Do you think that it's harder to find love and stay married in this day and age?

Question

With everything that's going on in the world today.
(Why are we so quick to go get a divorce, your marriage should be worth fighting for.)

Answer 1

You could try my tactic which has worked for 24 yrs.

Say "darling, there is no divorce, only your murder!"

Answer 2

Honestly, no I don't think it's harder to stay married. I think that people rush into marriage too quickly and find out a few years later that they are with the wrong people. I also think that people are too antsy to find that special person, that they just settle with the person they are with and marry them because they've been together for "a long time."

I also think that values and morals have a lot to do with it. People argue over the stupidest things and actually let them escalate into something bigger. Sure I fight over the remote with my fiance all the time, but it doesn't lead to an argument...just some fun loving! :)

I also think that people are afraid to put all they have into a relationship because they are afraid of the commitment. They don't say or show what they feel and the miscommunication can really ruin a marriage, even if they love each other. I also think that adultery is WAY too easy for some people.

As far as what's going on in the world today...my fiance was in the military so I love to hear his opinions about things going on in the world, and of course I have my own...so we have fun discussions! :) I am also what you'd call a Hurricane Katrina survivor (south Mississippi) so since he's moved here with me, we're amongst all the controversy over that stuff. I think that all the hate in the world today should make us want to be closer to the people we love...right?

Answer 3

I think it is! With all the cheating and lying that goes on now days, I think it is harder to keep a marriage. I've never been married, but I am so afraid of that commitment. Not because Im not sure I could do it, but because (For example!) I just read a guy on here that had an affair after 10 faithful years!! If something can get to this guy after so long of being faithful, how do I know that my BF of only a few years wont eventually stray?! Its a very hard time with so many people in open relationships and willing to have a fling or a long term relationship on the side! It is almost turning into a trend instead of beling seen as bad.

Answer 4

I dont know that I think its any harder to find love, however, i do think its harder to stay married. Divorce has become so easy and painless that everyone just takes the easy road out. It should be worth fighting for but most dont. Too many outside influences in todays world!!!

Answer 5

I think that it's hard these days for sure. I'm living proof my husband and I have been together for seven yrs and our relationship was great, with normal relationship problems because of course no relationship is perfect. but as soon as we got married a year ago things have been so rough. We have been seperated for almost two months now and it's rough because I miss him like crazy. getting married is so much more than just being boyfriend and girlfriend it's a lot more obligation to one another in marriage. The thing is if you don't see eye to eye one gets mad at the other, and it's a lot of selfiness also which can hurt a marriage tremedously. When that happens one or both wants to bell out by getting a divorce instead of fighting for the marriage. sure it's hard work but when you stood before God, not so much as family and friedns but before God and vow to forsake all others and be there for better or worse, richer or for poorer, sickness and health then you should do just that. But it's hard when the other person won't comply with that when you're willing. The problem in my marriage is my in-laws namely his mom and grandmother try to take control over his life. they cursed our marrigae beofre we got married. They said that all we're going to do is argue and sure enough thats what happened. When you have other people involved in your marriage it's going to be a ******* diaster. So if you're getting married please make sure to keep people out of your marriage. or else it's not going to work when you're listening to other people who don't have a marriage anyway.

Answer 6

Yes, I do. I think it has to do with affluence, life expectancy, and ease of divorce.

Not that long ago, a married couple felt that their marriage was successful if everyone ate well that day. It was difficult to make a living and people were pretty happy if they were fed and warm.

Now that, for most people, the means of living are easier to achieve. So they focus more on their emotional needs and those are actually harder to meet for very long periods of time.

Additionally, people live a lot longer. Therefore marriages were shorter. Now, there's a lot more time to foul one up.

Lastly, it easier to walk away today than it is to fix it.

Answer 7

I think so because there are so many people who go with the emotion of the time instead of waiting to see if a relationship is right. Or they fail to communicate and work out their problems instead they run to court to divorce.

Everyone lives in the moment so they get married on a whim. They think it is really no big deal because you can get divorced so easily and back in the day anyone who was divorced was looked down upon.

Answer 8

Yes, one thing that is against us is computers, the porn sights, e-bay,( he spent over $ 100,000 on civil war- things- for the lack of a better word.) this is how I found out the to be ex- husband was cheating on me. I was not really quick to divorce , would you be after 32 yrs. of marriage?? The sad part is I still love him even tho he cheated on me, weird I know, but,... there were some good and crazy times we had.

Answer 9

A marriage takes two and most some men/women marry a body, face, money, job, friends, family without any real commitment. The problem is people lie/change and most of us just don't want to deal.

Answer 10

Mr. Chivalry says, "Every aspect of courtship, including marriage, has been degraded by society. Even relationship is a mere shadow of the past meaning of itself. Celebrity marriages showed people how easy it is to get in and get out. Infidelity is almost second nature. The true meaning of devotion is lost, and is going to be difficult to find again. (Mr. Chivalry will not retire though. There is hope.)"

Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

Answer 11

Yea, it's only worth it if both of you are fighting for the marriage to last. One can't do it, and after 31 yrs, fighting for a needless cause can get tiring so I let go.