Would you guys please give me a really good reason why as a teen (10-15) You "need" to date?

Question

I don't understand this "need" you kids have. Why do you think you need to grow up so fast? Can't you just enjoy being a kid? Trust me being an adult is way over rated! You kids don't have a care in the world. All you need to be concered about is school & getting good grades.

What is wrong with being 16 to date? At 12-15 you don't need to date. I am just trying to find out if there is a good reason why you kids are needing a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Thanks,
Jennifer
Graduated in the class of 1992.
Didn't have my first date until 25.

Answer 1

My question exactly. I turned 16 last year and only wnt on my first real date a month ago. if i was to go on that date a year or two earlier it wouldnt have been so special as it is now.

Answer 2

i'm not a kid anymore, but i still remember what it was like and i think kids shouls be able to date...to an extent.

once they hit high school i think dating is fine. until high school group dates are a better idea.

dating is a vital part of "growing up". it helps kids learn social skills and learn about other personalities that exist out there.

dating helped me feel more comfortable in business environments.
i am always calm, cool and collected on first dates and that is tough to do when you are really into this person and your nerves are jumping around. ever see someone all klutzy and awkward on a date?? well, if you have enough dates you learn how to hold yourself in any situation.

so, my main reason for why it's a good idea for kids to date....
-it allows them to make embarassing mistakes and grow into their individual social self, which in the future, helps with any social situation, such as business meetings, interviews, etc.

take care and just remember that what was right for you may not always be right for the rest of the world...so, step outside your own box sometimes and you might see a whole different perspective!

Answer 3

Okay, here are several things I want to say:

1. Don't generalize- it's terrible to do so without even having all of the sources of everyone's decisions- there are others like you is what I'm trying to say.

2. Most date out of, sadly enough, peer pressure. It's like society made it so that you HAVE to have your kiss at this age, have your first boyfriend at that age, have your "first time" for... etc. It's just many feel forced by friends, society... while some other intelligent ones ignore it and stay at their own pace.

3. Some, like me, also/or feel the need to explore this new feeling and emotion "love". We want to truly find it all out, experience it, feel it, have it... besides, can we really question nature? It's natural with our hormones! There are just some that are more effected than others. And there are different natures... I happen to be quite romantic while others will get in touch with their romantic side until a certain age.

4. For different people it can mean different things; for some "security", for others "experiencing/exploring", others "entertainment" (to relieve boredom)... it's endless!

5. Times have changed. My mother had her first real kiss at sixteen. I think it's great! So many do it earlier now and they're probably not nearly as ready as my mother was. Heck, some are probably not even ready at sixteen! Depends on maturity... but anyway, like I said, everyone seems to be forced to grow up right away now. And most kids fall for it! Even I did. But I learned by myself that later is definately better. Why do those things now and stop dreaming when I have a lifetime to do so?

Thank you for reading... :)

Answer 4

Ok do you understand the need to walk before you run and crawl before you walk.

Ie 10 is too young but more 13,14, 15 is for rookie stuff, the basics of handling crushes and feeling and growing up to the point where at 16 you have a fair idea what you are doing and won't end up the clueless nurd nobody wants to be with. More important for guys then girls and girls are real fussy.

Nurdiy kids who nobody wants to date end up cutting and burning themselves, needing expensive therapy, trying to kill themselves, doing school shootings, getting into drnk and rugs to mask the pain, end up in vicious circles of can't get a girlfriends ans can't get a date, can't get a date as needy and clueless so stay that way whilst others move on ending up hurt and miserable...

Girls have it easy as need to put in less effort and just look pretty.

Your kids will grow up... far better gradually and at home then waiting till 18 with the proverbial throw them over board 1 mile out to see saying your a grown up now, do what you want you are on your own approach.

Different people mature at different rates...


And around 14 the holding hands first kiss thing can be fantasic. leaving later for more serious things when you have the basics on entering high school...


This is the time to lack confidence, be awkard, clumsey, clueless, make a complete idiot of yourself, Practice and get the hang of it so by high school age you are not a social moron.

As said this is more 14-15 or at most 13 on what could be best described as trainee first dates which need to be specail but with lots of parent rules... With close parental involvement to make sure things dont go too far.

On entering college in the uk at 16 (Sort of a more open high school in the uk not like uni from age 16 on... All the girls had boyfriends, many going steady, and as the age of consent in the uk is 16 many were active at this time. This would mean to be able to compete you would have had to ge tthe first date, asking out confidence, handling dumping, crying, basic tie your shoe laces and have built up your confidence stuff first so ready for that stage stuff done. Then you can compete.

Or end up the lonly hurt no mates one having to be surrounded by all else dating and seeing those you love end up with others better then you as started early person.


Which ends up the lonly hurt one in 20s and beyond...no life

Answer 5

I'm with you on that. I didn't date in high school either because my parents didn't see the need for it. I had a few "friend" dates after high school but didn't have my first serious boyfriend until 20. Met my husband at 23 and married at 27. I now have four children and a very busy, exhausting life with absolutely no time to myself. I love my life, but definitely look back on my youth as carefree, even with all the rules and boundaries my parents had established. Looking back I now understand that they were forcing me to enjoy my childhood, not ruining it.

Class of 1988

Answer 6

Wow. you had your 1st date at 25?! 10-13 year olds shouldn't date but (take it from teenagers) if you're NOT ALLOWED to date until later in your teen life, it makes you want to do it more and be more sneeky about it. Because you DO and WILL have feelings for people of the opposite sex and you'll want to date but you just won't tell your parents.

Answer 7

Yeah,I dont date now,(14),because I have too much going on,and right now all the younger guys really want is sex.I' not willing to give them that so,I m waiting for a while.

Answer 8

No, Jennifer, there's not a reason why we "need" to date, we just like to. So why don't you leave us the hell alone and start caring about something that actually matters?

Answer 9

i think after elementry
you change like when you get around 7th grade
because everyone in middle school gets more mature and you dont want to be the kid that aint mature and act like a little kid
i think its ok
by the way iam 15 so

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Answer 10

with the food now a days kids are growing up faster but for some kids it's probably cz teythink then they are cool.