I need closure!?

Question

I need closure to a relationship but my ex refuses to talk to me long enough for me to say what I feel I need to say. Why is he being so diffcult?

Answer 1

Maybe because he is also hurting, this may be his own way of dealing with your split. Men do tend to bottle up and not talk about things as this is a self protection thing that helps them emotionally recover.

Give him time, I am sure he will talk about it when he's ready

You don't actually say why you split, so it is really difficult to speculate a real opinion on this

Answer 2

Sit down and write a letter. Place it in an envelope with only his address on it. Put a stamp on it and mail it to him. The reason he may be so difficult could be the circumstances surrounding your break-up. This may be the best way to go about getting your closure. The worst thing you could do is want a response from him after you send it. He may not be ready to give one and you may not like what he says. BUT as long as you put it down with paper and pen....then you've gotten it off your chest and out of your mind. Mail it and forget about it. Your closure will be the letter mail to him.

Answer 3

Either because he doesn't want to hear what you have to say, or he thinks that if he gives you the opportunity to speak to him, it will give you hope, and he doesn't want to string you along.
I wrote a letter, and included everything that I could remember from beginning to end. I sent it to him, and I don't care whether he read it or not.
Do you need him to acknowledge that you were not at fault?
Do you need him to admit that he's a jerk?
It ain't gonna happen. Write it all down in a letter, send it to him, and then never contact him again. As long as you continue to try to call him, he won't want to hear you. You need to figure out a way to know in your mind that you are a better, smarter person than you were, and it won't go down the same way again. Be right with yourself, you don't need him know anything more about you. You don't need him to approve your actions, or tell you that you're a good person. You need you to tell you that.
Hope you know what I mean.
Good luck

Answer 4

Because he can't deal with it either. Most people don't deal with pain of the heart very well. What I have done is sat down and gathered my thoughts and wrote them. Write until you feel as though your done. Say everything you need to say, write it all down and then give it him and walk away. Time does heal all wound my dear, your heart maybe broken but you'll be able to move on. He may never talk to you or get everything out, but that's something he needs to work on.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 5

If he wont talk to you. Chances are, your never gonna get closuer. Maybe you could try having a friend talk to him for you. Ive been waiting 4 years for the same thing. Dont expect any thing to come from it. After all, it is a guy your wanting it from right. You'll probably be waiting for a very long time.

Answer 6

No one wants to hear what a sh*t they are or have been; espceially a man. You may not get to do this face to face.
Sit down, write him a letter. Tear it up or burn it when you're finished. Seems kinda dumb but this will help close the issue, start the healing that will allow you to move on.

Much luck!

Answer 7

Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself. Write it down how you feel. Express it in another way. Move on and keep yourself busy.

Answer 8

You will find closure when your heart has had time to heal. Give him some space and let it alone for a while. Maybe....he's feeling just as hurt as you.

Answer 9

Write it in a letter and mail it. That's all the closure you need.

Answer 10

Because he already found his closure and doesn't want to reopen a can of worms.

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus...that whole concept.