okay my girlfriend is pregnant and she is about 6 months well last night i told her to give the baby up for adobtion because im not ready to be a father and i want to go into the mariens well she told me and she was not going to and that i should have said something earlier and i should be supporting her not giving her a hard time right now well im not ready to be a father and i think we should so i can have a life in the marines what do i to convice my girlfriend to or do you think it's wrong that i am even mentioning it to her because she was crying last night about it i don't know what to do im just so mad at her she wont do what i want her to do what do i do?
2006-08-01 07:48:52 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
trust me when i say i am thinking about her and me i do love her and i do want this to ruin our future she says she is already attached to the baby but yet can not give me one good reason why she wants to keep this baby all she says is it's hard to explain and that she is attached and have done nothing wrong
2006-08-01 08:04:41 · update #1
rot n hell
2006-08-01 07:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most everyone here.
Sack up, and be a man about it. Everything in life is not about what YOU want. If you weren't ready to be a father, you shouldn't have been having sex. Your only decision now is if you want to be a decent father to your child, or one that simply sends a check.
You are OBLIGATED legally and morally to financially support this child according to the laws of your state for (probably at least) the first 18 years of its' life. You cannot get out of that, and if you do anything else to try to coerce your girlfriend to "get rid of your problem", then you are just a selfish bastard. A child will not prevent you from having a career in the Marines.
How would you feel if your father abandoned you before you were born??? Think about it!!!
2006-08-01 08:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by peytonbarclay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force her to give up her baby anymore than she can force you to give up your dream of becoming a marine to take care of the her and the baby. But I don't really see how it's one or the other. The military offers excellent benefits for families, but you'd have to get married. Do you love her? You can make it work. If you would rather be on your own and in the military, unfortunately you'll probably still have to offer some kind of financial support of she requests it from the courts. If you still want her to put the baby up for adoption, then calmly explain to her why you feel it would be best for the child, not why it would be best for you. Although, maybe that's something to point out, that you are totally selfish and only thinking of yourself and what kind of father would you really be anyway?
2006-08-01 07:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by graybear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are DEFINITELY not ready to be a father. You come across as immature and controlling.
"im just so mad at her she wont do what i want her to do what do i do? "
What kind of crap is that? You got into this situation together. 6 months into a pregnancy isn't the time to tell her to back out.
Coming from a Marine AND a father of 2, you better start realizing that it's not all about you. Stop being selfish and start thinking about this baby who will need a father.
2006-08-01 07:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Pete and Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude you should of thought about this all BEFORE you "dipped your wick" shall we say!?! If you feel you are man enough to join the service and fight for this country why cant you be man enough to be a father!?! I gaurantee that you will be able to support your child in the service. Alot of men do it. If you dont want to marry the girl, that is fine but you made this child, you need to take responsibility for it. 6 months into a pregnancy is a little late to start considering your options on what to do. You can not force her to give the child up. It is her right and her decision to keep this child. I think you need to be as supportive as you can be right now. Especially since she is nothing more than a whirlwind of hormones and emotions right now. I am sure she is just as scared as you are about becoming a parent. I am by no means trying to put you down or look down upon you. If you want someone to talk to feel free to e mail me.
2006-08-01 08:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Janes_Addiction 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want a child or wern't ready, well tough, you were ready to have sex then this should have crossed your mind! You need to appoligize to your girlfriend then become a better man and follow through with this parenting thing. Trust me when you first hold that precious baby in your arms you'll never be able to let go. You'll love that baby more that anything in the world! Good Luck I Know You Will Make The Right Decision!
2006-08-01 07:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by dragonflygurl_32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have taken precautions so you wouldn't have a baby. You make your life what it is. You can still go to the Marines. Right now you probably feel really bitter towards her, but just take some time and think about things. When she has that baby, you will forget about ever wanting to give it up. Only then will you know what true love is. Just give a bit, and go from there.
2006-08-01 07:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's her choice. Don't you realize having a kid is going to screw up her life also? The difference is, she's taking responsibility. You need to do the same. When you had sex, you knew the risks. Now you have to live with the consequences. Do you really think it's fair to separate a mother and her child just because you feel like joining the Marines? I don't think you're cut out to be a Marine anyway. You need to be brave, strong and selfless. Do the right thing and support your girlfriend and child the best you can. You can resume your dreams when the child is older.
2006-08-01 07:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, man, you are one of the most irresponsible, selfish people I have ever heard of!!! WHY are you just telling her this now??? Like everyone said, you don't belong in the Marines. They value HONOR and DUTY and DOING WHAT IS RIGHT. You obviously don't, you're just a spoiled little boy who wants his own way.
You are going to have to support this child, because that's the way life is. DEAL WITH IT. She is attached because she's been carrying it around for 6 months!!! THAT IS HOW IT IS!!!
I think you should get out of her life and let her find someone with responsibility and heart. You obviously don't have either.
2006-08-01 09:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbajones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so screwed up in the head. You may as well give it up because everything you say can and will be held against you. She is getting ready to give birth.
This is a life lesson. Your going to be a father and dont worry, the marines will garnish your wages, and make sure your baby is taken care of. I think you should go on into the marines and let them make a man out of you because you sound very immature to me.
2006-08-01 07:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no business having sex if you are not willing and able to deal with the results! ... You should be ashamed. If you are not man enough to step up to the plate, you are not man enough to be a Marine!
OF COURSE SHE IS ATTACHED! SHE IS THE MOTHER. THAT IS THE WAY IT IS AND SHE DOES NOT NEED ANY OTHER REASON!
Thousands of couples have made it work in the past. GROW UP AND BE A MAN. TAKE CARE OF HER AND THE CHILD. If you are not going to be supportive and a real man get out now so she can find a real man. You will still have to support the child though.
In the future keep it in your pants if you will not take responsibility.
2006-08-01 07:54:16 · answer #11 · answered by Calina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋