My wife likes to be complimented all the time?

Question

I do it because I love her, but it seems like vanity? Does she need more self-confidence.

Answer 1

I think your wife just needs to feel appreciated. Maybe you should change the way you compliment her. Instead of Just saying "dinner was great." or "you look nice today", spice up the way you compliment her. Instead of short compliments, make her feel special by surprising her with them. Maybe when you're lying in bed, cuddle up close to her, and say "you really took my breath away when (insert something she did, made, or the way she looked)." Instead of the robotic compliments.

if she is constantly fishing for compliments, she may feel inadequate, and needs you to prove that she is indeed a good person/cook/wife/etc. Obviously she is lacking a feeling of appreciation, or feels she is lacking your approval. Talk to her. Communicate how much you do appreciate her, and see exactly what it is she needs from you.

Answer 2

What does "all the time" mean to you? If it's every hour, it does seem excessive. But if she's merely asking you to let her know you like how she looks when she's dressed up to go out, it's normal. Every woman wants to be reassured by her mate; I don't think it's necessarily due to vanity or lack of self-confidence. There may be other things you notice about your wife that signify problems - but by itself, the love of compliments from you isn't a big deal. I'd say, just keep doing what you're doing, sounds like it's working for her.

Answer 3

You hit the nail on the head--it's her low self-confidence asking to be reassured, because chances are, there's a "doubting Thomas" inside her head telling her she's not good just the way she is. On an average day, I tend to think I suck. I'm working on it, but it's a slow process. She needs to work on loving herself and believing in herself. Ask her. Talk to her about it, tell her it worries you. But obviously treat her kindly, try not to make it sound like an accusation (ie: "What in the world is wrong wiht you?" lol). Tell her to work on the things she doesn't like about herself, help her do it. You might suggest she go see a counselor, who can better help her with things to do to build up her self esteem. For me, it was simply realizing that I'm allowed ot take care of me, to be who I am, exactly the way I am and to hell with what people think. You don't actually say it, it's just a mind frame thing, you know?

Oh, the other poster is also right--if you have a tendency not to tell her you love her and think she's beautiful on a regular basis, she's going to ask for it. In general, women need reassuring that you still love and desire us, especially when "life" tends to get in the way of the "couple" (if you're busy people, then you should know what I mean).

Answer 4

Reassurance is different that stroking someone that is vain.

You are busy with work or on a home project and fail to recognize she cleaned the house or something else and she gets her feelings hurt..

Be aware of the home and things in it. Recognize things she does, and mention it.

Does she need self confidence? yes. Can you provide it? NO. She has to find it within herself. But you can point out things that do matter..

Answer 5

She needs verbal reassurance because she feels as if you don't notice how good she looks like. It seems as she have self-steem issues and she might think that you don;t find her attractive anymore just because you don;t say it enough.
Find other ways to let her now that you find her attractive, as if she request your compliments is because she is insecure about the way she looks and if you don't notice her anymore.

Good luck

Answer 6

It makes her feel that you still want her and desire her. She may be confindent but she wants to hear that you want her and think she is pretty and looks good.

Answer 7

tell her that you want to be complimented too

Answer 8

If it makes her happy and it's not restricting you, what is there to worry about?

Answer 9

I know, I keep telling her how good she is.....

Answer 10

YEP!!!