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My daughter (I'm her dad), whom I love with all my heart, has been married for 2 years and it unfortunately has had a negative effect on our relationship. I feel jealous of her husband. Now she goes to him with all of her problems rather than me and I feel like I've become less important to her as her marriage progresses.

I miss her and want to have that loving and close relationship we used to have. How can I get my daughter back, or should I just be happy with the status qou?

2006-08-01 06:57:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Wow, guess what Daddy-o, your job just got good and started. Prior to My wife and I getting married, we tended to go to our mom's for help and advice on things.

For some reason, after we got married, guess who stepped up to the plate when we needed advice or support. Both of our Dad's.

My wife is closer with her Father now than she ever has been. Because he's the one that is there for her and for both of us. I know that if I needed to pick his brain for anything, He'd be right there for Me.

Try to do that for your son-in-law. Find out what the good parts of him are and just bring him closer into the family. That way he'll start looking to you more as well and will keep your daughter close.

2006-08-01 07:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 1 0

You can still have a loving and close relationship with your daughter it is just going to be different.

She has grown up and gotten married. She is not little anymore. While you will always be her dad you are no longer the number one man in her life. It is her husband now and rightly so. You are still very much an important part in her life just not as you were.

It is not her marriage that has had a negative effect on your relationship it is your feelings that your little girl has grown up. You need to deal with that. Your SIL will never take your place as dad but he is her husband which is very important.

You are never going to get your daughter "back" the way you want it to be. Yes she is going to go to her husband with her problems that is what it means to be married. Your relationship with her is only going to suffer if you keep expecting your relationship to stay the way it was, with you as number 1. She is going to eventually have children and your relationship is going to change. If you can't deal with the addition of a SIL how are you going to deal with grandchildren.

That is what it means when kids grow up. They become independant and they move on and start families of their own. She is still going to need her dad just in different ways.

What your problem is is that you are having trouble letting her go. You want her to be your little girl forever and that is not possible. With her change in her life you need to find you role in her life, which is different than the past. Best of Luck

2006-08-01 07:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0 0

You aren't any much less predominant in your daughter now than earlier than she married, she has simply entered another segment of her lifestyles. Please think me whilst I say she nonetheless thinks you're the major guy on this planet. Don't be jealous of her husband, considering the fact that the whole thing he ever does in lifestyles can be judged by way of her in the best way Dad might do it. If she has a well marriage it's considering the fact that you gave her the boldness and knowledge to decide on a tight loving guy to spend the relaxation of her lifestyles with. You set the illustration and the bar for which each guy will have got to meet in her eyes. Just be there for her and check out to start a dating together with her husband. She will consistently be daddy's little lady. And she is going to consistently want you, even though its simply realizing you're there.

2016-08-28 14:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, I care for my own daughter deeply as well, and there is little I would not do for her. At the same time one of the most meaningful gifts a parent can impart to a child is to nuture them along far enough in life that they mature into fully-functioning adults. After all, we will not be here in the long run to look after them, nor do I imagine they would welcome being "looked after" any more than we would have if our parents had sought to lead our lives for us in whole or in part.

It sounds as though you have done a good job in shepherding your daughter's development to that stage, and now she has to lead her own life, with her husband, in the natural scheme of things. Still you will be her Dad as long as you live, and for the gifts you have bestowed on her, even beyond that I suspect in her heart.

2006-08-01 07:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by anonymourati 5 · 0 0

look just try to stay as close as possible but remember she's married now [leave your father and mother and cleave unto your husband] sorry mr but it's part of life .

2006-08-01 07:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 6 · 0 0

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