okay when i meet him it was love at first site and i cant forget him i've known him for 2 1/2 years. before he left we started talking and we talked everyday for 4 months then 2 days before he leaves he gets mad at me and doesnt say bye or anything. its been 3 months and i havent heard from him his in iraq should i move on?
2006-08-01 07:52:05 · 16 answers · asked by diamond_tuts 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He wasn't mad at you...he was mad at the fact that he had to leave and he didnt know how to handle it. So he pushed you away emotionally. It hurts him to much to keep talking to you and knowing that you're soo far away and that he may not see you for a long time.
I would tell you to follow your instincts. If you truly think this guy is the one, then you should not start dating other guys. Try to get in touch with him, write him letters, tell him that you still care even though you're apart. You will build his confidence. If he doesent respond to you after several attempts...reevaluate how you feel and then if you thnk you need to move on, then move on. He may come back to you later...what is that saying? "If it is meant to be let him go and he will come back to you later" or something like that.
Just one note: Marines are tough guys to figure out...they are trained so well to be soldiers (to fight, be on guard, etc..) that they have a hard time being open with their personal feelings.
Just follow your instincts, it's the best thing you got. whenever I didnt follow my instincts, I always regretted it.
hang in there and HooRah!
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2006-08-01 08:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like twisted guy logic. He may feel the same way about you but instead of telling you he shut you out because he is going in to a dangerous situation where he may not return and doesn't want to burden you with that loss. Why guys do that I don't know. If everything was fine until just before he left then I would say write him letters. Let him know that you are there for him and will listen if he needs to talk. Trust me....they need an outlet over there it is a hard life and it can change a man or woman drastically if they don't have someone to talk to. Ask his parents if they have an address for him. It couldn't hurt to try.
2006-08-01 07:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him stop worrying and do something about it. Write him long letters loving him. Send him care packages with practical as well as fun stuff and photo and treats. NO METAL ANYTHING, I sent homeade jerky, but I don't thinky you are supposed to. You may try that one alone cause they will send it back if there is any item they question. Sunflower seeds, pumkin seeds all that sort of stuff. Socks are a big one, send lots of those. Razors, deoderant, that sort of thing. Plenty of cards and support, don't whine too much cause he is having a hard enough time with boredom and fear. Be very supportive and proud.
Forget the leaving thing, be supportive. That is a wonderful gift to give any soldier, he will really need all the support and love he can get. Give him is pride. Freedom is a wonderful thing to have and everyone deserves it. If he forgets why he is there, remind him that it is world freedom that he is fighting for.
He will love you all the more for it!
God bless him from me! I'm very proud of our boys.
2006-08-01 08:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there b4. u gotta respect his decision, i kno its hard but he chose 2 join da marines. now my army husband is still in iraq but we talk when we get da chance. well they got missions 2 do n not have all da time 2 talk 2 us. my daughter misses him a lot but at least i saw a smile on her face when she got da chance 2 talk 2 him 4 a couple of mins. our marriage worked out. da risks overseas is a lot but they were chosen 2 go there, ts very dangerous but i try 2 cope w/ it. pray.. it takes a long time though, dont move on cuz his heart is going 2 b crushed when u leave him jus cuz he hadnt heard from u 3 months. if u have da hunch dat hes met someone else, leave him, but if u really love him n he loves u, give him da best support. hope this helps!!
2006-08-01 07:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by uallsuck.com@hotmail.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His getting mad at you was his way of breaking up with you so that you would not be waiting for him or worrying about him while he was gone. Forget him and since he was the one who left then move on and find someone else.
2006-08-01 07:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you leave things like that right before he got shipped out? But, because you DID, you should try to make contact with him. Get an address to reach him at, and send him a letter.
2006-08-01 07:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Aliza, Queen of the Night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sory to hear that, but yes, it's time to move on.
Joined the Marines back when I was 17. He has moved on without you and you need to get on with your life - I wish you the best.
2006-08-01 07:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on what it takes for you to move on? If you need to know he doesn't have feelings for you any longer, then I would say make every effort to contact him and find out what the status of your relationship is. If you're the kind that believes "actions speak louder than words", I would say move on. I think it's pretty obvious... if you were important to him he would have contacted you by now.
Just my opinion... ;-)
2006-08-01 07:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by lyf4ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if its real love,you wont think twice,if you really love him youl wait,If i might add If you think that your the reason he is mad,try contacting him,gradually apologise,if he really loves you he will forgive you,If its real love dont let it slip from your hands,keep him close.
P.S I hope this helps:)
2006-08-01 08:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you sould move on. its hard to do but you gotta. there a lot of guys our there seeking a hot young woman. you just gotta get out there, and find yourself a man.
2006-08-01 07:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋