ok
take caer of urself and him aswell.have a nice time.i pray to god that u get whatevr u r asking for and all the happiness in tis world.
byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
CHRIS
2006-08-01 08:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by BLR_DEHRADUN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chemically we are set up to move on to a new partner every 7 years or so. You just start to detest the other person, what they do, how they smell, the little things they do like how they hold their fork.
This is built in and unavoidable. Natures way of getting us to move on to another mate.
Good news is that it goes away. You just need to hang in there. Vacations that include a change of senery help by tricking your body into thinking you met someone new. Go to Hawaii.
2006-08-01 08:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That fact that you didn't explain why you are losing patience with him tells me that it is your lack of patience. Get over yourself. Work on your patience and stop blaming others for your issues.
2006-08-01 08:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by El Guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some alone time pronto. Gather your thoughts, relax, and think about the reasons you fell in love with him. Its easy to concentrate on the annoying things and forget about the good. Im guilty too. Just take a time out and re-evaluate. Good luck.
2006-08-01 08:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by chlobug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help us by explaining what you are losing patience about.
2006-08-01 08:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋