divorced should be final in Sept., I still love him very much, says he likes his new girl alot.
2006-08-01 07:29:57 · 32 answers · asked by GOOCHER13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honey all you need is time... and lots of it... good luck to you
2006-08-01 07:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your situation is reversed from what mine was. After about 6 months, I found a guy who had been in my life for most of it but never looked at him that way. Then one day I had. My ex went through the roof and still tried to control me and tell me what I could and couldn't do. I had 2 children with my ex so it was a little more difficult. But now my ex, myself, and my husband are civil to one another and could actually like the other in some senses. I think that it hurts more because somebody has what you don't. But think before you react, decide if it's jealousy because you don't have anybody or because you still love him. Maybe he is just afraid of being alone, or you are. Remember, there is a reason you're getting a divorce. Be thankful for what you had together, but your life is still yours and it can still be wonderful!! Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 07:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by WENDY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way he has apparently gotten over you! It is not going to be easy because you are still inlove with your husband. You need to take this time to reflect on you and what you want and go for it without any distractions. Don;t go out and sleep with the first man that say hi to you because that will only frustrate you r feelings even more. You need to disconnect yourself from your ex totally out of sight out of mind. this will start you on the way to recovering. Forget he has a new friend she is the rebound chick and it will not last at all. Just wait and watch. Throw yourself into a dance class, aerobics, scrapbooking, church voluntering,etc. something to keep your mind busy and off of the divorce. So say your prayers and ask for guidance through this trival time period and move on.
Always wake up and tell yourself how much you love you and hug yourself.
Good Luck/God Bless
2006-08-01 07:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something radical for yourself, like take a nice long vacation with a girlfriend. There is no such thing as just 'get over it'.
Best thing to do is turn and walk away. Go reinvent yourself, move to a new place, take a long vacation, learn to scuba dive, take a night college class
Your husband does not have a new girlfriend, she is more of a rebound friend. Don't make the same mistake. It took me two years to get over my ex wife. We parted mutually and I still loved her. She was remarried within 8 months. She is now divorced again. Take time for yourself, and ONLY yourself. Catch up on reading, or movies or old friendships. Just take a deep breath, relax and look at the world around you, it is now wide open again for you to do with as you wish.
2006-08-01 07:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on and for your mental health you need to do the same. Do you really have such low self-esteem that you could still be in love with a man who is clearly not in love with you and is even sleeping with someone else? Seek out a therapist to talk this through and try out some new things. Take a yoga class, have a girls night out with all your old girlfriends, take up knitting, become obsessed with American Idol. Anything to get this off your mind. My friend recently went through the same thing and she just about went off the deep end, because she tried so hard to save her marriage, she was even willing to take him back after he had an affair and was living with another woman. This is not healthy. It takes two people to make it work and if one is clearly not interested, the other will drive herself crazy thinking she can fix it.
2006-08-01 07:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Midwestern Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, Hubby has a girl pal, is that why you're turning out to be divorced? Who became it that needed him to circulate away, Him or you, or HER? If the intercourse became that solid, make him use a condom, yet decide for it, get excitement from the irony that now he's cheating on her! If the only reason you're turning out to be a divorce is that he needs somebody else from time to time. in step with probability you will desire to think again the place you're and learn up some on polyamorous relationships.
2016-12-10 19:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his new girl has no problem dating a still married man, then she has the same low morals as him. God only knows what all he is telling her to make himself look good and you can bet he isn't saying good things about you. The truth be told, he's probably blaming you for everything and making this out to be all your fault.
Concentrate on your life and wipe your hands free of this mess. You will be better off without him and in time you will see this.
2006-08-01 07:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking care of yourself, do what make you happy. try something new and fun. go out with the girl more often. you'll need time to heel, it is ok to feel hurt and still in love. but i'll go away over time. just fall in love with a new hobby. keep active it's good for your body and your soul. learn something new like pottery/cooking/whatever. You just got offered a new beginning, that advantage of it, enjoy it, and do it right this time, because now it's all about YOU.
2006-08-01 07:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Marlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry , but he probably already had the girlfriend. What you need to do is good out with some single friends, let guys hit on you, oh and they will because your hot, have fun with it. Until your ready for then next step, dating. Be like "Sex in the City" go out with the girls have drinks that man buy you, Dance, just don't think about you know who, what was his name again, I can't remember oh well, who needs him anyway. You'll find someone better, because you hot and sexy.
2006-08-01 07:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you have to accept that it is probably over. I would recommend a long period of abstinence. Give yourself time to get over it. Find out what really makes you happy. Get to know yourself first. Don't be in a hurry to hook up with the first smuck that comes along. You are probably better off without him. Hopefully you don't have any kids. Be grateful for that. Good luck honey, breaking up is very hard to do, but hopefully you will come out of this a stronger better person.
2006-08-01 07:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told him you love him, and if he still doesn't want a relationship with you, then your love for him, if real, should want him to be happy, whether with you or someone else.
It is sad that the love a couple has gets tossed by the wayside , in favor of anything but what started the relationship.
I feel your pain, dear one, but let the man go.
2006-08-01 07:34:23 · answer #11 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋