You thought you locked the bedroom door, but your kids (10 year olds) walked into your room while you were in midst of s_ex in full nudity. What explaination would you give?
2006-08-01 07:18:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there....I just put some clothes on and went and talked to my son. I just explained things to him. Told him thats what married people do when they love each other and that its important to love the person you have sex with. He was just as embarrased as I was..but we had a great talk. He asked lots of questions he had probably wanted to ask for a long time..but had never had the nerve too. I told him if he ever had any other questions to just ask me..because there are no dumb questions and there is nothing to be embarrased or ashamed about. He will appreciate your being honest with him...and lets face it...10 year olds have heard lots of mis-information from their friends about sex. IF you sit him down and have a good discussion with him..it will benefit both of you in the long run. You might also tell him that in the future if the door is shut to knock first! GOODLUCK
2006-08-01 07:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is attempt to ask them if there is anything they would like to talk about .... in regards to what they saw. Inform them about sexuality and how it is sacred and shared between husband and wife without getting into the details. Be extremely vague. Do not try to act like they didn't see it bc both of you know that isn't the case. Confronting the issue does more good then harm for the child and it creates a more open and harmonious relationship. Besides you do not want to lose the respect of your child or be the reason for their trauma. Just explain about 'love' and how when two people feel extremely close and are in love with each other as husbands and wives (not that I stress that.... you dont' want to give them the idea that pre-marital sex is ok) that the two express their love by being very close. Just leave it at that. Apologize to them for having to see that but more importantly stress to them the importance of knocking on a door before entering.
Good luck
2006-08-01 07:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 year olds are wiser today than you think, and they probably realized what you were doing. Explain to them that you're a married couple and this is what people who love each other do to express their affection. They also seem old enough and need to learn about privacy and knocking first. Or, you could always double check that lock! You'll probably laugh about this for years to come, especially when they get older.
2006-08-01 07:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hasn't happened yet, but I would try to talk to them about love and realtionships that happen once a man and woman are married. Explain that it doesn't happen until after a man and woman become married, or if easier for the kids, until they are mommy and daddy. If they aks about other kids or people who do that sort of stuff, you will need ot decide how you want to play it. For my kids, I would say other people do things, but our church and our family feels it is bad to do that before you are married and mommy and daddy.
Oh, and get one of those hook and eye latches, put it at the top of the bedroom door.
2006-08-01 07:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. There are a couple of books you need to get... Where Did I Come From and What is Happening to Me.
Discuss these books and what your child saw as a group. If you can make your child feel comfortable with these conversations at a young age, there is a greater chance that future sexual experiences will be explored with consultation from you. Treat it as taboo and you can fully expect to be cut out of the loop on your child's sexual development.
2006-08-01 07:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Robert H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 7. I've already had the sex discussion with him in terms a highly literate 7 year old can understand.
I told him that adults like sex, and that in general it is a very private thing- like going to the bathroom. I've explained that if he walks in on it, that he needs to turn his little *** right around and go find something else to do, because it's not any of his business.
Also, I've explained that if you're old enough to be doing it, you're old enough to talk about it without euphamisms.
2006-08-01 07:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by cici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for the sex talk, my dear. Unless you want to be the object of an Oprah or Springer show in about ten years, I suggest you just suck it up and do the right thing. 10 is not too young.
2006-08-01 07:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what I would say...
I walked in on my mom when I was little, I got yelled at.
Now, I make sure my door is locked before, I don't want my kids to see that!
2006-08-01 07:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since it is a 10 year kid....who has enough inteligence to understand the things....i would rather not lie with him and explain him that we were making love....and change the topic
these type of incidence a child will never forget....and if we tell him a lie....he will remember the lie as well
so better option will not to tell a lie
2006-08-01 07:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Meetmein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the 10 years old is old enough to explain to them about the birds and the bees, they are propably not as nieve as you think. with schools now-a-days explaining sex to kids by 6th grade, i think you should explain before they get it from there friends *school ect*
2006-08-01 07:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by alleeshia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋