my mom caught my dad cheating early this morning. this isnt the first time she caught him but she wont leave him. he lies and she knows it but she stands by him they have been married 19 yrs and she is very dependent on him not with money but emotionally so what do i tell her when she wont leave.
2006-08-01 06:22:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go give her a hug and tell her you love her. That's is all you can do for her. Let her know that she's not alone, and she is loved. My daughter told me "that if you are staying with Daddy because of me and my brother don't" that helped...The main thing is she knows someone loves her. So, please give her a hug. Her heart is breaking..when a man cheats on his wife, it's makes you feel worthless, and unwanted. I was very dependent on my husband emotionally too, but she needs to know that she doesn't have to take this abuse. And it is abuse. If she stays, it's her choice, and there is nothing you can do about it, but keep on loving her. She needs to go to counseling, and get some help with her self-esteem. But, please go and give her a hug and remember to tell her you love her, and you will support whatever decision she comes too. It's got to hard on you too, knowing this and you could go with her to counseling also. You are having to deal with something you shouldn't have. But Mom is the one who has to decide what she needs to do, and you stand by her side....God bless us all..........
2006-08-01 06:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, how hard this must be for you! My parents divorced when I was 19 because of this. My mom just decided she'd had enough, when he started "dating" a girl who was younger than me--yeah, he was 39 and she was 18! Yuck!!
You obviously can't tell her to leave him--that is her decision. Do you think she could talk to a counselor or a minister or priest about it? She needs to become more independent, because he is clearly not there for her the way he should be. At the least, she should be insisting that they go to a marriage counselor and that he stop this, if he wants to stay. Tell her that it makes you feel like she thinks she doesn't deserve any better treatment, and that bothers you.
Have you talked to your dad at all? Does he know how angry you are at him for hurting your mother this way? I'd tell him, flat out, that he has destroyed your respect for him with his disrespect for your mom.
2006-08-01 13:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that is my mom caught my father to but when your in that situation you should try to sit down and talk to her about whats going ask her does she really want to go through all the pain all the time or you can even run him off because if she want let him go then he needs to "somehow'' get gone you know what I mean
2006-08-01 13:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋