From the invites, to the favors, to the food and music...everything was like deja-vu...she and her groom even danced to the same song as my husband and I. Should I be insulted or flattered? I'm befuddled at the moment, I've been left feeling awkward, and I don't want my best friend to pick up on that....
2006-08-01 04:27:42 · 24 answers · asked by Bite Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
*Also, I offered to lend her my Veil and Tiara, (because she's me best friend, I wanted to extend a gracious gesture, cuz I love her...) When her mom caught wind of that, her mother asked, (in the midst of my best friend trying on her wedding dress at the boutique) if she could borrow my Hoop-skirt as well...personally, I'm not on for lending out undergarments, best friend or not...Her mom saw it as a way to save a buck, I found it tacky. (yeah, i lent it to her though) Her mother was the biggest obstacle during all the planning...she was living vicariously thru her daughter because she didn't have a wedding of her own, and it ended up like my wedding!
2006-08-01 05:01:00 · update #1
If you don't discuss this with your "best friend," it's always going to linger in the back of your mind. Have lunch together sometime, and casually mention (in a joking manner) that you were surprised at how much her wedding resembled yours. Let her know you're not mad, but it has been bothering you and you just wanted to know why she did it. Quite honestly, if she really is your best friend she would have cleared this with you BEFORE the wedding plans were finalized.
2006-08-01 04:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Personally I wouldn't think anything about it. Its less work to copy someone else. That is the purest example of those who are leaders and those who are not. Also those who copy the creativity of others are insecure and afraid of criticism. So as long as your wedding came out well, she probably figured that this is how a wedding is "supposed" to be done.
You will find that in this world there are people who are only capable of thinking in terms of what is in style and what other people do. But they have never been challenged to think in terms of what they personally like or what they personally want to do.
When I painted my house in a particular color scheme, two of my other neighbors did the exact same color combination. The following year I did something different and sure enough those two neighbors followed suit.
2006-08-01 11:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does her copy wedding change how special your wedding was or the relationship to the man you love? No! 90% of the weddings in the world have been done already. Wedding traditions are from a century of weddings. Everyone wants to be original but we keep copying one another because of a pattern which society molds us to follow. Originality comes from with in. Live, Love, Be Happy!
2006-08-01 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by The Gibb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be upset. You should feel complimented...even if she went a little overboard....she was copying you because she liked your wedding so much..also maybe she is more of a follower...maybe she didn't know what to do for her wedding and thought it would be easier to do something that she already knew she liked... If you are really upset about it...talk to her. Tell her how you feel and tell her that you realize why she probably did it but that is made you a little upset...but you want to continue to be her best friend. Don't let that come between you two. Good luck!
2006-08-01 11:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by se 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel flattered. If my best friend copied my wedding we would giggle together through the whole thing. Also might save her some money if I had anything left she could use in her wedding.
I love my best friend.....how about you? and no we arent kids. we have been best friends for 30 years. Only thing we dont share is husbands. m
2006-08-01 11:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am absolutely speechless. did she actually think you werent going to notice that? i guess not. either she is absolutely stupid or pretty smart. i'm going to go with stupid though. i would sit her down and ask her what was going through her mind when she decided all of this. because wedding decisions are not the kind that are put off to the last minute. she had been thinking about this for awhile. she never mentioned any of her plans with you? that's just weird. i dont know...i would ask her about it and then go from there. if you dont talk to her, it's gonna be in the back of your mind forever and one day yall will get into it about something not even related and you are gonna say something hurtful about it because you havent gotten it off of your chest. avoid that one and talk to her.
2006-08-01 11:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming she enjoyed your wedding so much and saw how happy you were that she wanted to recreate it for herself. But, she should have consulted with you before planning everything. It just looks so unoriginal, especially if she had some of the same guests from your wedding.
2006-08-01 11:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by hockeyxgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be flattered,cuz when someones copy what u do.they look up
to you like role model.dont insult her.be happy that ur ideas
work for you and your were the first.anyone after you is a
replica,copy a fake. you are the original!.be happy with the copycats!..lol
2006-08-01 11:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by Novato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose to be flattered. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
2006-08-01 11:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be neither insulted or flattered. Your friend is a douche bag with NO creativity. I hate people that copy me. I suggest you act cautiously around her, and DON'T reveal any good ideas! She is going to steal it!
2006-08-01 11:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋