o.k. this is the thing i have a huge crush on this guy here at work, and yes we have been going out to lunch together and he has told me about his girl problems, so i get the hint that he is not interested in me. But how do I stop obsessing over this person? I am so confused i just want to let him go but i find it hard to just forget about him! I hate feelings :)
2006-08-01 05:37:59 · 9 answers · asked by Lucky J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If i were you, I would stop going out to lunch with him for some time because you're only hurting yourself. You can talk to him casually and say" Hey! how are things going?" But, give yourself some space because there are tons of fish out there in that big ocean and you're stressing yourself out over just one fish. He's just one person..... a crush is a crush... it does just that. If you're obsessing over this one person.... you need to figure out why you need to obsess over anyone. Start being obsessed with yourself....
2006-08-01 05:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by confused23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't gotten over him because you haven't chosen to. It's up to YOU to let go of it and move on. You can still be friends...you can still do lunch...but resign yourself to the fact that (at least right now) he's not available for dating...and he may never be if he doesn't see you as a potential dating partner...
Maybe you need to keep away from him for a while...avoid him at work, occupy yourself with other things...make up your mind that you've got to stop letting him rent space in your head...
Good luck!
2006-08-01 12:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to do besides think about him. Keep your mind occupied. Force him from your thoughts. But in truth, you allow your thoughts to drift to him. Simply make up your mind that you're not going to anymore. It really is that simple (okay, yes, been there done that. lol).
2006-08-01 12:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Time is the only thing that will help.Then you will find someone who will be obsessing over you.
Charlie
2006-08-01 12:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Charles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some one else to obsess over - its the only way im afraid
2006-08-01 12:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by mr_soapytitwank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might not get over him......find another to occupy ur time,it might help,how do u know he's not at all interested? he could be,wanting u to be jealous!
2006-08-01 12:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by dawnita0322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think you should first comfront him and find out if he feels more than friendship and then you make the decision of what you wanna do if he doesnt like you.
2006-08-01 12:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by theguru_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i do. find a picture of him. sit crosslegged in front of it. repeast to yourself i dont need him i dont need him i dont need him then viciously rip up the picture and flush it down the toilet.
2006-08-01 12:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait your turn
2006-08-01 12:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋