My friend's whole family are drugatics and now she's smoking pot with her sister and her sister's boyfriend. She's younger than 15! My friends and i need to make her stop but she's pretty much just like 'Whatever' she's going to ruin her life and we need to stop it. Please help!!!!!!!
2006-08-01 06:00:08 · 49 answers · asked by MBB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is nothing you can do about it, usually people have to hit rock bottom or get arrested, before they see the light.
2006-08-01 06:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend like you are already and continuously remind her of the dangers of doing drugs. She probably has a very disfunctional family, so just keep showing her how she DOESN'T want her life to end up like theirs. Try to help her see that there's so much more to life than substance. You can't enjoy it as much if you're high. Suggest things to do with her to get her out of the house where these bad influences are all the time. It's a tough situation when your family does it...that's where she lives, so I'm sure she feels trapped and pressured into doing it. Children learn what they live, and if that's all she sees, she's gonna follow their footsteps. Shame on her parents, they definitely know better. But misery loves company, so they allow her to do the same things they choose so maybe they don't feel so guilty for doing it...they just let her join. There's no justification for them not being parents! They need to be reported.
2006-08-01 06:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can't come off like you are right now, you sound like you are trying to be her parents. Be a good friend, and don't boss her around. Simply tell her why she shouldn't be doing this, and end it there. Try to hang out with her a lot, and don't smoke with her, and if she does smoke you need to leave. Be an example, that is the best you can do. Be careful to not sound like you are smarter then her (even though you are obviously are), or talk down to her. If she is bound and determined to live her life like this, you need to move on. Don't stay involved for too long, because she could ruin your life as well.
2006-08-01 06:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by natex14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first chill out she's probly just trying to get attention and in a couple of months she'll stop. pot doesnt ruin anyones life and it doesnt make her a drugatic. if u dont want to be around that then dont. teenagers experment but more times than often its just a phase. bottom line is shes gonna do what she wants so you should really just be there for her and support her no matter what.
2006-08-01 06:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15, there's little you can do to help her. If you had proof that her parents were on drugs, you could report them to child protective services, and they might remove her from the home. But, you'd probably lose a friend, and I doubt her circumstances would be any better in foster care.
She's basically at the age where she'll make her own decisions. My advice is to stay away from her, since she's setting herself up for serious legal trouble. You don't want to be involved with that kind of mess. If she won't listen, then you can't help her, so you need to walk away.
2006-08-01 06:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you care about your friend so much. I wish all friends cared like this, but you can't make her change and its not your job to. You need to talk to an adult about this, like a teacher or your parents. I know thats not the answer you want, but they will know what to do, and how to help you make your friend see what a bad choice she is making.
Its going to be hard for her. Please don't get hooked up with her drug use, and it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and know that's not a good thing. You can be there for her, let her spend more time with you, and your family, if she needs to go to meeting like Ala-Teen, go with her as a support. Theres a lot you can do, but a grown up can help you with this a lot more.
2006-08-01 06:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interventions are always good and positive, but a lot of the times... those involved end up worse than what they actually are. It is only on those twisted talk shows (Maury comes to mind) where a happy ending always happens... unfortunately.. this never happens.
Express to your friend that you are concerned and ask her to stop ruining her life. That is all you can do. If she chooses to continue on the path she is going... that is her decision. She will have to suffer the consequences.
Your next step is to be her friend and support her decisions, regardless of how bad they are.
2006-08-01 06:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Marcus W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make her stop. Instead try to do different activities with her. Get her mind off of things, if she gets active into something, you can tell her that by smoking, she's loosing her chances at getting far in life. But when you have someone or people telling you that you shouldn't do this or shouldn't do that, ofcourse that person is going to go try it.
Dont give up on her...just keep her active, she's too young to be smoking period!
2006-08-01 06:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well weed isnt that bad for you a cigarett can be 10 times worse. If she isn't useing it to much it can't do mutch damage but if she is useing it every day and more than 3 times a day than she might be addicted to it. Just try and invite her to hang out with you but tell her that you don't like the weed around you so if she could leave it at home. Try and take her out of her house so she wont have to be in that invironment for to long, just make sure that you don't tell her its bad all the time just every now and then.
wish you luck
2006-08-01 06:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by audri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other people, go to social services! But you have to tell her straght up chick! And if she doesn't listen, she is NOT a true friend. You need to help her not ruin her life. Is her sister buying this crap for her? Or her sisters boyfriend?
I wish you guys the best!
-The Sacrament
2006-08-01 06:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drug addicts
is the correct term I think.
Its pot. Your parents did it, your grandparents did it.
Its natural.
Besides, you cant save people you know, they have to save themselves. I dont think smoking a joint will ruin her life. I have been smoking since I was 10 years old. I have a college degree an excellent job with the state and I live on my own and take care of my business.
Stop trippin
2006-08-01 06:05:47 · answer #11 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋