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Question

I need self confidence. I need to open up to people in stead of being soo shy and quiet around people. Especially ones that are older than me

ur guys are giving me gr8 answers and I am definetley going for it. Thanx so much. I dont know how to pick a best answer. I am getting a better ideaa of how to be more outgoing

Answer 1

this comes from within.......try to relax when u find urself getting nervous take a deep breath and find something that clams u some good thought r something like that and just be urself

Answer 2

start by testing out your environment.. start making small talk to people such as a grocery store clerk when your in the checkout line, or people at work.. Keep it simple, the more you do it, the more it builds your self confidence..
Do somthing for yourself that will also make yourself feel good, like go get a new hair style or go buy a new shirt if you can afford it.. Self confidence comes over time. Its harder to get back if someone else is the cause of you not having self confidence. But its easy to do if your just shy.. Don't feel intimidated by older people. usuallly the 30 and 40 year olds are the ones who want to just give you good advice, you could probably learn a lot from them.. One thing I did is volunteered at a convalescent home.. (senior citizen home) i got to have lots of conversation with people that have a lot of life experience. It was fun and educational and helped change the way I think about people in general.. just remember, your in control of what you talk about, if you don't want to open up too much, you don't have too..

Answer 3

Around people who are older than you, what you need to do it to exude self-confidence and maturity. Look them in the eye when you talk to them and shake hands firmly.

If all else fails and you're looking for a conversation opener, start talking about something around you. The weather is an easy mark, but people still do it anyway ;) You can make a comment about the surroundings, or even compliment them on a piece of clothing or accessory they own. Make sure you truly do like it, but no one can resist a sincere compliment!

And, LISTEN...even if you don't feel like you have much to say, listening skills will make people think you're a good conversationalist. Nod, make little "agreement" noises (Uh-huh, I see, etc.) then ask them followup questions to show you're interested ("San Diego sounds like fun. Did you get to go to the beach?"). Again, no one can resist someone who is giving them undivided attention. They used to say that Bill Clinton was so popular because he could make you feel like you were the only person in the room.

And finally, you have to believe that you are a unique and interesting person, because you are!! No matter what you have or have not done in life, you have a unique perspective and realizing that should help out!

Answer 4

Confidence generally comes with age and experience. If you're still very young, then it's natural to feel "odd" at large gatherings and even "stupid" if you make even a small mistake. Remember that nobody is above making mistakes. I've seen Presidents trip and fall before a crowd, and you can't look clumsier than that!!!! If the reason for your anxiety is your older companions, then join people your own age. All the time, just be yourself. It is very easy to see through fake people!
I underwent the same problem until about the age of 17 when I realized that I was smarter than some people whom I thought were better than me. Now, at 22, nobody could push me around. I don't give into peer pressure anymore and have no fear in opening up to people I trust.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Be open-minded. Don't be afraid of other people. On the beginning they are always strangers but laer they can tur out to be marvellous peope. Don't think they will eat you when yu're gonna say something. Thats not gonna happen, unless you say bad things. Just be there, listen to people, always be sure tat you feel comfortable among other and try to meet as many new people as possible. Many people have problems with their shyness but it's not the way it's suppose to be - everyone is the same, some of us are only more open in meeting new people tan others. You do not need to be araid of being quiet. Find a group of people that have the same hobbies, similar personality or share the same points of view. It's gonna make everythng easier among those people. I hope you're gonna hide your shyness and open to people :)

Answer 6

Get a video recorder. While alone, practice "being yourself.." speak and "act out" events for that have happened and how you wish you'd handled. Do it over and over until you like the person you see on the camera. If no video is available- a tape recorder will do (this is what I did a long time ago).

And remember, everyone is screwed up in there own way. As we get older, we are socialized and learn to forget about ourselves and focus on what's around us. Keep working at it. You'll get there. I promise.

Answer 7

i started working at Baskin Robins this past spring and always see my friends from school. alot more people know me now because i get introduced to new people every night. it really is fun serving them and it feels like im hanging out with them instead of working all the time. i even met my new b/f there. he could tell i had a lot of confidence and asked me out rite on the spot. so never stare at the floor that is a big turn off for people and right away lets them know you have no self confidence. always have your chin up keep telling yourself no one is better than me im always better than them- but dont be too snooty about it. always be the bigger person. if someone gives you trouble just walk away or if your at work tell your manager.

Answer 8

i used to be that way, just forget about what other people think so much and just be yourself and do what makes you happy, i know it sounds cliche and i'm sure you've heard it a million times but thats all you have to do, its all in your head so if you can learn to just let it go then you will be much happier, once you do it you will find its not as hard as you are making it seem, and you will be much happier cuz people will be able to get to know you for you instead of just thinking of you as the shy one, also you cant take yourself too seriously, learn to laugh at yourself and you will be able to do anything, plus you will not have to worry about embarrassing moments, it goes along with the not caring thing, this last year in like the first week of school i was messing around with my friend pretending i was gonna kick her in the stomach and she grabbed my foot and i fell flat on my *** in the commons in front of everyone, i got up and laughed so hard at myself and no one cared i never even thought twice about it, i also fell down the grand staircase and i thought it was so funny, ya i know i'm clumsy, haha sry this is so long but i hope it helps

Answer 9

u kno i used to be just like u!! when i was in like 9th grade goin to sophomore year i just realized im losing SOO much by being like that so i just started slowly...like when i had a question in class i didnt ask bc i thought ppl would think i was stupid ... then little by little i started asking more...makin more friends bc i would understand and start tutoring....dude...just be yourself...its so much better! today ppl that knew me for a long time are just like "wow juliana u changed so much! i remember when u were that little quiet thing in the corner now ur the loudest!!" now i get yelled at teachers bc i cant stop talking....hm...girl just try it...how old are u? u dont wanna waste those beautiful years by being shy!

Answer 10

I used to have that problem. Here are some tips on how to get over that:
1.Feel good about yourself. (I started putting make-up on and doing my hair nicer...ect.)
2.Gradually start talking to people that are older than you. Or you can take a friend with you, it's alot easier that way.
3.Have some parties at your house. like to watch a movie or something.
4.Try to start to develope a sense of humor.
5.If you start feeling good about yourself others will notice and they will WANT to talk to you.

Answer 11

I'm like that too. you just have to go for it! sometimes it's more embarrasing to be shy than outgoing. Plus, if you really put yourself out there, you can meet some really great people who will like you for you, then you will not have to worry about being shy anymore.
Good luck :)