okay my boyfriend lives with his sister, and like 2 weeks ago his sister's lights were gonna get cut off abd he asked me can i loan her money to pay for it and she would pay me back. so i said okay...the day i was suspose to give her the money she said she didnt need it cause he boyfriend took care of it that morning. so now my boyfriend calls me last night askin me can i let her borrow money so her lights dont get cut off their gonna cut them off tomorrow, and im like she told me her boyfriend took care of that so why is her lights gonna get cut off still. i dont feel as though i should be the one paying for other peoples bills. i have my own debt im trying to get out of which will take me years to do. at first i said i would but now i have something else to pay for thats way more important then whats goin on over at her house. should i feel bad.
2006-08-01 04:39:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im trying to move and im saving money to move and this would mean i would have to go into my moving money to keep her lights on and she only gets paid on the 6th and 21st of every month. i dont feel as though i should come out my pocket because her boyfriend did something with the bill money and now they about to be without lights. everytime i loan money out means it takes me longer to save money and longer to get into my own place.
2006-08-01 04:42:47 · update #1
Don't feel bad at all and don't pay other peoples bills when you need the money yourself. I found that out the hard way. You are really sweet for wanting to help but you have to take care of yourself first.
2006-08-01 04:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I do when people ask me for favors, 1) what is the history of returning money and so forth and 2) would they do it for me? A guy at work told me tha the needed 20 dollars to get some groceries and would repay me in a week. I told him I would see how much I made and let him know if I could ( I am a server). I asked around about what kind of person he is and everyone said that he is greedy, selfish and ungrateful, so no way did I let him borrow the money--I have two kids and diapers to buy!!! My family comes first every time. Good luck.
2006-08-01 04:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no. Why is her lights going to be cut off? Does she work? Does she blow her money on things she does not need? It is not your responsibility to take care of this person. Yeah, it's okay to help someone out especially when you know they will repay you. No you shouldn't feel bad. She could get the money from family or your boyfriend. Why doesn't he help? He lives with her. If your not careful, you will be used and the main one may be your boyfriend.
2006-08-01 04:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not pay her bills ( you have your own )
You should not feel bad, it is your mony and you have the right to decide how to spend it.
No body has the right to blame you on that.
Go ahead with your own plans
2006-08-01 04:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by boiling boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋