I have never cheated in any relationship but I have been cheated on my past 3-4. All of them lied about it and slept in the same bed with me afterwards. I just don't understand how someone could do that. I divorced twice for that reason.
2006-08-01 07:21:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the same thing happened to me in both marriages so i know how you feel ive never done it either they have no heart you knoe liars are cheaters and cheaters are liars
2006-08-01 07:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by dann76067 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, "me," I'm in the same boat. I feel like I've been cheated on in the past few relationships I've been in, too. But you know what? Sometimes you can blame what you think is cheating on your paranoia. If you don't trust someone because of what has happened in the past, certain signs and things your "significant other" does could lead you to conclusions that are sometimes not true. Relationships end because of this. It's really hard to be with someone when you've been cheated on before. Especially when it's the both of you. All I can say is, if you can't work through the jealousy and mistrust - then there's nothing you can do. Maybe you should find someone who hasn't been cheated on before and who's kind of gullable, you know? Someone who won't watch your every move and who you can trust because she's never done anything bad. I don't know. Good luck.
2006-08-01 07:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is two fold:
1. You need to look into why you keep choosing individuals who will cheat on you. There may be a characteristic that is common to all of these individuals. In the future, I recommend weeding out this characteristic.
2. Not all humans are naturally monogomous. In human history, only approximately 1/3-2/3's of all societies have been monogomous. There is also the factor that many people suffer from instant gradification issues, and that there is little long run ramifications to cheating (if you even get caught).
2006-08-01 07:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are human and humans do some stupid things...I have been in relationships when the guy cheated on me and I turned around and did it right back to him...unlike you we wernt married I think that once people have a ring on their finger it is time to stop doing things like that and settle down...after all isnt that why you get married in the first place so you can spend you life with that person....
You are so much better off without the cheater and I am sure one day you will find someone out there who doesnt hurt you~
2006-08-01 08:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lucid_dreams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pattern? Merits some self exploration into why you keep finding people like this more so then to find out why people do it. People suck basically... What can I say?
Not to mention the fact that we all... yes all of us self included... all of us get exactly what we ask for in this life. Some people exist to be teachers and some to be students. The lessons are not always pretty but they are necessary otherwise we would never allow anyone to put us through it. Learn from it any maybe it'll stop happening.
We all, on a basic level, get exactly what we deserve. Scary thought huh?
2006-08-01 07:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a cold hearted worthless piece of crap could do something like that, I unfortunately made the mistake of cheating on my ex husband but I did feel bad after wards, I told him about it and we ended up divorcing, I will never cheat again, I learned my lesson.
2006-08-01 07:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't care about you or the people they hurt. they in life for self gradification. the "rush" of living.
Want a suggestion, i know alot of women don't like this i bet. But u need a dependant man. They for sure would never cheat on u. What i mean by "dependant" is the guy who always calls u, always wants to be around you etc.
2006-08-01 07:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because cheating is an act of total selfishness on the part of the person doing the cheating. these individuals have a sociopathic bent, in that as long as they get theirs, they don't care
who they hurt. also for men, sex is a physical activity, like playing baseball or mowing the lawn. for women it is an emotional investment.
2006-08-01 07:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not only about cheating, it's also about everything else called wrongdoings. some people just do it like eating and dont feel anything bad about it afterwards: coldblooded. but for some: perhaps they did feel bad, and dont want to think of it anymore or cant even think of what they've done coz they would feel so guilty and miserable like killing themselves. so what they do is just live their life and pretend as if nothing happened.
why would we feel miserable and let life be miserable on us when we are the one who've been wronged to and we are not at all to be blamed while those who wronged us live their life happily? dont punish ourselves. leave it to god and the course of nature. believe it or not, there IS justice in this world, it's only that we dont see it/overlook it/refuse to believe it/our judgement is much too clouded with miserable thinking.
life goes on happily for those who want to be happy (or believe that they are happy at least...)
2006-08-01 07:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Asitis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not in love with you but they love you. Or you financially or physically give them something no one else does. Her libido is stronger than yours. Many reasons and since I don't have enough to go on that is my best analysis. But you did it right? What were your reasons? Good Luck finding true Love:-)
2006-08-01 07:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋