couple of months ago my husband bumped into a girl he new a few years ago that used to date one of his friends. since then he has been going round there doing odd jobs for her. i recently found out he has been going round there without me knowing, and also lying about where he has been . he has said it is all innocent and thinks i am now some kind of weirdo for thinking otherwise. help.
2006-08-01 05:03:48 · 23 answers · asked by kayfromcov 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is tracey d a psychic??? yes he did say this. and no i haven't met her. apparently she's scared of me. (he he)
2006-08-01 05:14:26 · update #1
if he's lying hes lying... i bet he even said he didn't tell you because this is how he knew you'd react... mirorr him love.. he'll hate it...
2006-08-01 05:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 4⤋
If it IS innocent he would not lie to you about it.
Tell him you have a problem with it. Look in the phone book and get three numbers for some local handyman/lawn service/whatever 'odd jobs' he says he is doing for her. Tell him to call her (while you are there with him) and let her know he won't be able to do anything else for her as he has a family and his own responsibilities to attend to. Have him give her the three numbers of the service(s) you found.
Tell him you don't expect him to contact her any longer.
...you are NOT being a weirdo...he has no responsibility to any other woman except you! She, obviously, has survived without him in the past and I am certain she can continue.
2006-08-01 12:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by intheholycity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is inappropriate and he knows that. Would he be okay with you doing the same thing? NO!. Him trying to make you feel insecure about your feeling is reverse psychology. You have to stand strong in your feelings and don't allow him or anyone else to sway you either way. You know what he is doing is wrong and disrespectful and he knows it too. Do not tolerate that. Also remember a man can't take his own medicine so maybe you should suddenly bump into and old MALE friend and start spending time with him and see if he likes it. Even if you don't really do it, I would make him think I am. If he wants to play games show him you are better at it. Go out with the girls and make him think it's that old friend you told him you ran into week prior. Set it up so it sounds real. But I would not allow him to get away with seeing that woman. NO WAY!
2006-08-01 12:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Smooda 1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact he's lying means something is up...but that just might mean he's having fun being friends with someone he used to know. And YES....he might not have told you because you are the petty jealous type.
Odd jobs...what is odd jobs? If he is working, what is the problem? Or is he doing things for free?
I would talk to him about the lying, and give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves otherwise.
2006-08-01 12:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he ISN'T lying is IF he's a person that just loves working, and enjoys doing odd jobs all the time. Does he cut the neighbor's lawn, do repair etc. for retirees? Does he need to be nagged to do work around your home? If this is a new thing, then YES, he's cheating
2006-08-01 13:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Odd Jobs" my butt. he's $crewing her, as sure as the sun rises in the east. Even if he's not having sex with her, the fact that he goes around there w/o your knowledge, and lies about where he has been IS a form of infidelity....He's devoting time and attention to someone else when it should be directed to YOU. Take it from someone with experience in the matter, when a guy goes out of his way to tell you that a friendship with another female is "innocent" , it usually isn't. Instead of putting up with this, make like a tree and LEAVE!!
2006-08-01 12:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there's nothing "going on," he wouldn't have to lie about going over there, or try to sneak over there without you knowing. Unless you are one of those women who jump to conclusions too fast, or hassle your husband with 20 questions every time you talk to him, I would be concerned, BUT, if you ARE one of those women....maybe he just didn't want you to know because he knows what you would think. Are you normally trusting? Do you accuse him or question him a lot? You have to also look at your own normal behavior with this type of situation. Maybe he was just trying to save the fight, or maybe he was really hiding something. I know that doesn't help...just trying to play "devil's advocate," because I catch myself being that way sometimes, and realize how silly I am being.
2006-08-01 12:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband & I got married, he had a customer (he's a mechanic) that would only deal with him & when I found out that she left a naked picture of herself on the console for him to see when he got in her car to test drive it, S*** "hit the fan", then she had the balls to call & ask him to give her a jump (she broke down) & asked if he could come pick her up-I DON'T THINK SO-I let her know about it & then I laid into him about how inapropriate the 2 of them were-her for what she was doing & him for "allowing it". He said he didn't think anything of it, but she obviously did. Maybe you should explain to him that he might not be interested in her, but she is in him & by him going over there, it's putting off mix messages. Maybe he lies about it b/c he knows you are uncomfortable with the situatuation- I would let him know how it makes you feel & if it comes down to it, let her know too.
2006-08-01 12:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam not one of those women who tell their husband where they can go and who they can hang out with. BUT if i ever thought my husband was doing anything like this i would probely become one of those women. If something wasnt going on why would he lie about where he is going and be at her house all the time?
2006-08-01 12:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by leanna0263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Tell him to mow his own lawn and hands off the ex. I think he's a weirdo for thinking it could possibly be ok to LIE to you about being with another woman.
2006-08-01 12:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to nip that in the bud, by him lying to you his intentions are not as good as he putting on to be. My dad was doing the same thing with his best friend's ex-wife..doing odd jobs and helping her with this and that .....come to find out they were having sex for years....and she would actually come by our house every so often....tell him to either man-up and cut her loose or you cut him loose....your not crazy just smart!!!
2006-08-01 12:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by PLAYA 4REAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋