Should I tell him that I love him? He is my best friend. And I don't want to ruin our friendshp. Will telling him the truth about my feelings, ruin our friendship? Answer please...
2006-08-01 05:04:42 · 17 answers · asked by tesciowa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
telling him the truth will change the relationship, certainly. it all depends on if he loves you back. once you tell him, you can never take it back. what you have to decide is if you want to risk the relationship you already have. who knows, he may love you and be feeling the same thing you are...or he could just like being your best friend. if you tell him and he just likes being friends, your relatonship whould be akward forever. it all depends on him, really. you know him, so you have to gage it for yourself. if it were me, i would let him find out on his own. if it is true love, he will eventually find out, and it won't be akward. i wouldn't tell him. it could mess everything up. i hope it all works out for the best. God bless. :)
2006-08-01 05:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him. He might feel the same, even if he doesn't if he is a true friend he will be understanding and prepared to not let it ruin your friendship. I loved my best friend and told her, she's now my girlfriend of 2 years.
2006-08-01 12:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation before, but it was a little different because I knew he loved me back. If you don't go for it one day you'll really regret it and always wonder what could have happened. If he doesen't feel the same way, it may be awkward for a little while, but chances are, it won't ruin your friendship.
2006-08-01 12:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by shelleybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him, and he doesn't feel the same way, it won't ruin your friendship, but it will change your relationship. If he does feel the same way, you should discuss whether you're both willing to risk taking this so the next level and whether if you stop being romantically involved if you can still remain friends.
2006-08-01 12:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's a tough question to answer. i've been in this very predictament. my best advice is to talk to him. if you don't it might get tough to be around him. i hope your relationship with him is secure enough that he will be open and honest with you if he doesn't feel the same. my male friend and i remained friends be we didn't want to ruin what we had. it hurt for awhile but eventually i fell in love with someone else and got married. i've seen my friend now and then and we still have a spot for each other in our hearts. trust your instincts
2006-08-01 12:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to talk to him, prepare him for what your about to tell him and explain that whatever happens you will respect his decision and don't want to ruin the friendship. Then just tell him how you feel.
2006-08-01 12:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get drunk and tell him, maybe he'll ask you about it the next day and see if you really mean it, thats what happened with my girlfriend lol, just kind of tell him that yeah you really care about him and that you might be falling for him...if he feels the same way then great, if not then it won't ruin your friendship
2006-08-01 12:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell sometimes it is best to tell the truth and get it over with before it eats at you.You have to be friends before you can be lovers this way atleast you will already know eachother.
2006-08-01 12:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not necessarily. If he's your best friend like you say he will listen. Take what you have to say into heart, and you guy's should still be friends no matter the out come
2006-08-01 12:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old he is and you are. If you're both 14, it won't work. If you're both 30, maybe it will. Ultimately, are either/both of you in a place where this can/should move upward?
2006-08-01 12:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋