Bachelor Parties Help I Need Mature Answers?

Question

What exactly goes on at bachelor parties and has anyone actually cheated on there bride to be due to the fact they were so drunk they werent thinking straight and if so did you still get married. My fiance wants to go to Vegas he is a great guy and has never cheated on me but Im paranoid because his friends are whore dogs and all cheat on there wives and girlfriends!!!

Those of you responded maturily thank you so much the rest thanks for upsetting me even worse this is a serious matter to me, I wont to know what goes on before I walk down that aisle with him !!!

Answer 1

I do understand your concern. A long time ago, a woman I loved very much cheated on me during a trip to Cozumel with her girlfriends. They were all drinking and dancing and they picked up guys and encouraged her to do the same. You'd think that at least one of her "friends" would have said to her, "What about your relationship?"

If he really wants to go to Vegas with his friends, you're just going to have to sit down with him and tell him what you're worried about.

You know what to say. You love him. He's your man and you're his woman. You can't wait to start your married life together. You're proud of him and happy to be with him.

Then tell him straight out that you are afraid that his friends will think it's funny to put him in a situation where he will do something he'll regret later. (By the way, social groups seek conformity so if this is what they are really like, they might well do it so that he'll be just like them.) Then say, "Let's not wreck our marriage before it even starts." Ask him to make it clear to his friends that he doesn't ever want to cheat on you. And, that he wants them to make sure he doesn't do anything he'll regret later.

BTW, I read a couple of the answers above and really liked two of the suggestions: 1) avoid a private strip show (a.k.a hooker) and 2) send your brother on the trip.

This is difficult territory for you I'm sure. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I dont think the problem comes from too much drinking. A guys friends could be your worst enemy. They seem to push and push when a guy doesn't want to do anything. I wouldn't be ok with Vegas. I say the days of doing things like that with his friends should have ended when you guys made a commitment. I know they say you must trust but there are millions of trusting people being cheated on every minute. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I would be worried if I were you. I mean, it is one thing to have a bachelor party and have a couple of strippers over to symbolize that it is the last time you are single, but it is another thing to go to Vegas where prostitution is all but legal. The fact that he is going with friends that are unfaithful is not very reassuring either, but the fact remains: unless he tells you or you catch him red handed, you will never completely KNOW that he cheated on you. Maybe you should start to question the trust for him that you have, if you are worried then there are trust issues that need to be addressed before you take the plunge with this guy. These trust issues are little now, but will grow into monsters unless you take care of them. By trust I mean that you have to trust him completely, with or without his friends there. Just remember: all men are as different as women are different. Just because 5 men cheat, doesnt meant that yours will.

Answer 4

You are right to be concerned. I feel the same way. I think the whole premise is barbaric and extremely disrespectful to the concept of marriage. Not to mention the disrespect to the bride. Is she so awful that he needs to celebrate before his "death sentence"? If she is... then why would he marry her? If she's great, then there's nothing to celebrate.

Regarding his friends that cheat... that doesn't necessarily mean he will cheat. But as they say, "birds of a feather, flock together". A man with strong morals would not have much in common (and therefore would not be close friends) with men who cheat.

That said, I think it's great for him to get together with the guys for camaraderie and good times. They can do that locally, without strippers, drunkenness and undignified behavior.

Answer 5

Oh, jeez... I never got the point of bachelor parties... the fact that it's in Las Vegas would have me concerned, unless that's where you live. Las Vegas is well known for its... well, let's just say it wouldn't be the first place God would visit were he to go sight-seeing in the U.S. Is being single something really something to celebrate? If they're trying to send a message in that "Oh, now you can't have fun with other women, so have fun now!", or even "Well, let's do everything NOW that would later get you divorced", then it'd make a lot more sense to celebrate all that the night before you two started dating. But even then, if it's really such a tie-down to be married, then why get married? Obviously it's because he loves you, and wants to be bound with you, sharing your lives for the rest of their duration. He shouldn't be marrying you for any other reason. And in my opinion, if that's really how he feels about it, he should be LOOKING FORWARD to being "bound" to a wife. Not missing the "single days".

Okay, done ranting. Anyway, I can't say I've ever been to a bachelor party. Note opinion above. But, from what I've heard from friends, TV, rumors, etc., I'd say to be sure to talk to him about it. Were I in control of the world, I wouldn't let him go in your shoes, but that's between you and him. Let him know how much it means to you that he remains faithful to you, and explain that there's a difference between lust without love, and pleasure with love. Love makes any physical intimacy worth so much more.

Answer 6

It all comes down to how much you trust your man. I would suggest you both go to Vegas. you have your bachelorette and he has his bachelor party. At the end of the night when its all over and he's all horny and crap then you'll be there and he has no reason to even think about screwing someone else. BTW that's what me and mt fiance are doing. But we are getting married in Vegas so maybe its different.

Answer 7

Tell him you would rather him GO to a strip club then hire a stripper. Strip clubs do not allow you to touch the dancers especially in Vegas (unless he can afford the Ultimate VIP room). If you hire a private stripper most dont come with body guards to protect the girls and they can be paid to do just about anything. Trust me. If you're guy is gonna cheat he will at anytime. Its not like this is gonna be the only time he will be drunk and around girls.

Answer 8

Don't let him do it. I was in the military for 9 years and heard so many stories. They guys thought of me as one of the guys so they told me too much. Yes many of them did cheat at bachelor parties, including my ex, someone who I did not think capable of such a thing. If he goes to vegas, he's just asking for a lay.

Answer 9

"He is a great guy", your words if you are sure enough to marry the man then you better be sure enough to trust him in Vegas with his "whore dog" friends. If you don't trust him then you might want to reconsider the wedding. Don't start out a marriage not trusting.

Answer 10

Well, that's easy. Do you trust him? If you can't trust him to go off to Vegas with his friends and not cheat then why are you marrying him? You can't marry someone if you don't trust them 100%, if you tell him you can't go you're telling him that you don't trust him, that's a really big downward spiral from there.