i am only 17 years old and was pregnant about 3 months ago i had a miscarriage at 7 weeks ...i started taking birth control after that and i am pregnant now i was suppose to get my period the 15 of july ...i took a test it said positive ......i havent told anyone yet but i need to tell my boyfriend but im scared of how he'll act last time i was pregnant he told me i needed to get an abortion but im not doing it ...what should i do
2006-08-01 04:49:36 · 20 answers · asked by desire h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i we've been together 4 almost 3 years
2006-08-01 04:58:59 · update #1
i can handle the responsibility i just dont know when i should tell him
2006-08-01 05:01:12 · update #2
i wouldnt get an abortion....and im not an irresponsible little girl u are think of im allready graduated im an nurse aide right now .....and i dont live with my parents i dont know where my dad is and my mom is a drunk and a crack head barely know them......i live with my boyfriends parents now and i move into my own apartment august 12 i just worried about when i tell him i dont want to be so stressed out i was last time i was pregnant
2006-08-01 05:08:07 · update #3
Children learn what they live. Your Dad disappeared, and so will the father of this child. You'll have a bastard child, and will go on welfare, quit your job and start drinking. Nothing is different between you and your parents. You're following the same path. This poor child doesn't have a prayer. Hopefully the good Lord will take this one home as he did the first..
2006-08-01 05:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell a parent or trusted adult that you're pregnant so that you can be seen by an OB/GYN. Make sure you're healthy and the baby is healthy before you tackle issues with your boyfriend. He does need to be told about his impending fatherhood eventually, but he has no business at all telling you to get an abortion. If he doesn't want the child, he can sign away his parental rights once the baby is born. That's all in the future, though. He might see the child and change his whole outlook. He might not. For now, concentrate on taking care of yourself and, to the best you're able, enjoy the pregnancy. Whether you keep your child or offer him/her for adoption, you'll feel better about your decision knowing you started from day one loving and caring for this child.
2006-08-01 04:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by lotsayorks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 16 when i was pregnant, it was very scary. However, you two are adult enough to have sex, i think he should be adult enough to sit down and talk it out with you. It is your body, if you don't want an abortion- he can't make you. You have options besides abortion. There is having the baby and own up to your responsibility wheather he will or not, and there is adoption. Do you have a job, can you take care of the baby? There are parenting classes, books, info on interenet that can help you. You can always make him pay child support. What ever happens i hope you have family and friends to help if he is not willing to. GOOD LUCK with whatever you decide.
2006-08-01 05:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!thats like killing another life. if you cannot keep the baby give it up for adoption there are plenty of people who cannot get pregnant and want children of their own.
If you keep the baby then great just make sure you have someone to help you along the way. Tell your boyfriend don't be scared he caused it to happen. you cannot do that all by yourself. If he doesn't stay with you then you deffinately should have better. someone who will understand and help take care of the child if you were to keep it.
A baby is a miracle of life.
Enjoy pregnancy. and good luck.
hope that helped alittle bit.
2006-08-01 04:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you worry about how to tell your boyfriend, let's be sure you actually are pregnant. You said that you've taken a test but have you been to the doctor for one or was it a home test? If you haven't been to the doctor, make sure you go because their tests are much more accurate. Taking hormones (like birth control) can interfere with home pregnancy tests and give you a false positive. If you don't feel comfortable going to your family doctor (or don't have one) Planned Parenthood is a great resource to help you confirm your pregnancy. They can also advise you as to ways to give the news to your family and boyfriend.
The main thing is to be sure that you're pregnant before you start trying to make decisions. If you need help with all of this (and who could blame you) try talking to your family (or a trusted adult if you feel you can't do that). You need support during a stressful time like this to help you make the right decisions for you.
2006-08-01 05:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by jetbaby_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what it is best for YOU. I know it easy for me as a stranger to say that, but the truth is that you have been put into this situation as consequence of you having sex....so now it is time to face some hard dilemas. IF you want to keep that baby then you do so..... it is easy for a guy to demand that you go get an abortion becasue they are not the ones going trough it....it is not the guys choice...he is the one that keeps getting you pregnant I would expect a little more support ya know? So my advice to you is to follow your heart and your mind and do what is going to be the best FOR you and the baby
good luck.
2006-08-01 04:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop having sex with you. what a jerk. you need to leave this retard. I mean, if he is that insensitive about the matter, you don't need him in your life. Really.
I can somewhat understand his point. Ya'll are very young to be having a child right now. But I would not want to abort my baby. Don't allow him to force you to do so. If he leaves u for the choice you made, you know the kind of man he is. Tell your parents. let them know. I know it won't be easy. but it's better to have someone by your side than not. You need all the support you can get right now. Good luck and God Bless
2006-08-01 04:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray! Have your boyfriend help with the responsibility and use a condom. If he doesn't want kids, he shouldn't even be having sex! Please check with your Doctor and you want to be sure you are healthy. My daughter was advised to not get pregnant after her miscarriage for at least 6 months. She was further along, but I would think it would still be a concern for you. If you are sure he wouldn't want you to have this baby, why are you with him? I'm not judging, I had my first baby when I was 17, almost 28 years ago. If you need to talk, I'm here!
2006-08-01 05:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Cheri E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! Everything will be alright. You have to tell him, if he gets al crazy and wants you to have an aborption you are better off with out him anyway. Aborption is murder, and if he wants to kill his own flesh and blood ....YOU DON'T NEED HIM!! Keep your head up high, get your education , get child support from the father and just go on with your life!! I was pregnant at 17 also and had my baby. It's not all that bad, it is difficult but you can do it. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-01 04:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by AMY P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex, you are toooo young and obviously cannot handle the responsibility.
Be a big girl (old enough to have sex) and tell your boyfriend. He will hate you (because he is immature too) and more importantly TELL YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!!!! At 17 years old your parents are all that should matter to you. Your bf does not love you if he tells you to have abortions and makes you afraid to talk to him. Dump his sorry butt and develop a relationship with your family and raise that baby!!!!
2006-08-01 04:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋