i need friends, i always sit in my room alone, im really lonely.. im a lesbian and i think its one of the reasons i find it hard to make friends b'cos in work girls would tease me about it.. ive always been a loner, i only have 2 friends both of whome i dont see often, i need people to go out clubbing with and just hang around with.. but im a really shy person and people say im different.. advice??? pleeeaasseee x
2006-08-01 07:26:38 · 17 answers · asked by shygirl83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are women who wont get the wrong idea and will be perfectly cool about your sexuality. I think it would be a good idea perhaps to talk to a counsellor so that you work through these feelings of loneliness and insecurity and feel comfortable enough to trust people, both men and women.....I get the feeling that you are so overwhelmed by fear that people will get the wrong idea about you. Ive been there and its very hard when you feel so worthless- I am still learning to accept and like myself and also just learning to believe that other people will like me no matter what my sexual identity or orientation...but its a lot better now!
There is hope, so hang in there honey!
2006-08-01 07:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi honey, you are different, because we all are, i am really sorry you are lonely, try getting a different job, or you could do a college course, that way you will meet people with similar interests to you. being a lesbian shouldn't hold you back and should not make people tease you. don't sit in your room, if you joined a gym and went at regular times, you would at least see people on a regular basis and this could boost your confidence. when i was at a low ebb a while back, i took on some voluntary work, and learned to swim, done a computer course and even done an abseil for charity, this may not work for you but i hope i have given you a few things to think about.
lots of luck for the future from tina.
ps think if you want to email me you can from the links available.
2006-08-04 11:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by tina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to meet anyone been stuck in on your own all the time, stuff the girls at work, what the hell does it matter what you are or are they afraid of their own sexuality, people who don't understand are cruel and there are lots of nice people out there who will not condemn you, are there any local lesbian and gay groups close by to were you live, you could look in Thomson Local or Yellow pages for that information, join a group they are all there for making friends and support, please don't hide yourself away get out and join a group or club then you will have lots of friends, good luck I hope you find some friends soon.
2006-08-01 19:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't know where your located but if your close i wouldn't mine hanging out with you or we could chat on-line everyone need friends and you have to be comfortable with you and who you are first enjoy yourself go out and have a good time you cant make friends by sitting in your room doing nothing just remember if you need someone to talk to i would like to be your friend and no i don't have the wrong idea lol
2006-08-01 15:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cateye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be your friend too, just email me or message me my ID is qwertyroo, you just need to talk to people. I've found myself in the same situation after breaking up with my BF, all my friends have moved on but slowly I'm getting there. Just be yourself, and if someone has a problem with you being gay then they aren't friend material...as long as you don't cross the line if they aren't that way inclined, then no one should have a problem with you just because you like girls, and it's less competition for us girls who like boys anyway! :-) try chatting online to start with...that helps to bring your confidence back up.
2006-08-02 05:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be ok. I'm a lesbian2. Been with my g/f 3 years. Not everyone is so judgemental. E-mail me if your close you can come hang out sometime. My g/f & I are 23 &25. Well talk to ya later.
2006-08-01 15:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by lez23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ill be ur friend where u from we can chat online dont be shy
2006-08-01 19:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by collene d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, make guy friends. anyway, i duno why, but why are lezbianz.... i dont like the idea of gays either, its not natural lol
2006-08-01 16:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by bunnyBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea make guy friends that are maybe gay so it doesnt matter u guys will never be in luv
2006-08-01 14:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lana M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT CAUSED YOU TO LOSE YOUR SELF ESTEEM?
TRY TO REGAIN YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE, WHICH MAY TAKE A LITTLE , SOUL SEARCHING!
DON'T LAY SO MANY GUILT TRIPS ON YOURSELF HONEY!!! and don't let others either!!!
2006-08-01 15:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋