I am going to have my baby within the next couple of days I dont think I can handle labor. Is this natural?

Question

If I dont have my baby naturally I will be induced the 3rd, I am afraid I wont be able to handle labor. The pain will be too much or I will just freak out under the pressure. Is this normal? Do all women feel this fear, or could I be right?

Answer 1

Most people can not stand pain so they are afraid they will not be able to have a child naturally (with out pain meds) so they always tell the Doctor they would like to try it with out meds and then go with the meds.

Most Mothers do freak out from pain. I had my 2 kids with out meds, so it is possible :)

Everything will be fine and I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

You sound like you are in the exact same position as I am, as far as being pregnant and getting induced goes. So I feel like it would help to give you some advice. I've been through two pregnancies before, both were induced. Now I've been having pre/false labor for the past 2 1/2 days with my third. Although I've never been really scared about labor. I have been to the point in labor where I thought there's no way I can keep going and I started to lose it. And that's when you either get the epideral or they tell you it's time to push. Also knowing that this pain has a reason and purpose, that in the end you are going to have a beautiful baby in your arms, it makes it better. I have a friend that has no tolerance at all for the pain from labor, she just gets the epideral as soon as she gets to the hospital and does perfectly fine from then on. And she's even done it again, after experiencing it and knowing how much it hurts. The best advice I can give is just make sure you have a really supportive labor coach there to help you out, and remember in the end you will have a baby. Good luck!

Answer 3

For my first child I was very scared.I was to be induced on a Monday morning. That Sunday I was in bed all day feeling sick and throwing up. I was scared. After you go into labor all of those feeling vanish due to the pain and stuff, It hurts but the epidural really works well. Uncomfortable to get that big prick but oh so worth it. I heard induced labor is the worst and since this was my first child I had nothing to compare it to. When I had my last son I went into labor at church. I wasn't even sure if it was labor cause I had never gone into labor on my own. When I got to the hospital i was 3cm and 30 min. later i got to 4cm. The pain was uncomfortable but very bearable. At 5cm they offered me the epidural and I took it but I didn't really need it, just sacred it might get bad at the end and then it would be to late.Good luck and congratulations you will see after your baby is born you would go through it all over again.

Answer 4

First off, yes it is only natural to be apprehensive about the pain of labor.

Second off, get an epidural, it takes the pain away and makes giving birth much easier. If you don't want one of those there are other options. They don't work as well as an epidural but they will ease the pain.

I had my children back when everyone thought that you should not have any drugs during labor and I had 3 daughters natural. All of my daughters opted for the epidural and did well.

Either way, everything will be fine and when you hold that baby for the first time, all memories of the pain will be diminished.

Answer 5

I was nervous the first time to- it is normal. I would like to try to encourage you to relax though - it will be more painful and more difficult if you are anxious and nervous because you end up fighting again the labor and not working with it. Of course, I know that is easier said then done. But, I can tell you that the doctors are nice, but the nurses are the best. They are there for you and work with you. The nurses I had were wonderful and made the whole process possible for me. They really are there for you and encourage you, help you, etc. You can get meds for the pain if you choose to and that can help you relax and rest also. Rely on our nurses and ask any questions or tell them your fears as you go - they will work with you and help you relax and tell you what to expect each step of the way. It will be okay. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I think it is totally normal. I had my 2nd baby a year ago and it was still super scary with the 2nd. I mean, your body is doing something totally crazy. But, you will be able to handle labor. I won't lie and tell you labor doesn't hurt, because it does, but you have the right to pain meds and they are safe. Don't freak yourself out, it's not as bad as you think right now. Just remember, the pain is temporary (and with effective drugs, it is not very painful). It will end, and the result is awesome. Good Luck to you.

Answer 7

I had the same fear. You will be okay. You will receive all the necessary medical care.

Be sure to talk about your fear with the doc. You can receive medication to help with the pain even if you are being induced. Ask for demoral. Visserol doesn't help, so don't let them give you that.

I was induced. In labor for 12 hours total. They gave me a shot of visserol, didn't help and it bruised my rear. Then they gave me demoral. It helped. After about 8 hours, the doc broke my water and they started my epidural. It was all down hill from there.

I had a beautiful and healthy baby!

Answer 8

Don't let people tell you horror stories. It will just make you more anxious.

If you haven't, read some good birth books like The Birth Book by Dr. Sears of The Birth Partner by Simkin. The book Birthing from Within by England would be really good for calming your fears.

Try to relax. Get a massage to make you feel better and balance your body for labor.

You CAN do this! It's normal to feel a bit anxious or worried, especially if this is your first. Know that women have been doing this for centuries and your body was MADE for this!

Joyous birthing to you!

Answer 9

i am usually calm underpressure but when i knew it was soon to be time to have my baby i started getting so nervous i was getting sick to my stomach....i started having back labor a day and a half before i had my son so i guess i kinda just used to the pain when i actually started having contractions and going into labor.....im not going to lie...it hurts really bad but its no where near as bad as i thought it would be! i had my son vaginally but i did get an epidural (its worth it and it doesnt hurt the baby) my water broke at 1am and my contractions were 3 mins apart automatically...took a half hour to get to the hospital and by then they were twice as bad and a minute apart...as soon as i got there they hooked me up to the machine...within an hour they had an iv in me (to help ease the pain) within an hour and a half after that i had my epidural....if you get the epidural get as much rest as possible! i had no pain but i was too excited to sleep and when it came time to push i almost became too exhausted.....but anyways thats my labor story and i know everyones is different but if someone told me that it would ease my mind....my son is 8 months now and i am 21 weeks pregnant and i have absolutely no worries on the labor pains now....good luck and congrats!

Answer 10

i had natural childbirth with both kids. the night before the first one was born, i read a book about breathing for natural child birth. it was not bad at all. hospital labors, with all their interventions, cause problems and, often, lots of pain. you can do it.

then, remember, nurse your child for at least a year - WHO says at least two - and don't put the poor dear in day care. However it's born, day care is proven very very bad for babies. Using formula lowers IQ and using day care lowers IQ, attachment, physical and mental health, social skills, and family happiness.

The Labor is the easy part, honey. And yes, most women worry.