My husband got caught cheating on me (emotional - just what he was telling her didn't see them in bed) But pretty much the same thing in my eyes. I have told him I want a divorce, he will not leave me alone and accept it. This isn't the first time that we have dealt w the situation. What can I do to get it through his head it is Actually Over this time?
2006-08-01 04:44:28 · 9 answers · asked by Mygirlsmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Instead of talking the talk you have to walk the walk.
2006-08-01 04:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If kids are involved see a counselor, by yourself and as a couple.
For the kids sake divorce truly screws things up. Financial divorce is devastating. Divorce should be considered when this person shows a long term propensity to cheating and lying.
Once busted some guys see the error of their ways and get remorseful. If you've got any inkling you can make it worth don't give up. No one ever said a marriage wasn't work. I've been married and divorce and remarried (the same woman).. I was emotionally distant. It takes effort on my part to connect with her. She got involved in a relationship (at first platonic) toward the end of our first period of marriage. We've since worked on many areas of our lives and have been remarried for a few years. It's still an effort.
If it's over for sure in your mind, see a lawyer and file the papers.
In my opinion divorce in the US culture is too easy of an out for people. It destroys more then most people realize when they do it. Our children's lives are torn apart, family budgets get pulled apart and it seems many never recover financially..
We are still paying off debt that were acrued during our separation period. I tell people to truly think through the long term "What ifs"
2006-08-01 05:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If telling him don't work show him. Get a job [if you don't have one] find a place to live and move. Wait 3 months to make darn sure it is over, file for divorce. Tell him you need the time to make sure that is what you want, also tell him it would be best if he didn't contact you because of the emotional strain it would cause. Play nice if that don't work get mean.
2006-08-01 04:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a mistake, and now knows what he's loseing. It's his problem now not yours. Get the divorce preceedings started, and stay away from him. Don't accept phone calls, or anything else for that matter. Let him deal with his own mistakes. If necessary put a restraining order on him, then he has no choice, but to leave you alone or go to jail. You can discuss this with your attorney, and he can advise you how to go about it... GOODLUCK!!!
2006-08-01 04:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt have a choice to say no. Dont tell him you "want" a divorce, tell him you're getting a divorce. Stand up for yourself. He does not have an option. You need to move out and file. End of story.
2006-08-01 04:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already move out and not to your friends or relatives house. Move where he can't get a hold of you. Then give it time to blow over. If you are absolutely sure, then start divorce proceedings. Take care and good luck..
2006-08-01 04:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Move out. In either order.
2006-08-01 04:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer and get them to send him a date for divorce proceedings to begin. That'll get his attention.
2006-08-01 04:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him served with divorce paper that should do it.
2006-08-01 04:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by nomad_of_gor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋