I have a very good friend that I believe is drinking (alcohol) way too much. I am very worried for them and their health. I'm determined to tell them. Not sure which approach to use though.
2006-08-01 05:00:56 · 18 answers · asked by xxx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All you can do is be honest. Start out by saying "You know how much I appreciate your friendship. I think you're a smart, intelligent, and beautiful person... but I wouldn't be your best friend if I didn't come out and tell you that I'm worried about you. I'm wondering if there is a problem your trying to deal that I can help you with because I see you drinking way too much these days (maybe throw in an example). Then just wait for his/her reaction. If the drinking continues to escalate and your friend doesn't want your help, then it's time for you to cut the ties. Alcoholism is a terrible disease... don't get caught up in it. Take care. The world needs more friends like you!
2006-08-01 05:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
be straight with them b/c in the long run it will cause a problem. tell them about there liver how the alcohol is eating away at it, about their family/friends how it is effected the thing he or she does. offer help, they might have problems that you don't know about.
i have a friend that drinks everyday and a lot and i tell him all the time. well i use to he is married with a kid and one on the way if he is not stop drinking for his wife he won't for anyone im afraid he'll stop when he indangers his family.
2006-08-01 12:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be really carefull how u deal with this because your friend will not agree with u at first and it might be hard to get your point across. You should start the conversation something like this "Yu know I really love you and care about you and I respect your judgement but I think you may have a serious problem..." It might take a while for them to actually get it but just keep trying!!
2006-08-01 12:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also I have a friend that drinks alot and I simply let him know of the things that he is missing out from drinking. I tell him that we don't share as much time together as friends anymore and that I feel bad for that. As it turns out, he does anderstand and would like to hang around more than to stay home and drink...
2006-08-01 12:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by chuy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend when tell another friend theat she believes their is a problem . Why do they drink? Is it just to have fun? Or is it some underlying reasons. It's hard to get people to admit to a drinking problem. Maybe you should call AA and get some brochures on alcholism. They may give useful info on how to broach the subject to your friends. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-08-01 12:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by GERRI B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently talk and express your concern. Moderation is better and less calories too. And driving while drinking is a very bad and dangerous idea! Do you know the Mom of your friend? All three could talk unless he or she would feel threatened by that.
2006-08-01 12:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know you've noticed how much they are drinking, and you are concerned. Then go from there...it's normal for a friend to care about such things...hopefully they will look at their behavior and see about handling their issues on a more healthy way...
Good luck...
2006-08-01 12:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you're concerned and maybe there is a reason why they are drinking. Or start doing activities where they dont drink and see what their reaction is.
2006-08-01 12:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are a good friend they will listen / try to find as much literature info about alcohol abuse and present it to them. Good luck!
2006-08-01 12:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur a true friend, u should express ur concern, just come clean with them.
2006-08-01 12:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by bobemac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋