heartbroken and need help?

Question

ive asked this 3x...ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?

Answer 1

You just have to let go, i know its hard but that's the only thing to do. Have you ever heard the saying "Love is only half the battle"? He may love you, and you love him, but it takes more than that to keep a relationship alive and healthy. I don't know what to say about this girl he is dating now, she may be a rebound or it may be someone that he really feels he has a connection with, only he knows. As for school starting, keep your friends close to you, they will cheer you up when you start to feel blue. Don't pay attention to him, you never know, he could just have this girl to make you jealous. You need to get out and do something other than sit around and think about this guy, remember there are lots of other guys out there! Keep your head up and stay strong!

Answer 2

I know how hard it is to break up with someone you care about, especially someone you were with for a long time.

No matter how it feels, you can go on with your life. This guy doesn't deserve you if he's going to just throw you away like that. Do not expect him to ever call and apologize. Most likely he doesn't think he did anything wrong. If you don't want to talk to him until they break up, then don't. Avoid him, ignore him.

Here's the big part though.. While you may have made some progress, you probably have not made as much as you think you have. Clearly you are still very focused on this relationship and how you feel now and how you used to feel. If you had made a lot of progress, you really wouldn't need answers, because you wouldn't care about it anymore. That may sound cold and whatnot, but it's the truth.

Look, don't fool yourself into thinking that he will come back, or that "if I would have only..." or any of that trash.. You are wasting your energy on a dead relationship. Keep yourself occupied, meet some new friends and spend a lot of time with them. Pour yourself into a hobby. It will be extremely difficult at first, but it becomes easier. Breaking up is never an easy part of life, but if you force yourself to not dwell on it, and force yourself to continue living.. you'll be happy again before you know it, and wondering why this jerk that just dumped you was able to make you feel so bad in the first place!

Good luck to you. I know it hurts now, but it will be better soon enough.

Answer 3

I think his relationship is not an "on the rebound" type of thing. This girl lives 3 hours away so he must really be interested in her. He's moved on and you obviously haven't and that's understandable because it's always harder to move on anytime it's the other person who ends the relationship.

You need to spend less time alone because that give your mind time to wonder and think about him. Become more involved with your friends and family. When you go back to school, just keep it casual. Don't go out of your way to bump into him in the halls. If you see him and feel like smiling do so but keep it at that. If you see him and don't care to even look at him, then don't. Give it time and your heart will heal.

Answer 4

Yes this relationship is a rebound. No, he will not call and apologize. You are young and immature, and no man at 17 wants to apologize, NOR do they want to be tied down.

Yes this hurts, and it won't be the last time a man hurts you and lets you down. You need to get over it. and you will over time. You will find someone better, but ONLY if you can let HIM GO. He has let you go adn HE HAS moved on, you need to try to do the same.

The best way to do this - GET INVOLVED in things at school to keep you BUSY, and to let you meet OTHER cute guys, there are plenty of them if you open your eyes and look around. But staying busy will help get your mind off him. Play sports, join the debate club, the drama club, volunteer in the community for a charity of your choice - WHATEVER. Just get out there and work on building a BETTER you, and stop thinking about him.

This is high school and boys can be really insensitive. Hold your head up high, stop thinking about HIM and move on. If you need therapy, by all means talk to your counselor at school.

You are not alone in this - we have all gone through it, and I hate to tell you, you will go through it again and it gets harder as you get older. But in time it will pass.

Answer 5

Oh my gosh! You are so young and you are wasting your time over a typical young guy who has moved on. Honey, don't be mad, he is young and playing the field. Do like he has done, get over it and move on. You don't have to move on by dating another guy, hang out with your girls, have fun shopping, going to the movies, socializing, living your life to the fullest. This is a fun time of your life, don't ruin it by being depressed over an ex. When you see him at school, speak and keep walking. Do not show him that he has affected you in any way. Don't worry about it girl, you are just wasting your time! If he decides to call you, don't answer. I'm not saying for you to play any childish games with this guy, but I think you should just move on. If you accept him in your life again, he will just play you, again. Believe me, he is not the last fella on earth. You will meet many more guys and then you will look back on this situation and have a good laugh!

Answer 6

If you are crying over some guy, then it is not good. In your life many guys will come and go and that doesn't mean you have to cry over all of them. Just take this as a test, a test to determine your inner- strength. If you see your ex in your school, just think of him as a stranger and act like you don't know him. On the other hand, if you are longing to talk to him, just talk to him casually, just as a friend. Hope this helps. By the way, I am very sorry for what has happened. I know it hurts very badly.

Answer 7

This too shall pass. Hun, don't wait for him to apologize. Don't wait for answers that won't come. He was probably your first love, and he will be in your heart forever. You must move on though. You will find with time, the hurt will fade, and hopefully you will be able to hang on to some happy memories. Take it from an old girl you will be alright. Involve yourself with some other activities, enjoy yourself. Don't let him see you dwelling on what was. Live for what is to come. Good luck and smile.

Answer 8

He obviously broke up with you so he could date this other girl if it was only two weeks before they hooked up. He's an ***. Forget him and move on. There are so many other men out there. When you're in high school I know it feels like your whole world has been destroyed when somebody does this to you, but trust me. You can do better.

Answer 9

you have seperation anxiety. it sounds like a rebound relationship for him. you're only upset because you don't have you're own rebound. whatever you do don't go crawling back. that gives him all the power. and he'll play you for all it's worth. if it's over then it's over. watch a sad movie, eat some ice cream, whatever it takes to get over him. but move on with your life. he obviously did. the last thing you want to do is let him think you're desperate.

Answer 10

Just walk away, stop the torture of yourself easy to say but it's the only way you can start your life.

Pining over him won't win him back, if that's what you want. Just walk away and if he likes you he will come chasing you, if he no longer wants you he wont but at least you can then find someone else and be happy again!