I have a beautiful, faithful 30-something year old wife. We are both white. Recently at a wedding, I was having a temporary knee problem so i agreed to allow my wife to dance with anyone she wished at the reception. I'm not the jeolous type. Later, she came to me and whispered, "You're gonna get lucky tonight, mister." She explained that a handsome black guy had pressed against her while dancing and, let's just say she was impressed. He told her, "I'm so embarressed that I'm rock hard. Please don't walk away and allow everyone to see", so she kept dancing, obviously turned on. She was honest. So I wouldn't get upset, she stayed close to me the rest of the night. We had amazing sex that night. A week later, she asked me if she could have a black stripper for her birthday. She said that she just realized at the wedding what a turn on seeing a large black dick would be. She said that she only wanted this one fantasy and would never ask for another. Should I let her have one wish?
2006-08-01 04:48:00 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hell yeah! I think strippers can be a tremendous addition to a relationship! Give your wife the black stripper in exchange for two Philippinas and a Thai. You guys are gonna have a blast!
2006-08-01 04:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have an extremely Strong relationship that has never ever had any problems, then I would say yes, as long as she allows you the same! But I would make sure that you had talked about it first and also, just think how much it will be when the stripper leaves! Also if you have any reservations about it, I would not do it! It is a personal decision that you need to discuss with your wife!
Some woman just wonder about what a black man is like if they have never been with one, I know that I do!
2006-08-01 04:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous situation bud. If you let her, it might encourage her to want even more. If you don't she might go find it on her own anyway because the idea is already in her head that she wants to play with one. I can't give you any advice either way, other than be careful and keep the open honest communications going with her. Best case scenario, she truly will be satisfied to see one one time. Do yourself a favor and be there when she has her stripper so you can gauge how much trouble you are in.
2006-08-01 04:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, I wouldn't let my wife do that. I'd explain to her why and how that would make me feel.
Because obviously you're having doubts about it yourself. The doubt in your mind is there for a reason. So listen to it.
Your wife should respect you thoughts on this matter and not make a big deal out of it.
By what you've written, if she has this stripper, there's gonna be a huge gap build up.
Talk to her about what is exactly on your mind and she should understand and do her best not to let any situation like that slip in and destroy something beautiful that you two have no matter how small or big it is......
2006-08-01 04:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by GDK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always just a 'just this one time' or 'curious' or whatever. Trust me, if you want to DESTROY your marriage, allow each other to have sex with other people. Trust me, it's not a good idea.
Sometimes fantasties should remain just that: FANTASIES.
Tell her you're not comfortable with the idea of her having special liaisons with another person and you're afraid it might damage your relationship. She'll probably argue that it won't because she loves you and nothing will harm your marraige but it's just because it's something she wants, she'll automatically fight for what she wants.
Be firm but understanding and explain to her that it should rather remain a fantasy.
It was VERY inappropriate for that guy to have an erection for whatever reason in the first place - he obviously doesn't know how to redirect his thoughts. I'd love to give him a piece of my mind if I knew where to find him. He's created a potential problem in/threat to your marriage.
Again, don't be silly, DON'T ALLOW IT.
2006-08-01 04:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jesi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, lets put it this way,
If she was the one to have knee problem, let u to dance anyone u like (I still dont understand why u let her ) and U picked a hot hot blonde 90-60-90.. Turned u on... U had great sex with ur wife that night and asked for a blonde,siliconised, hot stripper for your birthday would she let u.. If she could, I can only say "why r u married at all?"
2006-08-01 04:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Remzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that your wife is more than a little curious about "Black Men" and that you are in a little bit of precarious problem... If you let her do this, will it be the end of it and curiousity satisfied or is this just the beginning..Will her next question be.."Let me have sex with a Black Man just once and I will never ask again?"
But....If you don't let her, will she do it on her own without consulting you and being honest with you..
You have to decide what"You" want...You know your wife and how far she will take this and we don't...Follow your heart and mind....
2006-08-01 04:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by ND M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally be very upset that my spouse allowed another man to use her as a scratching post for his erection on the dance floor. Meanwhile I am sitting there temporarily handicap. But hey, that is just my opinion. I guess if you trust her that much and you are ok with it then why not. Each to their own. I have friends that are swingers. I have learned that as long as both partners are comfortable with something then it is ok. If you are not comfortable with it, on the other hand, then I would say no.
2006-08-01 04:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'd get a stripper for her, but you could indulge her in some porn featuring black men.
It's up to you, if this is something that will make you jealous, uncomfortable or feel inadequate, don't do something that might damage your marriage. And a stripper might be one step away from her seeking out the real thing...
2006-08-01 04:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You are at a reception, she is dancing with a guy who gets wood, continues to dance with him and you have no problem with that. You have a problem sparky.
Now it is a stripper.
What will your answer be when she wants a threesome and you are left out in the cold?
If she were my woman, makes no diff black white or what ever, she would be gone and NOW!
2006-08-01 05:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋