He is in my thoughts, my dreams. I cannot stop thinking about him. We went out for a few months back in 1994. The last time I talked to him was in 2001. He is married, i am married and i named my son after him.
2006-08-01 05:04:59 · 40 answers · asked by Curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is your problem? Why did you name your child after him? You need to let go. You only dated for a few months and you are each married and have your own families. It was 12 years ago that you dated, you need to ask yoiurself, why are you holding onto something that you cannot have? Is that what it is?
Love your husband and your chilren, and more importantly, yourself and just let it all go, the past is the past, leave it there.
2006-08-01 05:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you name your son after an ex boyfriend??? That is weird. Also you may be thinking about him, because you feel like you have unfinished business maybe, but since it has be 12 years and it was only for a few months and you have both moved on, I would try to get him out of your thoughts, and be sure to not let him come into your marriage. You are probably wondering what if.... alot of people do it, but never let go of a good thing, a marriage and family, for a what if.... honestly if it only lasted a few months the first time, there is probably nothing there but empty hopes. let him go and you will be much happier!
2006-08-01 05:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First love memories lasts forever. He is what we all call "the one that got away". What happen to you and your ex till you did not end up married to eah other?
Sometimes when things between the two of you were left unspoken and it will remain unresolved. Until you find a way how to resolve what was left open, your ex will always bug you in your mind.
You have to be fair to your spouse too. Are you happy with your spouse? This could also be the reason why you think of your ex.
You named your son after your ex. It means somewhere somehow you still have love for your ex. If you loved your husband you would have named after your husband. Right?
Ask your heart who are you really in love with. From there love will find a way...
Good luck.
2006-08-01 05:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by shida2606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have serious issues if you named your child after an ex from over a decade ago. You only went out for a few months? Do you think this is rational behavior? Did it end badly? Did you get closure? Sometimes people need closure in order to move on with their lives. You can't give yourself fully to your husband when you have these feelings. It isn't fair to him either that you are still hung up on a guy you dated for such a short time.
2006-08-01 05:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I dreamed about an ex-girlfriend for over two years. Pretty soon some of the dreams were about the dreams. I once dreamed that I met her at a dance and she told me that those dreams were more than just dreams, and I spent the rest of that dream trying to find her among the people to get her to explain.
As for your situation, maybe you secretly enjoy having an imaginary ex that you can't get rid of (though you be happily married).
2006-08-01 05:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam married and my ex (my first love) still crosses my mind from time to time. I think the difference is that you allow yourself to dwell on him, instead of living in the present with your husband and family.
You named your child after him, what a horrible dishonor to your husband, and child. Thats really sad that they have to live with your past just because you cant let it go.
You should seriously move on, youre missing out on the enjoyable parts of your life because you're too busy trying to stay with a man who doesnt exist anymore.
From experience i can promise you that the person you dated 12 years ago is not the same person you'd meet today if you saw him again. People change, just as much as you've changed. Youre still in love with the idea of a person. But that person exists in 1994, and you're missing out on life because of an ideal you have, and you're family has to suffer it because they dont have your full attention.
move on.
2006-08-01 05:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are unresolved issue with him. You will have to find out what those issues are; did he fill a need in you that you cannot fill now? what is it that he gave you that you cannot find in your husband?
I guess it was like me, I had a wonderful girl back in the day, I messed it up big time, I cannot stop thinking of her. I tried to figure out why I could not stop thinking about her. I though it was to say that I was sorry and ask for forgiveness, but it was more than that. I did not want forgiveness, Cause I did not deserve her forgiveness and I will not forgive myself and a simple apology will not undo my mistakes.
I guess my issue is that we shared something special - I ruined it. I just need to know that she is happy and that my screw up did not affect her life in any negitive way. Once I know this i can get on with my life.
Hope you can find out what you need to get on with your life. I hope you will not let your past affect your present (husband and kids). Just spend some time finding out what you need from your x-bf.
Hope it helps
2006-08-01 05:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by smartypantsmbcanada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I'm a 49 year old male and I can't get over my high school sweetheart! I dumped her with no explanation just because I was so screwed up in the head at that time living in a violent alcoholic family and I wound up joining the Marines one day and was gone a week later. Ever since I regretted it. I knew she truly loved me and I never felt the same about anyone else.
2006-08-01 05:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gregg J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...except I didn't name my son after the guy. Try to find some closure. I can't the guy that is constantly on my mind is in jail. Although the problem is getting better for me, because I don't see him everyday like I used to. He going to be in jail for like 20 years, so I'm hoping I'll find some closure sooner or later. Good Luck
2006-08-01 05:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your thinking about him that much then maybe your not "happily" married. I think that on the inside there is something missing from your marriage that was fulfilled with your ex. Like they say "if you love someone let them go and if they come back to you it was meant to be." Your not being fair to your husband if your always thinking about another man.
2006-08-01 05:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋